The only close enough friend i have is my fiance's ex girlfriend.. or i have my little sister who is going to be 14.. I dont know what to do! please if you have any ideas send them..
2007-07-09 08:52:03 · 11 answers · asked by blondenbeautiful515 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We're having a very small "wedding party" if that's even what we can call it! LOL
My 12 yr old daughter is walking me down the isle, my best friend of 11 yrs is standing up for me, and my fiance's mother is standing up for him since his father has recently passed.
It's really not a MUST to have anybody to be honest. It's all about what you feel comfortable with doing and should you decide to do it, who would you be most honored to have in your wedding.
(Do you think that your fiance would want his X in the wedding? That's sort of an "awkward" situation isn't it? LOL)
2007-07-09 08:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow your still friends with your Fiance ex?? That is interesting... I think that if you have good friends, or cousings or your sister you should put them in there, also remember even though its your bridesmaids, there is NO rule that you can't put someon girl from his side in your wedding, maybe he has a close cousing, or sister or some girl he would like in the wedding... 14 is old enough for your sister to be a Bridesmaid thought, or at least a junior bridesmaid...
2007-07-09 16:05:21 · answer #2 · answered by totallylovableandinlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is what do you want?
Will having future hubby's ex in the wedding make anyone (you, him, her) uncomfortable? If so, then maybe ask her to do a reading, or help with the guestbook.
Do you want your sister in the wedding? She could be a jr bridesmaid.
You can have 2 bridesmaids if you want. You could have just one. Or you could go solo and have no bridesmaids. The only thing that might be a challenge with that is normally a bridesmaid will hold your bouquet while you're saying your vows and such. But then, someone in the front row (maybe mom) could do that for you. So, my advice is do what you want. Think of how the wedding will be with each one, or without them as a bridesmaid.
2007-07-09 15:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by Christa H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it really all depends on how you feel. When I got married I originally picked out 3 of of cousins and 3 of my close friends. Then as it got closer to the wedding 2 of of the girls (the ones who I thought were my very close friends) bailed on me. Then one of my cousins could not participate because of her pregnancy. I ended up having just my maid of honor (my cousin) and two bridesmaids (one cousin and one friend).
Anyway here is my advice. Only choose people who you are sure you really want to be in your wedding. people you love and trust. You are going to keep the memories and pictures forever and you don't want to think back...or look back and see someone who you no longer speak with. Also you don't want to get your feelings hurt (like I did) and have people bail on you.
Only you know who you really love enough to share your special day with. Even though your sister is young, she can still be a bridesmaid. Or if you don't want any bridesmaids at all - its your wedding and that is your choice. I would not recommend the Ex though.
I wish you a wonderful and happy marriage . Being a newlywed is so great !!!!
2007-07-09 16:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you should ask your sister. She will always be your sister and you might find that it causes some strain in the family if you don't. I didn't want my sister to be maid of honor and instead chose my best friend. It is your wedding. Don't rush the decision.
Think about it for a long time. I picked one of my friends to be a bridesmaid--that I'd been friends with for 10 yrs, even though we weren't super close best friends. She backed out on me a couple months later. Don't rush to feel obligated to pick someone but think about it for a long time. 10 years from now when I look back on these pictures--am I going to be happy with who I picked or am I gonna wish she was photoshopped outta there?
Family is always best, but if you are close to your fiance's ex girlfriend and he is ok with it--why not? But if you only want one, I'd pick your sister and have her be MOH and not have any additional attendents.
2007-07-09 16:06:13 · answer #5 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your fiance and his ex have any ill-will towards each other anymore? If not, and if he's okay with her being in the wedding party, ask her! My cousin was the MOH for her ex's sister about 4 or 5 years after they'd broken up. She had just remained really close with his family. Do you have a cousin you're close with who you could ask? Or, do you have a guy friend you're very close to? (Two of my brother's four groomsmen are actually girls.) If not, and if you decide not to ask your bf's ex, I'm sure your sister would be delighted to be in the wedding party!
2007-07-09 18:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by tink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same when I started plannning mine. What I did was choose someone to be my maid of honor. In my case my Aunt. Then tell anyone close to you that you have chosen to not have bridesmaids. Everyone understands. Then your fiance can pick a Best Man and you will still have 2 people standing up there with you.
2007-07-09 15:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by mommyoftwo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi. These are always tough decisions. If you want bridesmaids, then it would be fine to ask your younger sister to be a bridesmaid and if you are VERY CLOSE to your fiance's ex-girlfriend...and there are no lingering feelings on his or her part...then go ahead and ask her to be in your bridal party.
Many blessings & Best Wishes; Patti
2007-07-09 15:56:31 · answer #8 · answered by Patti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have anyone that you feel would be appropriate, then don't. If she really means a lot to you (your fiance's ex gf) then ask her, I am sure she would be honored. Don't feel obligated to do things any certain way. This is your choice and you should do whatever you are most comfortable with! Congratulations on your engagement and I wish you two a lifetime of love =)
2007-07-09 15:55:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your'e little sister can be a junior bridesmaid. They make dresses for them, and I'm sure your sister will love the honor more than anyone else!!!
2007-07-09 15:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by Candi is Dandy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋