There are very few nice guys out there. Guys that will treat their gal like the princess she is. Guys that will shower her with love and affection. Guys that can write poetry, sing songs of love, and still score the touchdown to win the game.
There are few of us out here. Do women really want that though? Or do they care more, in general, about looks, or how about money? Ideally, they would want it all, but what's more important?
So, is it all about looks, money, or pure kindness? Seems like a slam dunk question, but never ends up that way.
2007-07-09 08:13:17 · 30 answers · asked by davew/ad 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Women WANT the nice guys, but the nice guys tend to be too insecure to approach a woman and let her know that they have any interest in her.
The not-so-nice guys lavish attention on the women they want, and of course it gets their attention. Women like to be complimented, talked to, and listened to.
I don't think it's about money or looks, it's about getting her attention and keeping it. That's what always worked on me, anyway. I find myself married to a wonderful man, with four kids... we don't have much money, he's not the most gorgeous man on the planet, but he did pursue me, and he did give me a lot of attention... and it worked.
2007-07-09 08:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by ♥≈Safi≈♥ ☼of the Atheati☼ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it only seems that nice guys finish last, the nice guys I have known ended up with the most wonderful person and they had a fantastic relationship, it takes a special woman to be with a special man and there are a lot of shallow people out there of both sexes, guys that are deep make women in general uncomfortable because it is an unknown element, there dads were jerks, there brothers and uncles were, so here you got a guy being kind, after the discomfort of the unknown treatment, the next thought is, what's the catch, if they stick around long enough to discover no catch, then love prevails.
2007-07-09 08:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by carpathian mage 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally; I dont care about how much or how little money a guy has. Looks wise; as long as i can look at them n not be terrified in fear. Of course Im naturally gonna be attracted to a really good looking guy, but that doesnt mean im interested in dating him. But I also dont want someone who is pure kindness. I want an equal relationship n to not be treated as a spoiled princess. The guys I am attracted to are not afraid of being who they are around anyone. They are fun to be around n can make me smile no matter what aweful thing had happened. ... Plus to the nice guys; u always claim how woman dont really give u a chance, ever think that maybe their are girls that are not as attractive that u dont give a chance to..i mean u just asked if looks mattered.
2007-07-09 08:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by Sick of F*ckwits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy treats a girl like a princess, she will feel smothered. Girls want guys with confidence, who go after what they want and are not wusses. Showering a girl with love, affection and poetry will eventually have her looking for an umbrella. Girls do want love, affection, appreciation, understanding and to feel sexy. But, they don't want it overdone. Keep it in moderation. Guys who overdo it, usually come off as insecure and desperate.
2007-07-09 08:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They want the nice guy after they've had all of the other guys. Which is crap since they then wonder why the nice guy doesn't want them at this point. Two hints, 1) being constantly rejected for jerks and 2) your used up carcass.
Guess those are a little more than hints, hey?
2007-07-09 08:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to lay it straight out for you. Looks come first because initially - looks are what attract a person to another person. After the initial attraction is there - then its time to get to know the personality. Ideally a woman would like a man who suits her and who she is compatible with. It has nothing to do with being a "nice guy".. I myself like a man who is a mix of both. Someone sweet with an edge. Every woman has their own preference.
2007-07-09 08:17:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
would not want a shower of songs and poetry but the kindness and some affection works wonders. Money helps two get by with rent, food, bills, and such... looks not as important as most folks put it.
2007-07-09 08:19:24 · answer #7 · answered by slither22a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When women get that stuff they never appreciate it at the time. And when they don't have it they swear that is all they want. Sorry but its a no win situation. Try to find a nice balance. Other wise you will get the "too nice of a guy" stigma.
2007-07-09 08:18:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes but most of the time a gurl will like a guy that treats them with respect and treats them like a princess but some gurls dont like it when u sing 2 them but it depends on the quality of the girl
2007-07-09 08:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by Kramer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personlally love that when a guy treats me nicely, its the main quality I look for, I mean if he is cute and nice thats a plus. But one problem is that guys like that doubt themselves alot, asking do you really like me, am I up to your standards am I good enough. At least from my experiences they do so just think about it
2007-07-09 08:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋