ok, i am totally confused right now.. i've had boyfriends in the past and we never actually broke up or anything.. we just stopped calling and spending time together. i always move on ans start dating someone else! my current bf was good, took me places, gave me gifts, but as the relationship went on he showed his bad temper and even put his hands on my neck during a disagreement. he still calls me, but we don't hang out as much. then there;s my ex who came by to see me on sat. we hang out for the whole night but nothin hpnd. then there's a guy at work who likes me a lot and told me to break up with my bf, then another ex thinks he and i are going to patch things up, then there's two who don't wanna be committed but want the intimacy. i am so confused.. they are all putting pressure on me. what am i doing wrong and why so many guys at once, lol.. hellllllllllllllp ps: and a few others have stopped talking to me cuz i didn't want them! why me? serious answers for a serious matter thanks
2007-07-09 08:23:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmm, ok if I were you... I would stop and figure out what TRUELY makes me happy. It seems like you fill a void in your life with another boy and another and another... But you never deal with your own issues, you just start new ones... If I were you I would deal with my extra baggage before even thinking about taking on some more...
Honestly, there is nothing cute about extra baggage... and once you get rid of it you will find that your TONS happier!
2007-07-09 08:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by Mo' Sigg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of other answers adress this, but you might need to just stop getting the situation messier. I have the impression that people kind of look on dating as a sport. What you really do is get to know each other and commit yourself to that person. Do not start dating someone just because you feel like it, you might not have had this problem if you hadn't had this many bf's. Wait a little, find a person that genuinly loves you, be cautious (don't dive headlong into a hasty relationship). Maybe if you had observed that "current boyfriend" and gotten to know him first, you might have noticed the temper problem and get yourself out of this mess before it started. This does not provide a solution for your current problem, however, so my advice is that you simply stop, yes stop, dating for a while and aproach the next guy with a bit more caution, it will pay off more in the end. Good luck, and I hope I've helped.
*Jesus is always there for you*
2007-07-09 08:47:34 · answer #2 · answered by answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man who put his hands on you should be gone from your life for good. That only gets worse as time goes by. It never gets better, no matter how much they promise to change. The guys that only want intimacy are not worth you time since they only want to use you. You need to find a man that makes you happy all the way around. Intimacy should be the icing on the cake for a loving relationship. Don't rush into anything. Trust in yourself. The right man will come around when you are not expecting him to. Just let a good relationship happen naturally. Good luck!
2007-07-09 08:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a love situation - this is a sex situation!
Take a break, for God's sake. Stay home a little and learn who you are, and what you want. Work on what you want, not who you want.
Lots of guys hang around if they think they will get sex out of the deal - see who stays when you tell them no.
Stay away from anyone who ever hurt you or even threatens to hurt you.
2007-07-09 08:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to break up with your current boyfriend because abuse doesn't just go away. Secondly, you just need to take a little time for yourself. Noone is saying you have to pick one now. You won't be missing out on anything. If it's meant to be it will be and I'm sure, with time, at least a few of these guys who weren't just trying to get into your bed will go their own way and the decision will be easier.
2007-07-09 08:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by J C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok serious bloke overload.. I would back them up right up if i were you.. Because you might be getting aname for yourself. Apart from that.. if there isnt one that you like specialy.. let them all go.. Some time to yourself and some life of your own might help you out a bit as well. Have a break from it all.. because it sounds like you need it.. You dont have to have a b/f you know.. go out with some friend, let your hair down. and have some single life fun for a while..
2007-07-09 08:27:47 · answer #6 · answered by Twinkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...maybe try staying single for a while and hang out with your girlies!! lol guys are confusing any maybe you just need to find the right one cause all these guys are doing is confusing u! lol good luck hun!
2007-07-09 08:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow boys must think your hot and all and i think you made a big mistake?why did you get that much bf abd they will find out and they might hate you and you will be known as a slut.
how sad for the guys wow your a playa.........!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-09 08:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you must be so hot
why dont you pull yourslef closer to the ground?maybe that's your problem: A BLOWN UP EGO
2007-07-09 08:26:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont really know the situations....but....you should....corny but go with your heart....the guy that put his hands on you....isnt worth it....in my opinion.....ex's...well when it comes to ex's....it didnt work out for a reason....in my opinion....."out with the old and in with the new." good luck......take care
2007-07-09 08:29:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋