2007-07-09 05:48:49 · 47 answers · asked by Will T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
first of all, NO you do not need a ring to propose. second of all, if you wait until you can afford everything for a marriage you will be an old man before you get married. i am not sure what some of these people are thinking, most people start off with nothing when they get married, weddings DO NOT have to cost a lot of money! i think people that start off with nothing and have to sacrafice to be together and to make things work appreciate everything so much more!
when my husband proposed he did not have a ring, he waited and got me one for my birthday (a very inexpensive ring, no diamond, i hate diamonds) when we got married we both got silver bands (25 dollars each) we started with nothing, we had a baby right away (not totally planned hehe) and we figured out we were struggling financially, so he joined the navy. he has now been able to support me and our 4.5 kids and get me several rings. you build up to things, i think it cripples people to start off with everything.
good luck!!!! and really keep in mind, a wedding does not have to be expensive to be wonderful!
2007-07-09 06:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by Havanah_A 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you really want to marry her you should propose. But another suggestion if you are low on cash is ask a few women in your family that mean something to you if they perhaps have a ring that you can use as an engagement ring. Then hold off on the wedding ceremony until you can afford a wedding ring.
2007-07-09 05:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You mean you cant afford a ring of any kind? You can get a plain band for under $100 or a very simple solitaire with a small diamond for very little as well.
If you cant spend 100 bucks on a ring then you certainly cant afford a wedding or marriage. The top marriage killer is money. You don't want to go into a marriage hard up for money from the start.
You can always upgrade a simple ring for a more expensive one as a 1st, 5th or 10th anniversary.
2007-07-09 06:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely, that is how my fiance did it, we were just so excited to get married, we didn't want to wait for him to get a ring. The ring is just a symbol of the engagement is all, not a necessity ( : good luck and congrats! And if you both decided just to go w wedding rings, it is very affordable, wedding rings run pretty affordable. You can even buy her what's classified as a promise ring, very pretty, but not as much as an engagment ring. Any jewelry store will have a selection of these to choose from.
2007-07-09 05:52:47 · answer #4 · answered by happily married ( : 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you can't afford an engagement ring, how can you afford a marriage? What's your hurry?
Your "promise" does not require a ring, nor an engagement...(proposals shouldn't be taken lightly!) That's sweet, but I'd wait.
**How romantic some of you young folks are! It's not about being materialistic, it's being REAListic! Love don't pay the bills, and if there is ONE issue in a marriage that love never conquers, it's money! A ring is not about showing off to friends, it's a symbol of a promise...& unless you are both dirt poor & intend to stay that way/don't expect any more, etc., the lack of a ring symbolizes the lack of a future in my book!
2007-07-09 05:56:15 · answer #5 · answered by JEWEL 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I think it really depends on the girl. I remember hearing one of my friends say that his girlfriend did not care much for a ring, as long as there was some symbol in place of it (like a bracelet or a temporary ring, etc). However, some place strong significance in that and must have a nice ring for an engagement. i would be careful and possibly even somehow discuss it with her (of course not in a blatantly obvious way!).
2007-07-09 06:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by GC 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
until it's affordable the two of you can always work up to a better ring. you could consider something elegant and simple for right now. but really it's the words that matter most. it's not the material things. at least it wouldn't bother me if the guy didn't have a ring.
2007-07-09 05:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is ok.
If your soon to be fiance loves you, the ring not being there won't matter!
Its about your relationship and your feelings for each other, not a ring.
If you plan on an engagement ring in the future, perhaps surprise her with it one day.
2007-07-09 07:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This actually happened with my friend. Her fiance' purchased a simpler ring and proposed to her with that. Then suprised her later on with the ring that he originally wanted to give her when he saved up enough money. She was completely happy with the orginal ring, but was thrilled to see the second one. Best of luck.
2007-07-09 05:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by CK 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Most definately, it's about your love for the person. Not the size of the ring. In fact, my cousins boyfriend proposed without a ring....... they are still going strong. If she loves you, she will understand. It's totally cool, or if you think it is awkward, just get something small and cheap for now. If it's meant to be, she will not mind it at all, she will be just be glad to know you love her enough to put out the effort and ask. It's a bold move! I'd definatley go for it......Good luck!!
2007-07-09 05:54:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋