I have heard that trashing your wedding dress is a sign of committment to your new husband. The fact that you are never going to need that dress again. I think it sounds fun and cute, but when I brought this up every one of my inlaws (the women) criticized me for it. I just don't see why I need to just store it away. I could sell it, but it would be a hassle advertizing cuz I would only get a little bit out of it anyway. What are some thoughts??
2007-07-09 05:18:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Also, I did not spend a ton of money on my dress like most people dp, so it wouldn't be a huge loss!
2007-07-09 05:23:35 · update #1
I already bought the dress, so I can't rent it.
2007-07-09 05:27:42 · update #2
Thank you so much for the heavenlyangelsinneed.com idea. Babies are such a sensitive subject for me and as soon as I saw this idea I almost cried. I will definitely give my dress to this organization.
2007-07-09 07:56:12 · update #3
I just did a "Trash the Dress" photo session yesterday! It was a lot of fun and I think the pictures are going to be great!! I got my dress dirty but it's nothing a good dry cleaning can't fix. The photographer also suggested putting my dress in a hot bath tub with oxyclean to clean it. Even though it's called "trash the dress", most women don't actually completely trash it!! I'm going to donate my dress to the organization that makes the dresses in burial clothing for babies. The site is listed on here a few answers above mine.
My photographer did this for free as a portfolio builder. He's giving me photos of each picture taken in 4X6 and then making 8X10s of whatever I want and providing a picture book of proofs. Anything else I can purchase. I found him on craigslist. There were 2 other photographers that also agreed to do this at no cost to me. craigslist seems to be a good place for this.
I say do it! I had such a great time with it!
2007-07-09 07:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by Des 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it sounds like a sign of committment... cuz if you WERE to remarry, you wouldn't wear the same dress anyways! I think that trashing the dress is symbolic of trashing the wedding. Now sending it off to a charity is a much more "noble" thing to do, because then you are putting some positive karma out there.
I could never bear to trash my dress, but I could probably forward it on to a charity knowing that SOMETHING good would come of the dress.
If it is going to create tension in your new family, why push it? Is it realy worth fighting for? Yes it is your dress - but still............
2007-07-09 13:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the idea of trashing the dress. Check out http://trashthedress.wordpress.com/ They take some gorgeous pictures, but they just ruin the dress in the process. I'm thinking of doing it for my 1st anniversary.
If you sell it, you wont get your money back, so there's really no point. If you save it for your daughter, what are the odds she's really going to want the same style of dress and not get her own new one?
Show your in-laws the gorgeous pictures that can be taken. If they still dont like it, do it anyway and don't tell them. They won't be coming over to raid your closet and check on it anyway, right?
Also, if you want to do something else with the dress afterwards instead of trashing it or keeping it, consider donating it. A lot of charities collect used wedding dresses. They either sell them to raise money or (depending on the dress) give them to low-income high schoolers for prom dresses.
2007-07-09 12:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by corinne1029 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm just not sure how I see that trashing the dress shows any more commitment than storing it, or giving it away. I mean, really...Even if you did get married again, would you wear the same dress to your second wedding? I'm pretty sure I wouldn't.
Did you have the chance to show your inlaws any of the pics? Most of them seem to be well done, and perhaps if they realized the quality of the work, they'd see your side of it.
Go ahead & do it if you want. To me, however, it seems to be more of an advertisement for the photographers than anything else...Oh, yeah, and a chance to wear the dress again.
Can you convince your fiance to buy his tux, instead of renting it, and then trash them both? It could be fun to have some pics of the both of you in your nifty outfits.
2007-07-09 14:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! You are only getting married once, and it doesn't matter what your in-laws think. If anything, as long as your then husband is ok with it, go for it!
I personally plan to have some pictures taken the day after my wedding that are "trash the dress!"
P.S. For those who haven't heard about Trash the Dress, here is a great website http://trashthedress.com/
2007-07-09 12:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well i have never heard of trashing the dress before. I would keep it as a memo of the day was it brand new? If it was then i would defo keep it if it was second hand then i would trash it after all it is someone else trash and could be fun, to trash it.
Good luck with the wedding!
2007-07-09 12:32:37 · answer #6 · answered by kinkyk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of any tradition of chucking your wedding dress! It wouldn't have that meaning anyway, because no one wears the same dress at their second or third wedding anyway.
You could donate it somewhere, or give it to a consignment store, you wouldn't have to advertise it, but you'd get something out of it.
Not many girls want to wear a 30 year old dress to their wedding. It is all about finding the perfect dress. It sounds nice to say one's daughter can wear it, but nobody does.
2007-07-09 12:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never head of that, BUT I have heard of them cutting it up and making a quilt or a few throw pillows out of it to keep the sentiment but not the actual dress. Other than that I wouldn't advise trashing the thing... it has sentiment behind it and if you had it made into a quilt or a throw I think your hubby might appriciate snuggling up to you in it....OR you can have a christening outfit made for your future children (if you plan on baptizing). There's lots of ways to keep a dress but not really keep it, ya know?
2007-07-09 12:30:59 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of that. There are so many other creative thigns to do with your dress. The best I've heard so far is to have a taylor make the train into a baby blanket. If you are religious, you can also make a christening outfit out of the material. I would have done that, but my son was chistened in August last year...too hot for heavy satin!
2007-07-09 12:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by Level Headed, I hope 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The dress is yours. You may do with it as you please once you're done with it.
I kept mine and have no regrets. In fact, after all the effort I put into making it, there's no way in heck I'd consider destroying it! But if you'd rather trash yours, then by all means, have at it.
On the other hand, if you'd like to pass the gown on in a good cause, here are a couple:
http://heavenlyangelsinneed.com/WeddingGowns.html
http://www.makingmemories.org/brides_against_breast_cancer.html
Then the gown is no longer your problem, but it's gone on to do some good to someone.
2007-07-09 12:34:41 · answer #10 · answered by gileswench 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋