We have them occasionally but only a "select" few are invited to the actual wedding. Would it be in bad taste to skip if you are not close to the person?
2007-07-09 07:44:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My job has them occasionally but they do not make them mandatory for you to attend. If you are not invited to the wedding and you are not close to the person then you are not obligated to attend.
2007-07-09 07:49:50 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. There isn't any case where you should feel "obligated" to give a gift or attend a shower. It's a purely voluntary thing.
In my opinion, having a wedding shower but not inviting the people to the wedding is tacky, especially if a select few are invited and the rest are not. Giving a gift and being there on that day should go hand in hand. To throw a shower but not give the attendees the option to come to the wedding to celebrate is like just saying "Where's my present???" It shows they like you enough to receive presents from you, but not enough to have you at the wedding.
2007-07-09 14:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wron with not attending a shower. We have so many showers and celebrations in our workplace that I would go broke trying to buy presents for everyone. I only go to those for people I work closely with and really like. Sometimes I donate a few dollars or sign a group card, but I don't think you should feel obligated to attend an office shower.
If it's really a problem in your office you might want to consider asking to institute a "no parties" policy so that all celebrations take place outside of the workplace.
2007-07-09 14:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by TeacherLady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would. We've been having showers alot in our office lately. And if someone isn't close to the person getting married or having a baby, they don't participate. It's not a big deal. If ya'll aren't close, they are probably not even going to miss you. But be careful, if they went all out helping for your shower, you should return the favor. And anyone who doesn't sent an invite to someone who gave them a gift is sorry anyway.
Good Luck!
2007-07-09 15:15:41 · answer #4 · answered by warriorchic84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually if the bride knows about it she should put a stop to it. Etiquette says that no one be invited to a shower if they are not invited to the wedding. It is in poor taste.
But yeah it is fine to ignore those. They are not mandatory.
2007-07-09 15:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to go to either, if you go to the shower you don't have to go to the wedding, and if you don't go to the shower you can still go to the wedding, or you don't have to go to either or you can go to both, whatever suits YOU.
It would not be in bad taste.
2007-07-09 15:31:58 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join together with some others and buy something. Be a team player, just don't break the bank while doing so.
2007-07-09 14:51:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋