I have a crush or thing for this guy, but he is a virgin. Should I be his first?

Question

I really like him alot, he's hot. But he comes from a very different culture and I don't feel like it would work out in the long run. Culture doesn't bother me, I love everyone, but from experience it's hard to not be accepted by family of a loved one. I think he should save himself for his wife to be. And I am afraid of falling for him. Hmmmm, should I or shouldn't I???

Answer 1

If he's from a different culture, then why give a bad impression of your own? Don't sleep with him to be his first just because you like him and think he's 'hot'. You'll regret it later when he thinks you're just like any other 'easy' girl.

Answer 2

No,I don't think you should.. If he is from a different culture it is not worth it,,just because you are just Horny..That is no excuse...Find someone who will love you for you being yourself,,If it did work out between you two and he find out you wanted him B/C he is Hot and a Virgin,you are going to have trouble...Hell.I'm Hot and not a Virgin,I can teach you something !!!!

Answer 3

unless you plan a long term thing with him don't be his first. Virgin boys can become super clingly! 2 of my previous boyfriends were virgins, both asked me to marry them during the relationship. One of them, (we were only together 6 months) Even ignored me breaking up with him and moving to another province. He still thought we were together for like 3 months and constantly called me even though I told him a million times it's never going to happin. He finally got the hint when I introduced him to my new boyfriend. He was crushed, the whole situation was just stupid.

Answer 4

if hes a virgin he will probably be real clingy so if you are not sure if it will work out or not then I would wait and by the way you asked the question im assuming his family doesnt like you which will definitely spell trouble in the long run

Answer 5

You answered the question yourself, you said, "I think he should save himself for his wife to be." If you don't feel as if it were going to work out in the long run, then maybe you shouldn't, am I right?

Answer 6

Yeah....you are stressing that part of a relationship too much. I mean if he really wants to save it for his future wife or whatever then let it be. But the important thing I think you should do is just hang out with him for a while. If things work out then who knows...you might be the one he is destined to be with. That would be cool!

Answer 7

Don't assume any thing. Just try. It may work. But remember, trying doesn't mean give him every thing. For example, you can ask him whether you are going to be his first..

Above all, try him whether he has an intellectual capacity to satisfy you when you raise some local, national, international, family or professional issues because sex is not every thing in life.

Answer 8

Well, that's very kind of you to encourage him to save himself for his wife, especially if you don't think it would work out between the two of you. That can't be said for most guys. Naw, leave him intact. He may be depending on you to not use your feminine wiles on him, which most guys have no defense against.

Answer 9

That was a really shallow answer, mind.

You should give it a try if you really like him.

It can't hurt, and you can learn alot about his culture.
Just be really pleasant around his parents, and maybe they'll end up liking you.

Plus, everyone starts out as a virgin.
If your relationship works out, and you want to take the next step, ask him about it and see how he feels on losing his virginity.

Answer 10

This question really cannot be answered by anyone other than him. Ask him if you can take his virginity. If you feel that you dont want to do it. Then dont. But be smart and dont get yourself in a family mess.