2007-07-09 07:53:23 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Not in the slightest bit acceptable. No mention of gifts. A gift is a generous offering from an invited person. It is optional and in no way has a monetary value assessed.
However--etiquette does allow your bridal party and family to spread your request by word of mouth. It also allows for those throwing a shower in your honor to inform people in THEIR invites where you are registered. It does not allow the bride to put it in her invitations in any way, shape or form--other than "in lieu of gifts, please make a donation to a charity".
The social norm would have be that it is so offensive people would RSVP with their regrets.
The only way I've seen it acceptably done was at a destination wedding where the bride and groom requested that Due to FAA regulations, the couple requests no gifts be brought to the reception. Most people mailed it to their house ahead of time.
Vouchers for what though? If you really are trying to save up for something big, you can register at the store for gift cards. You can place on a wedding website, links to such things as where you are honeymooning (if they have a gift package that others can purchase) or links to what it is that you are saving for so they can get you gift cards or vouchers to put towards this item.
2007-07-09 08:13:29 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You don't!!! It is unmannered and unthinking to do such a thing. Others may disagree and if you ae thick skinned you will go ahead with it anyway. Thing is you do not know how your guests were going to pay for a gift for, example it could have been with a store card as you can never be 100% sure of peoples finances. Also unlikely anyone will tell you straight out what they think of you doing such a thing so you will never really know. I wouldn't do it if there was even a change of offending one guest invited to the wedding but then it's up to you.
2007-07-09 09:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't! Never put anything in an invite that says your expecting gifts. A Wedding Invite is not you asking someone for gifts! If you want something specific as a gift, tell your close friends and family so they can spread the word.
Good Luck!
2007-07-09 08:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by warriorchic84 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think its totally fine to ask for vouchers and the people saying otherwise are living in the past, its 2007 and the majority of wedding invites that go out are for vouchers or money, dont listen to people up there own *** and go for it, just be polite in asking, people expect it. Its what happens nowadays. Your not rude just normal there not.
2007-07-09 11:06:08 · answer #4 · answered by gary 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
If it were me, I would not ask in an invitation, but freinds or family asked, I would say 'x, y and z are buying us Debenhams vouchers. We will just be pleased to see you there though.'
2007-07-11 05:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by Linda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would be in such bad taste, when will people wake up and realise weddings are not about receiving presents or even expecting them ? Matrimony is sacred and I fear that until people concentrate on the meaning of it that the divorce rate will continue to rise. Do you really need vouchers, bridal showers, stag nights etc to be able to enjoy your wedding ceremony. Please don't be so shallow.
2007-07-11 00:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just add a seperate note politely asking for vouchers for your selected store instead of the wedding list. Dont listen to the idiots on here they prob never been to a wedding anway
2007-07-10 05:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by vidie 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am going to have to disagree with the majority here and say its fine to ask for vouchers or money for your wedding. A lot of people never know what to buy someone as a wedding present (its not something people take lightly) and sometimes you get a lot of duplicate presents, and presents that you simply dont want. People like the fact that you have got something that you want and need with their money and not something that will get shoved away. A lot of people understand that when you get married you may also be moving into a new house etc, so any money or vouchers will be greatly appreciated. I say its your wedding, your presents, if you would like money or vouchers simply say something like 'there is nothing in particular that we need at the moment, however there may be in the future, if you would like to give us gift vouchers or a monetary gift that would be greatly appreciated' I dont see nothing wrong with that, its not rude or anything!
2007-07-09 08:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by **Kesha** 5 · 2⤊ 4⤋
You definately do NOT.
Unbelievably poor taste.
EDIT
Joanne: "Custom" implies that something is common enough to be acceptable and not offensive. I assure you, most of the population does not find a little card telling what they want for presents (or especially money or vouchers) acceptable. I've known people who did it. You would not believe how everyone I spoke with talked about it. In fact, that was partly why no one showed up at the wedding, and definately didn't give gifts.
2007-07-09 07:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 13⤊ 2⤋
Hate to tell you this but my firm belief is anything to do with asking for gifts, money, vouchers or even including registry info in the invitation is in poor taste and tacky. You're asking people to come celebrate with you, don't ask for anything, it's downright rude. Be grateful for what you get.
2007-07-09 08:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 1⤋