I'm 13 and all of my friends always have a crush on a boy and end up going out with him. I have only had two boyfriends, and they both were just using me. How do I get boys to like me? Should I act more girly girl, because I'm one of the biggest tom boys ever? 10 points to anyone that helps me the most!!!
2007-07-09 08:55:38 · 35 answers · asked by tabby (: 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First rule:
Don't be desperate, it is not attractive.
The fact that you're a tomboy may be a part of it, but you don't necessarily have to start acting more girly. That's not you, right? It won't be too much fun. Besides, most guys don't like girls who are high maintenance. You could just simply spend more time on your hair or something or put on a bit of mascara, that makes a large difference. Flirt a bit with a boy, and see his reaction. If he resists and does not flirt back, then you'll know whether to stop or not.
You are also very young. Girls and boys around that age are still growing emotionally, and hardly realize what they want at that age. When you're older, guys will be a little more mature and will want to go out with you for who you are. So don't change for anybody, you'll just regret it because you're not going to end up truly happy.
You'll find somebody, don't worry hon! You've got plenty of time ahead of you.
2007-07-09 09:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never Change Just For A Boy .I Never Had A Proper Boyfriend Till I Was Like 15 Or Summit.Just Dont Be Shy And Talk To Him Alot And Smile At Him
2007-07-09 09:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. I know it sounds really cliche, but if you try and be someone else, the boy will not like the REAL you, and it probably won't last. If you want to make the change for yourself, not just for a boy, start small. Maybe wear a skirt or a little makeup, to help make the boys notice you more. Then get into a conversation with them, and let them see the real you. Don't ever change for anybody!
2007-07-09 08:59:08 · answer #3 · answered by Amie T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do hun dont put on a fake face. Someday a boy will turn up that really likes you for you. Im almost16 - i've only ever had one boyfriend (when i was like 10).
I'm looking for something serious - i dont want to be used - I want someone that likes me for who i truly am.
It is very possible loads of guys like you! I suggest that you make the first move if they cant! Stuff tradition and go for it!
But if there isnt anyone you like - dont try to make them like you - it will only end in tears hun
Make friends with them get to know them first - if you do then go out together - maybe something will come out of it!
Hope I helped you hun! Please dont make yourself someone your not! Good luck!
x Kat x
2007-07-09 09:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some guys feel uncomfortable with tom boys because they feel like there one of the guys so you can try to be more girly
2007-07-09 08:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by Ben 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to change? So that you can attract more boys? There's no need to change yourself physically or psychologically, so take it easy. You're only 13 years old, and if you change something, it won't last ... it's only a certain amount of time, and the only time you should change for someone is if its effecting you and the people around you, but aside of that ... you're good and you shouldn't change.
2007-07-09 08:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by EL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i'm suer you're really pretty. And yea, its probably because of your tom-boyish. Boys are perverts and like when girls wear skirts. I'm 13 years old too, and I just dress myself. I'm not a tom boy or a girly girl. But boys don't only liek girls for their looks, they like them for their personality. Boys like when girls are funny, and make them laugh, atleast thats what my best friend tells me, who is also a boy. Just be yourself actually, you could try dressing girlier, but if it makes you feel uncomfortable, just be you. Make the boys laugh. Knock it out of the park.
2007-07-09 09:00:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are they using you for? you're 13.
i'm sure the guys who you attract with 'a girly girl' act are not going to be the ones that you want to hang out with anyways.
just be yourself, and wait until you and your friends start going to parties and drinking, that's when things really get interesting.
2007-07-09 08:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow guys are so immature...i know how u feel. Well im just gonna say don't go out with a guy that u really don't like just to have a bf. Be urself, guys like tom boys...just don't wear guy clothing and make sure to wear make up
2007-07-09 09:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by =] 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont change yourself just to make a guy like you...iive felt that way before b ecause i was sort of a tomboy too, to tell you the truth the guys that liked me bck then as a tomboy liked me for me but ever since i changed myself which was in 12th grade and now im 21 guys like me for all the wrong reasons and most tend to try to use me ...so please be true to yourself
2007-07-09 08:59:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋