I'm madly in love with this guy who also likes another girl. He says he likes both of us and is pretty confused. What should I do?
I love him and I'm hurt. Should I keep going and fight for the guy I love, or should I just walk away...?
2007-07-09 08:44:55 · 22 answers · asked by Lilly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It will be painful but the best thing to do is to walk away. In all actuality, even if he does choose you over the other girl, he will never be as happy with you as you may be with him, and after a while you will be able to sense this energy and it will only bring you down as well. There is obviously something that you lack or that he lacks within which forces him to seek love from more than one source. Just walk away, that is the ultimate sign of love, and if he really wants you, he'll be back...
2007-07-09 08:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your guy has the benefit of having his cake and eating it too right now... I have a feeling that if you leave him be to a certain extent, do things that make him wonder "why's she acting strangely", and otherwise act less interested in him than his other girl, that he'll be more likely to come to you. Kind of putting into action that saying of "absence makes the heart grow fonder." You have to make him feel like if he goes to this other girl, he's going to lose you. If you keep at it like you are and you "win," you'll have your guy... But you'll also have a guy who started your relationship dating two girls, a dangerous precedent. You deserve a guy who will want to be with you and you alone, and if making him understand that he'll lose you if he's not with you and you alone is the only way to make that happen, then do it.
Now that said, I hate games and as a guy, I can't believe I'm advocating this, but guys need to know where girls are at sometimes. If he chooses her then you can make him realize that it was a mistake if you want to, but chances are he just needs to know that you're better than she is because you're not going to get involved in this two-girl game he's playing. take back control over the relationship.
I'm sorry you're in this situation but trust me, you're not alone, plenty of people end up split between the person they love and the understanding that they deserve better than someone who won't commit. Isn't that the main issue?
2007-07-09 08:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you say "my guy likes another girl too" do you mean that you two are going out??? If yes then don't worry about it because he chose to be with you other than her, but if you two are just friends then you have some serious competition. Fight for the guy if you love him! Good luck! =)
2007-07-09 08:49:58 · answer #3 · answered by Cooℓ Smιℓεys :D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well usually i would say fight for him because that is what i would have done before i became the woman i am today! i have been there where u r right now n i lost i even had a kid with him so i figured i would fight for wuts mine n i lost so now i would say walk away a guy likes a chalenge n if he sees you are not interested in him anymore he will wonder y n try to get u back instead of u trying to keep him!
2007-07-09 08:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is worth the fight then go for it. But accept his decision if he chooses the other girl. maybe give him some space. I've been in a very simular position and it all ended in tears so be careful. Don't let him keep you hanging for long as the longer he gives you hope the more heartbreaking it will be for you if he chooses the other girl.
2007-07-09 08:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mr looking for answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a player to me. He may think he is being honorable but it really sounds like he is playing the both of you and trying to discover how far he can go with this immature game.
What are you fighting for? You fight for someone who really loves you, not someone who can't decide if they love you more. He doesn't deserve either of you.
2007-07-09 08:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by Melly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurt is natural but the reality is "you cant make someone like you anymore than their heart feels". Its a loosing battle that your fighting so if he cant make up his mind who he wants to be with make it up for him and get the heck away from him. You shouldnt have to fight for any man's affection.
2007-07-09 08:48:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truely love him go for him. Spend time with him as much as possible so he can see a ur most favorable personality traits and fall more in love with you rather then the other girl.
2007-07-09 08:47:55 · answer #8 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fight for your love, but dont be second place or a rebound.
Say something like: "[his name]....My feelings for you are very strong, and i want to fight for you - but i can't wait around because you like another girl. I'm here right now and i love you, i really want you to decide."
2007-07-09 08:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cant have you both.
You need to sit down and talk to him sort the problem out. Think your thoughts and feelings through. Do you really truly love him? Does he truly love you?
Kat
2007-07-09 08:51:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋