i am to the point of no return with frustration !!! i feel like i am the prep school to make bad men better men FOR OTHER WOMEN!!! i've had guys break up with me because my income was more than theirs by far or that i was too career oriented, before that ive had guys breakup with me because i didnt have a job. ive been broken up with just to find out that another girl is moving into the house that i helped him close on and decorate... do you get my point i feel like im fighting a losing battle!!! so my simple quesion is what is it that men are looking for in a woman??? and i mean REALLY !!!
2007-07-09 05:26:06 · 25 answers · asked by live in the magic of life 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
full of myself i am definatly not! i just know that i always give my best and i feel used
2007-07-09 05:33:51 · update #1
that's some tragic issues you got there =)
In the short run, men want sex. Period. This drive is heightened by how attractive their female target is. Long term, they want someone they can relate to, someone fun to be around, any a whole lot of other things.
in words a woman might say, mr. right hasn't found you yet, and luckily mr. right now dumped you.
anyways, your questions is NOT simple. men all want different things. you can't be perfect, and you shouldn't lower your standards just to find a guy. If a guy can't handle your status or your lifestyle then let them go.
a revelation i have is control-freakiness, you seem like a control freak. that is why you love your job, why you are probably successful, and why YOU DRIVE MEN AWAY. Again, not to go against what i said earlier, be yourself, but think about it, maybe it's you.
stop fighting this "battle" and just go with the flow, let the guy be himself, he likely gets tired of trying to meet your standards, and feels belittled by you. maybe you'll get lucky and find a doormat husband, or you can let go, open your heart, and find the man of your dreams.
that's basically it from a guy's point of view... good luck with life hun!
2007-07-09 05:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by Hermes711 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Cute, Thin, Blue or Hazel Eyes, Tall, [5'8" or taller usually, but shorter than him] anything, but Red Hair.
Doesn't Gossip, Doesn't Intimidate Him, He feels like He's in Control, Younger than Him.
She's Honest, a little Daring, Nice, Caring, Affectionate, Intelligent, but not more than Him, and this is one of the most important things: She'll tell Him why She's Upset because He usually CANNOT tell.
A girl that Does Not play games, A girl that Does Not like Bad Boys, despite what most guys say, A STRAIGHT FORWARD GIRL!
A girl that in high school, doesn't care if she HAS to pay half the bill because HE doesn't have enough money, because he CAN'T get a job at the moment, IF he can't drive YET. It's not always his fault.
ANYWAY, that should cover most of it.
E-mail me any other questions.
2007-07-09 05:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by Rick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A little full of yourself aren't you? My question to you is - if you keep choosing these guys why do you blame them? I suspect that no one put a gun to your head and forced you into any of these relationships.
The bottom line is that we all get pretty much what we look for. So why is it you're looking for this type of guy? What is it that YOU really WANT??? And why are you not looking for that?
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OK you don't 'think' you're full of yourself that's fine. But a few things still stand out unanswered.
1. Why are you choosing this type of guy?
2. If you feel every guy is a loser or even just the ones you have chosen, why do you keep flailing around? Be single and happy with yourself.
3. If you can't do #2 why not? What is really missing from your life that you can't enjoy it without someone else?
4. Maybe the answer to #3 is also the answer to #1
Oh and for the record, it was the "make bad men better" comment that sounded a little egotistical. I've run into some women with utterly tragic lives and got used also but never saw myself as having the power to make them 'better'. I think you probably mean you made their financial situation better. Trust me a lot of guys have been there too.
2007-07-09 05:29:21 · answer #3 · answered by elurle 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Hmm.. maybe you are stuck in a 'type', that does not mean they are all the same, just not for you. Try taking a break from men (I know I am). Even if you think you have yourself together, you would be amazed at how much more you have to learn.
To actually answer your question: Some men do not even know what THEY want. Some men want a replacement mother type. Some men know what they want and can contribute to a real relationship... for some reason, these men are the ones that we pass up.
GOOD LUCK, we will both need it.
2007-07-09 05:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by Myra G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Well... all I can say to that is you don't need men like that. And I do get your point, I've been there a couple of times.
And every man is looking for different qualities in women. What you need to do is get into a relationship but make sure there are boundaries because it sounds like that last guy didn't even wait before the relationship was over to invite another girl into the house. And I don't mean boundaries but make sure there are certain expectations, ya know.
Hope this helps
2007-07-09 05:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by darkangelz01 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Every guy is different. For me, I like an independent woman who can still make time for me. The business woman type is very attractive because they are not sleazy and show that they can take car of themselves, which is what you seem like. Some guys like to be the controller and want their woman to stay at home and depend on the man. Not being affraid to show a little jealousy is attractive as long as it is not obsessive. The right guy will come along because without knowing what you look like, you sound like a catch to me.
2007-07-09 05:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by Paul 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are closing a battle if you continue to provide and close on houses and decorate and whatever for men. They are taking advantage of you , that is obvious. Do you need that kind of man? Seems like you may be desperate and hope to buy your way in, that won't work. Don't let them know about your money, don't let them know everything about you, till you are sure it is a safe and secure relationship. Look for men in your category that share the same as you and are glad you can be independent. We don't need men, but we want them.
Don't rush it, the right one will come your way. Don't spend your money on them, no matter what or who they are, let them spend their money and save yours.
2007-07-09 06:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by lana s 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your question should be "what are you looking for in a man?" Don't generalize men and don't try to change them. You need to do a prep list of what you want before you go hunting. Try being friends with them first and get to know them better before jumping the gun.
2007-07-09 05:34:24 · answer #8 · answered by litlredm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men want love unconditionally. Love us exactly how we are because we don't want to change.
Men are good at this and for some reason women are not. I think a man is capable of loving something exactly as it is and women only love things that have the potential to be what they really want.
Just one guys opinion though.
2007-07-09 05:36:07 · answer #9 · answered by C-Ham 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
look, i obviously dont know you but here are some of the things i can gather from your question:
you may have a tendency to be a little controlling or overbearing, and you probably dont see the signs of the relationship going south.
men look for all different things in a woman. there is no one way to answer that, but here is a general list of things:
we want our opinions to be respected; we dont want to be made to feel stupid or inferior; we tend to like a little space; we want a woman to look up to us and admire us for something-anything...lol
it may be stupid but thats pretty much it.
2007-07-09 05:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by zeke58 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋