I went to my great grandma's funeral a few days ago, and ever since then I have been so scared that someone that I love is gonna die. I don't want to leave home because something could happen while I am gone...am I just being a baby or what? I have never felt this way before..I am 19 years old...so I shouldnt be afraid to leave..help me please!
2007-07-09 08:34:05 · 17 answers · asked by ♥Jara-Lee♥ 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Everyone reacts differently to grief. Some people don't begin to grieve until years later after the event. The difficulty you are facing is more or less a normal part of the grieving process. It is absolutely necessary that you take the important steps to take yourself through a healthy grieving process. This will only begin when you sit down with a qualified therapist and talk about your feelings. This is not something that you can hold inside. You must talk about your feelings with a professional and about your fear of losing someone else. This type of fear can hold you prisoner for a very long time if you don't address it now. best wishes
2007-07-09 09:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yours is a fairly common response to the first time death of a close one, and is experienced when young. It is part of the realization of mortality. And it has come to you at a very tender age. what is important to realize along with the fact of mortality is that each day is precious. No one has any guarantee for tomorrow, so don't waste the precious day you have by fearing what might or might not happen. Fear does you no good, and it ruins what might otherwise be a really great day. Accept that you are mortal, that every human being on the planet will one day die, and therefore make the absolute most of today that you can. You CAN choose to ignore the fear and get about the business of existing, or you can accept it as normal (which it is)and start LIVING each day to it's fullest.
2007-07-09 15:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are suffering from anxiety ... and if this 'continues' for three more weeks, you'll need to seek a 'mental health evaluation' and may be given 'anti-anxiety drugs' until you are 'better' ... but this is also a 'situational' illness, and you are NOT 'insane' or 'going crazy' ... what you are feeling is just a 'hair off' of normal grieving ... if you were afraid that YOU were going to die, I'd say to go see a mental health practitioner NOW, because that would be 'temporarily crazy' and could be 'insane' if not treated immediately. You are in an intense period of grief, and 'staying home' and pulling in on yourself is actually 'normal' for right after you've lost a grandparent. Your 'worry' about losing someone else is what makes this 'anxiety' but even THAT should be JUST BECAUSE you are 'missing your great grandma' now.
2007-07-09 15:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you, you are just very hurt due to your grandma's loss. I am very sorry, but sadly all of us go thru this sooner or later.
Please, try to relax and understand that what you are doing is not healthy for you, if you don't stop it now, it will become stronger and stronger and then you'll be in a lot of trouble emotionally. Think about Grandma, she'll be very sad and disappointed to know that she's the cause of this, and worse out of her control. Don't do this, be strong, breath, think and go out, think about other things, enjoy, study, concentrate in other things. Don't be weak and let this take over you. Remember Grandma with love, she's watching you always. Don't disappoint her.
2007-07-14 12:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are having a very normal reaction. Years ago my baby died and after that I wouldn't let my other kids or husband leave the house. I had to get counseling and that helped. Just know there is nothing wrong with you. I think counseling is a good idea. Also, talk to a trusted friend and/or family member. Maybe someone from church.
I am truly sorry for your loss.
2007-07-16 05:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by Ophelia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your first major loss, you will have alot of unfamiliar emotions. Life is fragile and short, but not scary. Live life cautiously, but live life. You are not being a baby, you are emotional and grieving. Time will help. I lost my grandmother when I was 18 - I got the call on the way to see her for a final goodbye. It was very hard to deal with the sadness of the loss and the guilt over not being there when she passed. It was a tough and confusing time, but I got through it. Hopefully, you have someone in your family to lean on. Everyone in your family is probably just as upset, just dealing with it differently. I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-07-17 03:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I have a daughter a little older than U and me and her just went through the same thing after going to her cousins funeral , it made us feel bad because we was so worried about losing someone else that we felt like we was not sad enough about his death, but It is completely normal for death to scare U, be strong like does march on.
2007-07-09 15:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by jdydewing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok calm down, first of all there is nothing wrong with you, you have lost someone very dear to you and it hurts, it hurts because you feel like others can leave you too, well i lost my mother at age 16 about 5 years ago, i had 2 brothers and two sisters and my grandparents, well there was a time that i had to reallize that death was guaranteed with life, we cant avoid it its just a fact that humans (EVERYONE) have a problem accepting, well you are not a baby, you are nothing but human, :) chin up sweety, everything will be fine, PROMISE, just live life to its fullest spend every awakening moment with the ones you love and care about and dont take their lives for granted, they will not be there forever :) if you need someont to talk to i am always online hun, k??? armyman04200 ;) names kyle ;)
2007-07-09 15:46:01 · answer #8 · answered by Kyle W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your reaction is actually pretty normal, in your situation. Any time that you lose someone in your family, it makes you think about others that you could lose, especially those that are closer to you. That's one reason that it is good to go through the grieving process -- to say goodbye to the ones we lose, but also to be thankful to the ones we still have.
Think of this as a way of having "a second chance" with all those people you love, to get to tell them all the things you want to tell them, and to be with them as much as you can.
(But after you do so, learn to relax a little, and enjoy your time and don't spend it worrying!!)
2007-07-09 15:41:00 · answer #9 · answered by luvmelodio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my granpa when I was 11. It's really sad. Something you never get over... never. It IS something you can deal with. If your parent's won't listen, what about a friend?
Most people don't feel afraid of leaving their house. Maybe you have an underlying issue that has chosen this really bad time to express itself. Maybe you can fighte out what it is.
I'm heasent to say "Therapist" or "Counceler" because that make me a hypocrate. I'm not willing to pay for a servace my freinds can provide.
{[(Jara-Lee B)]} E-hugs!
2007-07-09 16:09:46 · answer #10 · answered by Crazygirl ♥ aka GT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋