I am looking for what YOU would do in this situation, please.
2007-07-09 05:15:49 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am 22, have one child who's 2 (lover her to death). Me and him are friends, well obviously more. He said it jokingly, but I'm not sure what he really feels. I don't know yet, but I'd keep it no matter what. He says he wants another child, so I don't know what he meant by that. We have not been using protection (we've been tested for stds)
2007-07-09 05:30:17 · update #1
both of us have means of providing for another child.
2007-07-09 05:30:54 · update #2
It is quite obvious that he enjoys the benefits but is not ready for the responsibility. I would advise that you take care of yourself and not get pregnant because it is ultimately on you. Please don't get pregnant and assume that it is someone else's responsibility to assist in taking care of the baby. You also know better because you already have one child. If "YOU" can not afford it, don't do it.
2007-07-09 06:21:33 · answer #1 · answered by kelliwpns 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and i talked about this before having sex. I told him my position on abortions (I would never have one) We came to the agreement that if something happened that we would keep the baby if possible or if not give it up for adoption.
If he did ask, i would tell him that no matter what i would at least go through with the pregnancy, I he wanted to be part of his child's life then he could but if not then as disappointed as i would be i could get by with out him. Thankfully he wants children as much as i do and we have been lucky enough to not run into any problems yet.
2007-07-09 05:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by devious_angel993 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that life is a gift and that no person on earth has the right to do that to an innocent unborn child. If he's a man at all, the moment he becomes a dad, it'll change everything.
Remember, pregnancy is not the end of the world. Sure, things will change a lot, but you just have to rearrange some priorities so you can be a good parent.
2007-07-09 05:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by john61484 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
can you provide a good life for 2 children on your own? can you give them the necessaties and then some? a life of struggling and subjecting poor innocent children to that is unfair. I personally do not condone abortion but....i would do it if i knew that 2, 3, 8 years down the road i couldn't give my kids a life they deserved. I mean think about it, do you want to live off welfare and the system, can you get a good job? can you be a mom to your children without sacrifice? I have 2 children, both teenagers now, it was hard and i couldn't do it alone -
2007-07-09 05:44:18 · answer #4 · answered by fosmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although I am a female I sympathize with guys who suddenly find their girlfriend is pregnant and is scared and will say this - I understand why he woudlnt wnt to be a part of it.. (some girls lie and say they are on protection, and other times protection fails)
I would either have the abortion, give baby for adoption or keep it.. BUT if I made the choice to keep it I would NOT expect him to pay for or be around in the future - I feel very bad for guys who dont want to be dads and the girls know it and yet try to drain him for every cent due to them keeping a baby they also cannot afford..
I would NEVER keep a baby I could not afford on my own. and lets face it not too many can (I dont beleive in dumping kids in day care either)
2007-07-09 05:22:45 · answer #5 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would decide for myself. If I did decide to keep the baby then I would deal with the fact that I would probably be a single mom, but maybe he would come around. I would take full responsibility though because I shouldnt have been intimate if I didnt take all necessary precautions or talked about it at first. If I wasnt mature enough to talk to my partner about the possibility of getting pregnant then I would obviously not have been ready to be intimate with someone.
2007-07-09 05:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask how old are you?
How old is he?
Have you been together for awhile
are you able to support the baby alone or with help?
If you can, his loss and think about raising the baby -
I don't know how old you are or how long you have been a couple - so that raises my questions more and there isn't a good answer here - if I was 17 and he was too and we had plans for our future (college) I don't know -
If I was 21 and he was too and we could have this baby ?
If I had parents I could turn to ?
2007-07-09 05:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by kelly e 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the decision is up to you. He is required by law to support your decision.
In my case I was told by my boyfriend that he would pay for my abortion. But i TOLD him before I even got pregnant that abortion was out of the question. I dont believe in killing and I feel strongly against it for my sake and piece of mind, I couldnt do it. That was it end of discussion. In my case I have also got strong medical conditions and extreme risks are involved, but I knew that before and I choose to proceed. I have faith in God and know that somehow I will make it through. With or without him, I can do this. He has decided to support my decision and now we are looking forward to the birth of our daughter. We have been very fortunate to have friends and family helping us. I hope that we will be able to find affordable daycare or be able to trade care with someone else. I am wishing you the best as well. But remember the decision is yours to make not his. Be ready to do this on your own if you have to.
2007-07-09 05:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by pegasis 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People have phases in their life when they are more ready or less ready for a baby. Unfortunately, too, they get pregnant with guys they barely know, or don't want to be with for the long haul. If abortion were right for me at that point, I'd tell him to write a check for half, and call it a day. If I wanted to pursue other options, I'd walk away, and pursue them, without him.
2007-07-09 05:25:51 · answer #9 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tell him that abortion is not an option for me. He will just have to face his responsibilities and help me out with the baby. If he is not willing to do that then it is over between us and I would talk to a lawyer right away because even if he doesn't want to be responsible for the baby, he is just as responsible for it as I am.
2007-07-09 05:32:02 · answer #10 · answered by kat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋