Do you think it's wrong for your boyfriend or partner ect. to talk about sex or ask another woman about thier masturbating habits? Or things such as wether or not they'd ever had an orgasm?
Even if you are not in a relationship wouldn't this hurt you?
It did when I heard my boyfriend asked my best friend :/
Men don't seem to find any problem with it...
2007-07-09 06:53:29 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No he was not close to my friend at all! The thing that confused me was she .lied about it and told him he had done it/ another person had. She would know then he would carry on asking questions!
2007-07-09 07:03:57 · update #1
yes, i think that's a big problem. that's disrespectful to you. to me, that's like cheating in a way.. because he shouldn't be worried about what another girl is doing, especially your best friend. and if she goes along with that, what kind of best friend do you have?
2007-07-09 06:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by *TiNK* 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well the first time you might let it slide but let him know how little and unimportant you felt when he did it. You have every right to feel that way. Me personally, if my husband did it, It would probably spark my interest and I'd be waiting for the answer just as much as him, but that's cuz I'm a freak.
You're right men don't find a problem w/ it, and actually now that I think about it the only thing that does bother me about that is him treating her w/ such little respect. A lot of women don't like to be spoken to like that. You should defend you and your friend!
2007-07-09 07:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not all men would do this. It's innapropriate since he's involved with you. He should know this, but if he doesn't, you need to let him know. Why the hell does he need to know about your best friend's masturbation habits or other personal information. Furthermore, this girl is your best friend! He just sounds like a jerk. It almost sounds like an indirect way of hitting on someone. Sounds strange, but some guys come onto girls in this way. Or, it could be that he gets off on learning these types of things from other girls or people in general. Either way, it's still not appropriate nor is it respectful towards you (since it was with your friend).
So, I'd let him know how you feel. Trust me when I say that not all men would do this. They simply wouldn't. If they were that curious, they definitely wouldn't ask someone you know.
2007-07-09 07:01:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know it all depends on how well the 'boyfriend' knows this person, but in general, i do NOT think that anyones sex life should be discussed with anybody unless that person is comfortable with it...You're right men dont have a problem with it cuz men chalk it up there with sports and othere things that's why it's not difficult for them top just randomly talk about whomever with whoever...
2007-07-09 06:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is ok in a relationship only so long as it's ok with both people. No one here can tell you if this is ok in your relationship.
If this bothers you tell him. If he respects your feelings he'll stop. If he doesn't he'll make the "Oh I don't mean anything by it" or "it's just talking" argument.
But this has nothing to do with any of that. It has to do with respecting each other and caring about how your actions make the other person feel.
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One other suggestion. Don't fall into the bad habit of thinking this is a defect in all men. You will eventually convince yourself of this and it will sabotage every future relationship you have. Take it from a guy your guy is wrong.
2007-07-09 06:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by elurle 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriend should not be asking other girls these things, unless you can be fine with it you should tell him it upsets you. I would definitly not be fine with it. I think a guy that does that is a cheat. I think it is a red flag for you to see. I wouldn't stay with a guy like that. There are men out there that would not do that. Would your boyfriend care if you asked other guys the same thing?
2007-07-09 07:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by Stars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have every right to be upset about that. I think that your friend is in the wrong too though. She should not have allowed him to ask her that. I am sure that she led him to think that it was okay to ask. You need to talk to both of them, and let them know how it made you feel, and that you dont appreciate it. If they give you attitude about it, then you are better off without them both. You dont need a guy that is going to disrespect you, and back stabing friends are a dime a dozen.
2007-07-09 06:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by Miss. American Nightmare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be bad in a certain way but it dependents. Maybe he wants to have sex with you but he doesn't know how to ask. So he ask an other women for advice... If not, I mean; if he doesn't want there advice then, I would be sad.. Talk to your boyfriend and try to understand his point of vue..
Hope this help!
2007-07-09 07:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend has no right to intrude on someone's sex lifestyle. You should have found this to be offensive. Its like asking her what her favorite position is in bed and for her to tell him if she likes oral are not. Are you sure that he isnt trying to get some sick thoughts or have another plan in mind. He could be finding out exately what she likes because he wants to do her.
2007-07-09 06:57:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree that isn't right to do. Kind of bad taste for your b/f to discuss that with anyone else besides his partner. I would feel very uncomfortable if my friend's b/f tried discussing those types of things with me. I would make an understanding with him that some very personal things should stay personal..
2007-07-09 06:59:18 · answer #10 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋