I have a friend, lovely girl, she is a bit on the chubby side. She decided to go for an untraditional wedding dress. It's light pink. She honestly looks like a pig. The dress is REALLY tight and shows ever roll. She has kind of a stubb nose and there are a lot of ruffles on the dress and she is wearing a weird pint hat. She is totally a nice girl, and usually very good looking. But it is amazing, she looks like a pig (the animal). I was not hte only one to notice the resemblace at her fitting, but we were all too afraid to tell her. It is wrong to just give her a head's up? Maybe an anonymous letter. She's my friend, and I don't want her asking us later why we didn't stop her.
2007-07-09 05:18:02 · 25 answers · asked by Whiskey Tango Foxtrot 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I don't understand why you want to be friends with a fat person.(I wouldn't)
Maybe you need to look at yourself.Do you see any self respect there.
2007-07-09 05:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋
She likes the dress. SHe obviously has eyes & picked what she liked for her body. Is it the most flattering? Maybe not, but she's the one wearing it & she obviously saw something about it she liked. And the idea of an anonymous letter is insane, I highly doubt that many people have seen her in the dress & she'll be able to figure out a handful of people it could be from & it will cause nothing but hurt feelings. She won't look back & ask why you didn't stop her. I've seen people get married in some ugly dresses before, years later they still talk about how wondeful they felt that day.
2007-07-09 09:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by layla983 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could kinda of ask her questions like is she sure this is the dress, but I would say NO you cannot tell her she looks like a pig in it...I think if she already bought the dress, why make her feel bad about it./..... also if she likes it that's all that matters, there is nothing worse than the bride feeling ugly on her wedding day, so by you saying something might casue that.... hey just be glad that its not your wedding dress, but let her enjoy it if that's what she wants..... I am sure her husband will think she looks amazing and that's all that really matters.
2007-07-09 05:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she had asked your opinion before she bought the outfit, then you'd have done well to attempt to steer her in a different direction. At this point, though, it's too late. She bought the dress and is having it fitted to her.
Once it gets to that stage, it's too late. Don't tell her she's ugly in her wedding gown, and certainly don't send an anonymous note. That's not only cruel, but cowardly as well.
I know you mean well, but this is one of those situations where saying anything will label you as a bad friend.
And if your friend doesn't see it now, chances are she never will. If one day she does, you two can share a rueful chuckle at it.
2007-07-09 05:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i looked like looked like a pig, i would hope* my best friend in the world would tell me. when i was trying on my dress, i saw a little chubby girl putting on a dress and i am sorry,she looked like a sausage roll. it had long sleeves and she was poking out. i was like :O but her maid of honor told her how pretty she was and i was mad.
her wedding day is the most important day of her life and do you want her looking at her wedding pictures 5 years from now and crying that she looked awful?
i would try to say tactfully if she asked you that that dress was really not made for her. i know she would have to spend more money to get a new dress, but would you not want her to look bad*. Heck, she might blame you for not talking her out of her moment of craziness.
i would not come to her in a group, that would embarrass her more. sit down and explain you think there is a better dress choice out there for her. perhaps she is blinded by all the details that she does not see what she looks like. be honest. honestly can hurt sometimes, but people need to hear it.
2007-07-09 05:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by Christina V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she asks your opinion then you should tell her you think she could have made a better choice without all the details about her looking like a pig. If she is a wonderful person then the last thing you want to do is hurt her feelings. If she doesn't ask you then I wouldn't say anything to her or anyone else about the dress, after all it is her special day and if she likes it then that is really all that matters, right?
2007-07-09 05:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by CINDY J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! If she's already chosen, ordered and had fittings in this dress it is TOO LATE to tell her that you don't like it. She has already spent a ton of cash on it, and wedding dresses aren't return-able. If it's too tight, it should be alterred to allow a little more breathing room. Hopefully the seamstress will take care of that after the fitting.
Keep your mouth shut and find something else to compliment her on, like her hair or make up. Or just tell her that she is so cutting-edge to be wearing a pink dress. Lovely shade of pink, by the way.
2007-07-09 05:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by corinne1029 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what kind of relationship you have and how she would take it. An alternative is to suggest taking pictures of her in the dress, tell her it's a good way to make sure the fit is right and that she doesn't want to change anything. Maybe when she sees herself she will change her mind, sometimes we don't realize how bad we look until we see a photograph. If she doesn't change her mind, forget about it. You tried your best and it is her day.
2007-07-09 21:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by lkn4trth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a good friend, take her aside one day at lunch or dinner and tell her that the dress she selected doesn't do her justice and is not really appropriate. Tell her that you don't want her to make a fool of herself and that is why you are speaking out. Tell her you are only telling her this out of friendship and you don't want people snickering and laughing behind her back. Hopefully she will take it well. Tell her that there are so many gorgeous wedding gowns that she could buy, and why buy something that is so unbecoming to her. Say that the decision is up to her, but as her good friend, you felt obliged to tell her the truth. It is a tough call, but if my best friend was buying a gown that she would make a fool of herself on her wedding, I would surely tell her the truth, no matter what.
2007-07-09 09:05:54 · answer #9 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Golly, tell her and FAST.
But be nice about it. Do it one on one and in private, like in the car, so nobody can be overhearing you.
Start by asking permission to be straight with her. Tell her you have something to say and you're afraid that she's not going to like hearing it, but you know that not telling her would be worse.
Then say, very gently, "I love you, you're such a good friend to me, and I want your wedding day to be absolutely perfect because you deserve it. But I have to confess to you, the dress you picked out isn't very flattering for you. I know you love it, but it's hiding your beauty, not enhancing it. I would really love to help you pick out something that really makes the most of who you are."
Whatever you do, do NOT tell her that people are talking about it behind her back. This is just you coming to her as a friend.
If she protests, then you can suggest that the two of you get another opinion on it, and choose a friend or relative that she finds completely trustworthy on the subject.
Hurry, though, before it's too late for her to get her deposit back.
2007-07-09 06:01:48 · answer #10 · answered by sparki777 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really care for your friend then you should tell her. She wouldn't want to look like a big pig on her wedding day. She should be comfy in the dress, and also like the style
if not then I would go to Davids Bridal
so yeah
heres the link
http://www.davidsbridal.com/woman_return_bridal_viewall.jsp
2007-07-09 05:25:30 · answer #11 · answered by J3nn@ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋