i've been burned very hard by my 2 relationships, both with bipolar women. why is this happening. how can i avoid it.
2007-07-09 06:58:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe you should stray away from those types of girls
2007-07-09 07:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Crosby 87! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are the chosen one!! I have family members that are bipolar and what a ride it can be!
Anyway, there is not a whole lot you can do, unless of course you ask upfront if they are bipolar. Basically, you can get hurt with or without the bipolar scenarios.
Is it possible you like to comfort and take of people because if this is the case than you need to figure out what are your boundaries and what lines you allow others to cross. You can protect yourself and not become cold hearted.
Most likely the signs are there you just need to look for them.
Good Luck!
2007-07-09 14:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure both women were diagnosed with bipolar disorder, or were you just guessing that was what was wrong with them? If they were formally diagnosed as bipolar and you had the same problems in your relationships with both of them, you might be able to take yourself out of the equation and blame their disorder for the break-ups. I once dated a guy with clinical depression, and though he was on antidepressants, he would occasionally slip into these deep depressions I couldn't pull him out of. I am a naturally cheerful, optimistic person, so my attempts to cheer him up were often met with anger or frustration that I didn't understand him well enough to know why he was down. Since our break-up was quite sudden with absolutely no warning signs, I believe it was his depression that caused him to cool off towards me so quickly, but for a long time afterwards I worried that it was me and that I had done something wrong to sabotage the relationships. However, I met my boyfriend 3 months later, and he has no mental health disorders, and he and I will be celebrating our 5-year anniversary in September. So my advice to you is to try to find out if the next woman you date has any depression or bipolar disorder before you get involved. It sounds really insensitive, I know, but if the two experiences you've had with bipolar women were that negative, you might just not be the right person for someone with those special needs. Good luck to you!
2007-07-09 14:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand. I am actually bipolar. Without my meds I am a nightmare. My boyfriend puts up withit and he lets me know when I getting off track. It takes a strong understanding man to deal with a bipolar woman.
If you are attracting these types of girls, then maybe you should read up on what bipolar is and how you can help/avoid arguements/problems.
Or.... stop dating bipolar women.
2007-07-09 14:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by 2shay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Bipolar? Really? Well, the first thing is to address why you are attracted to women who you know (even on a subconscious level) will bring you on an emotional rollercoaster. If I were you, I'd stay single until I figured this out. The next one you choose? Imho, if you start to feel really good about yourself, and confident, you will want to be with someone who will compliment you, rather than drain your affective resources...Good luck.
2007-07-09 14:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by Artemisia G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK well the girls are on an emotional roller coaster up one day down the next so try and assure yourself she takes her meds. And also maybe she thinks you dont like her cause she is bipolar. Also consider your attitude at the situation if you are an instigator I would recommend to try and keep instigating to a minimum
2007-07-09 14:04:11 · answer #6 · answered by Kenzerzzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... my only suggestion to you is to stop dating women with bipolar disorder. It's a tough disorder for someone with it to deal with and apparently, you can't deal with it either.
If you're just saying that these two women were bipolar and they're not, maybe you should rethink your choice of words as bipolar disorder is no joke.
2007-07-09 14:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by StarlightRedemption 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is bipolar? well if both of your relationships were burned by those type of woman then find some1 that isnt bipolar
2007-07-09 14:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by kimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bipolar? Thats a difficult match. When your in a relationship that first thing you ask is "How are you?" This will tell you what mood shes in and how you should react to this.
2007-07-09 14:02:25 · answer #9 · answered by Akizumi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before letting yourself get to attached to someone get to know her a little better ... people that are bipolar or manic-depressive usually show their colors pretty fast.
2007-07-09 14:04:06 · answer #10 · answered by andijxo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang out with them alot and get to know them VERY well. it will eventually show if they are bipolar....my friend is and she scares me very badly and i'm a girl, so i can only imagine what its like for you. I'm sorry. hope i helped!
2007-07-09 14:01:30 · answer #11 · answered by Garcia <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋