one of my best friends is gettin married....i have known this guy for around 5 years and we are pretty good friends...im participating in the wedding...im dreading it! i feel extremely uncomfortable being around alot of people....it makes me physically sick...i hate all the girls that are going to be in the wedding on the brides side and i know i will hate participating in this event..i would love nothing more than to not b in this wedding...please give me advice im so worried about it!
2007-07-09 08:52:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If the wedding is not too close be honest with your friend about how you uncomfortable public events makes you. He will most likely understand and wouldnt want to make you do something you dont want to do. If the wedding is fast approaching then it would be pretyt rude to back out, just try and relax, concentrate on soemthing to keep your mind off the wedding while its going on. No one will be paying attention to you, there focus will be on the bride and groom and after if you feel you need to distance yourself then Im sure no one will think twice about it. Good luck.
2007-07-09 09:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were this bride, i might cry. if my very close friend did not want to be in my wedding because she did not like the other girls and/or she hated being around a lot of people, i might cry AND puke.
you are her very close friend and you can not suck it up for a few hours? you are not going to be the center of attention that day, it is the bride. it's not like giving a speech during class. and if you feel that crummy, what will happen when you get married? maybe this could be like a practice run on getting use to people.
i suppose i am lucky that my friends get along. but a person has lots of friends in life and some are very different than others. unless one of these girls ran your mother over with a car, stole your boyfriend, or told the world you have an STD, i would give over it and plaster a REAL happy smile on my face, not fake.
if you feel that your attitude will ruin your day, i suggest you not be bridesmaid. i would say i am not comfy standing up in front of all those people, is there anything i can do that would be just as important because i really want to help on your special day. expect a sad face and her saying she will get back to you.
sorry to sound so harsh, just got my wisdom teeth out and i was told to keep awake. but please, consider your friendship in this decision.
2007-07-09 17:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by Christina V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's bothering you - then do your friend and the rest of the wedding party a favor - back out. I understand you're nervous around people, but you're sounding pretty selfish right now. Being asked to be in someone's wedding party is an HONOR, and nothing more. And who the hell cares if you don't like the bridesmaids? Did anyone tell you you had to marry them? Come on now, stop being so negative! Either cut the crap, grow up, and be in your buddy's wedding, or come up with a good reason to back out without making yourself look like an idiot and hurting his feelings.
2007-07-09 16:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by Starry Eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your going to feel that bad, you should try to get out of it because the LAST thing you want to do is ruin your friends big day... but personally I think suck it up and be in it, its an honor to be asked to be apart of a wedding, there is nothing to dread..... I think you should be there to support your friend, and try to make nice and be friends with whoever you can... try not to just be negative... give it a try and if things don't get better soon, then let him know how your feeling and I am sure he will understand....
2007-07-09 16:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by totallylovableandinlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in a wedding is fun. Just do it for your friend. It's really not that hard.
In addition, I think you are being really immature. I mean what grown adult says, " I hate all the girls that are going." Sounds like you're going to a high school dance.
Just suck it up, if the role was reversed would you want your friend there.
2007-07-09 15:56:53 · answer #5 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have accepted if you weren't comfortable, but it would be rude to back out now IMO. Just try and remember that you're doing this for him because he's such a good friend, and it's obviously important to him that you be there on this special day. It's only one day, it won't be bad. Just keep a positive outlook. The better your attitude, the better things seem!
2007-07-09 15:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked a very good friend of mine and her husband to be in my wedding and they both decided that they didn't want to. She said that I was having enough couples stand up and instead of standing up, they are giving me the money they would have spent on the bridesmaid dress and tux to use towards the wedding. I would offer that to your friend. Tell him how uncomfortable you are in crowds, and offer to use that money you would already spend on something else. I'm sure he will be fine with it. Good luck!!
2007-07-09 16:17:28 · answer #7 · answered by nichole9719 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him. tell him that you are just not going to be able to be in the wedding but would still like to go to the wedding.
explain why. i'm sure if you are good friends that he will understand your reasons and should be sympathetic to you.
i would rather you be at than in if it makes you feel that poorly.
2007-07-09 16:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by nataliexoxo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you don't want to be in the wedding. Your negative attitude is going to ruin the day for them and it's best you not be there if you can't be happy about it.
2007-07-09 15:56:06 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The best advice would be to change your attitude. If you go into this thing positive you're going to hate it, you won't be satisfied with any other outcome.
2007-07-09 15:59:53 · answer #10 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋