i dont know what to do i know its rong but his driving me crazy i havent done anything couse i would hate for someone to do what im doing when im married has anyone been in my position or any duggestions plz!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-09 05:38:49 · 35 answers · asked by moniquita 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be flattered, but not too flattered. Find someone who isn't married.
Yes, been there, done that, been on the receiving end...it ain't nice.
2007-07-09 05:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor and end it now.
Nine times out of ten if/when the marriage ends, the relationship will too. You are just a distraction to keep the pain at bay. Also, If he can do it to her, he can do it to you too.
Another thing to think about, what if he decides he still loves his wife and decides to give it another chance, once again you will be expected to be the bigger person and walk away.
Save yourself now, avoid him like the plague.
Everyone gets hurt, and I do mean everyone. If you can't shake him off, stop going where he goes, change times to go if possible, change when you go or the route in which you get there.
Good luck sweetie, as difficult as it feels right now...multiply that by 100. Keep your personal respect and walk away.
2007-07-09 05:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by Tammy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men choose their wives in the end over their lover. Like one person said it's harder to end a marriage than an affair. There are over 6 BILLION people in this world...why go for a married man? There is someone out there who is right for YOU. Do you think he'll leave his wife for you?? lol. It's wrong to meddle in people's lives like that. You can ruin a marriage and if there are kids involved, you can ruin their lives. Like you said, you wouldn't want a man to cheat on you when you get married right? Well imagine how his wife would feel...
2007-07-09 05:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by mommy of an angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He most likely responds to you because he is flattered that you are attracted to him. He will go just as far as you encourage him to go, too. Sometimes, (while it may be hard to maintain) it's better to tell yourself "STOP".... only heartache in that direction for all concerned. I still find myself wanting to pick up the phone and talk to the man I was attracted to. We talked and met secretly for three years and I finally realized what a dope I was being - there was no future with him - EVER - and so - I just stopped...and changed my cell phone number. It's been over 6 months now and I still think about him alot - but he is married - and will remain so until he dies.
2007-07-09 05:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by 2churchills@sbcglobal.net 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he's really responding to you, or is it just wishful thinking? Could you be reading too much into his response?
Regardless, he's forbidden fruit and you know it. If he's not strong enough to end this, then you need to. Ignore him and don't say a word to him unless you absolutely have to. If you catch yourself daydreaming about it, give yourself a mental slap, remind yourself of the reasons it's wrong and stupid, and concentrate on something else, some difficult problem you need to find the answer to.
2007-07-09 05:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him. It is wrong but also you are going to get used. You will most likely start wanting him more and more because he is unavailabe and at the same time he will begin to see you more and more as a dumb bimbo. So basically you'll get physically used, probably promised a lot of stuff that will never happen just to keep you on your back.
2007-07-09 05:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by timssterling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
back off now.any married man or woman should be off limits!
i was married for 12 yrs when a girl decided she wanted my husband.it took two,but guess what ?what comes around ,goes around.we eventually divorced because of his affair with this girl .they continued their relationship. he cheated on her like crazy and she allowed it because she was in "love" and knew that she had to pay for the marriage she ruined. he didnt respect her in that way.he and i cotinued as friends because we had kids together,so everytime he talked about her......she was referred to as the home wrecker!back off...there are plenty of single men out there.besides how would you feel if you had that done to you once you found yourself settled and married?it takes two, i know ,but his wife may be as good to him as you will be.maybe he just wants a "something"on the side from you.i imagine that doesnt feel good. good luck and have more respect for yourself.find a man who isnt involved and leave that married one alone.
he eventually left her after they had a child together.poor baby it is as inoccent as can be ,but her mom deserved everything she got.taking a man from his marriage is a mistake that has lots of consequences.dont do it,cant you do better than going for a married man?
2007-07-09 05:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by fishin for answer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm a guy that's been messing with a girl that has a man for a while and a little girl.....all i can think about doing is letting the situation run it course. if it's just a sex thing he wants cuz he's married and not getting divorced and your okay with that then i'd say go right ahead.... but if you feel morally wrong then don't do it at all cuz it'll just come back to haunt you.
2007-07-09 05:46:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you keep the focus on what you're after in this incipient relationship there is nothing you should either be worried about or ashamed of. He is not being forced into anything. You do not want him for your husband. He is just someone who will entertain your fancy and fulfill some of your needs.
Now as far as not wanting this same thing to be done to you once you're married, believe me, that nothing you do now will thwart or cause anything to happen to you. If it is to happen, t will, period! Just enjoy yourself and be careful not to hurt third persons.
2007-07-09 05:47:45 · answer #9 · answered by SexRexRx 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm basically in the same position as you, But I dont think I am going for it. We need to have more respect for ourselves and the other woman, whether she is a ***** or not. and the guy needs to get on with his life before he starts anything with you, you are better than that, you diserve to be the only woman, not the other woman.
2007-07-09 05:44:18 · answer #10 · answered by U1S2K3O4 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, I suggest spelling lessons (there IS a spell check feature) and then I suggest STOP trying to mess with a married man..........it is nothing but trouble. People get shot over stuff like that. Chances are, he just wants to get laid, and once he does, he'll be right back with the wife. Get your OWN man.
2007-07-09 05:44:25 · answer #11 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋