I have way too many relationships where the other person is no good. And to make matters worse I continuely go back to them no matter how I felt when we separated, or how upsetI was I always brought them back into my life.
2007-07-09 07:11:05 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It looks like you are attracted to "men who are no good for you". Girls like the whole "bad boy" aura. Rebels without a cause... It's the obnoxious big-mouths that give guys a bad name... Look for guys that aren't in the spotlight all the time... They're the good guys that girls aren't paying attention to.
2007-07-09 07:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something in them that you find attractive. The way to overcome this is to find someone who is the total opposite and go from there. You will learn to love the opposite of what you have been looking for in men. Whatever it is that you find irresistable, now you know that it is a warning sign. The trick to staying away from them after getting away from them is to break all contact what-so-ever, just tell them that having contact with them is too stressful for you. Also, sit and make yourself remember what happened to end the relationship in the first place and how you felt about it. Then ask yourself if you want to go through the same thing again....because if you do go back, you know that it will happen again. Remind yourself over and over that you are better than that and you deserve respect. Pick yourself up when others wont.
2007-07-09 07:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
!st question: How do you feel about yourself? Do you have low self-esteem?
2nd: Do you feel you are unworthy of a good guy? Lonely and will just about go out with anyone?
3rd: A person is not the answer to your problems. You must deal with what really is bothering you. You must feel you are a good person and deserve better than you are getting. Take some self-improvemen t classes, have a "make-over" and buy some clothes that fit your body style. Get someone you trust to guide you. Look for guys who want the same things you want. Don't pick up men in bars. You'll find the answers if you try.
2007-07-09 07:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by spiritwoman343 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attractive features of men are like this: A nice and cute face, Their eyes, Moderate amount of Chest hair, Their legs (with some hair) A sexy voice, Cool hair, Muscles, Good teeth, Oh, and they could have a really attractive body and all, but if their personality sucks then it ruins the whole sexy vibe. For example, take Joe Flanigan (google him), I find him very sexy because he has a beautiful face, has hot chest, and such cute black hair.
2016-04-01 05:24:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you are focusing on the WRONG man. I have seen too many men and women do this. They think that they HAVE to be with somebody to be happy. To be honest, we really don't need to be with anyone. What we need to understand is that God will choose if we are to be with someone. If it is His will for our life, He will let us know.
Instead of seeking out men at all, focus your attention on Christ. No, I am not saying to be a NUn or anything like that...I am just saying that maybe it is time you start letting Christ control the road of your life. He IS all the man you will ever need. He loves unconditionally. He forgives without question. He makes sacrifices just to be with you. He is slow to anger. He only wants what is best for you. He is strong. He is everything.
Jesus loves you moe than you will ever be able to understand. He doesn't want you to "choose the wrong guy." It grieves Him to see you get hurt. Please take time to consider His love for you and what He has done on the cross for you. He loves you.
2007-07-09 07:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by Dead 2 Self 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, Love, you sound like me! And Yes, YOU are picking these men. There are ways to see what it is you are doing. It has to do with your family life, self esteem, etc...
I am about to go somewhere, or I would explain more. If you do not get the info you need, contact me. I will try to steer you in the right direction. Good Luck, Love, and God Bless!
2007-07-09 07:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by Eudora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you figure out how to pickup yourself up, you'll be right as rain. Don't wallow in yesterday's grief. Fix yourself, then and only then will good things start to come your way. And get over this "I need someone to make me feel complete"
Pick one thing that you know you need to change about yourself starting today. Once you feel it has been mastered, pick something else and so on.
2007-07-09 07:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by betmexxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just magnets for scumbags, myself included. I have worked hard on avoiding this of course I don't go out much any more but the sanity is worth it.
2007-07-09 07:15:33 · answer #8 · answered by maidmarion15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because you like what you can't have. You've found someone who challenges you to compete in the Universial Realm of Dating. My advice, keep stacking the deck until you reach the jackpot!
2007-07-09 07:16:15 · answer #9 · answered by blackflame003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we all do, for some reason. I like guys that are totally off my radar. Just be careful and don't dedicate too much time into one person, keep your options open.
2007-07-09 07:14:23 · answer #10 · answered by Nick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋