My boyfriend have broken up about 11 times. We do it as an impulse sometimes when we're mad or something. Then a few hours later of next five minutes we'll get back together. Now we laugh about it so just wondering is that normal? or does it look like we're not taking each other seriously? We have so many problems with eachother but we just can't seem to let go of the way we feel I guess. The most we've been apart was about a week. Throughout the week we would just look at eachother from across the hall way at school or stare at eachother with frowns. Not talking to him for a day breaks my heart it was like gasping for air that my lungs woudln't take in. I couldn't breathe then we got back together and everything was okay again. I was happy all over again. What the hell is wrong with me??
2007-07-09 04:01:53 · 11 answers · asked by Jane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it is only for a couple hours, I hardly consider that a breakup. Maybe if you breakup for a couple days or weeks, than that would be considered a breakup. Anything else is just stupid things said in anger.
2007-07-09 04:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by hotchic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to have trouble figuring out whether a problem is serious enough to end a relationship with someone you care about over, but your method of handling it isn't healthy. It's not helping you to solve the problems you have when you're together, and it's not allowing you to move on if that's what you need to do.
Next time (and it sounds like there will be one), either take a step back before you decide to split and figure out what needs to be done to fix the problem, or break up and give yourself time (i.e. more than a week) to get through the initial panic of not having him and the comfort of your routine together. Then, if you do decide you still miss each other, take things slowly and work through the problems before jumping back into the relationship as it was. It'll hurt regardless of the outcome, but you'll ultimately be stronger for it.
2007-07-09 11:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by MM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not normal for u to to keep breaking up and the way u describe everyhting sounds like what me and my bf went through not to long ago. the best thing that worked for us was we broke up for about a mos but we still talked but in the end that mos did us a lot of good bc before all that we fought over stupid things and now 5 mos after our break up were happy like when we first met and dont fight anymore. so i say u need to just take a couple weeks or so away from each other but still talk. dont cut each other out of ur lives bc thats hard and its very stressful on u
2007-07-09 11:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need to stop playing the break -up game. Everytime something goes wrong you two break up. It shows that ya'll are not serious and not ready for a long term relatonship. In a real relationship you don't bail over every little thing. Its time to grow up and finally break-up for good, because ya'll are just not ment to be.
2007-07-09 11:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, part of it is teenage schizo hormones is all. You don't have to grow up but then you do. You want a big relationship but then you don't. You can be 40 or 10 so why not? It's nice to be in the middle. Enjoy it. It's over quick.
2007-07-09 11:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by Kathleen b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got same kind of relationship with you. i often have break up with my bf and after will be back together.you tent to feel tired of this realtionship after some time. (that hw i feel) even no matter how you make thing right, thing just don't goes right at all. mayb you try to have a nice talk with him, mayb there are misunderstanding between you both. if don't work y not give up this relationship.
2007-07-09 11:14:08 · answer #6 · answered by qinny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you thats just love if you guys get back together thats a part of most relationships many people break up and get back together because of love...Others...never back together.
2007-07-09 11:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by Hotmom1216 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys keep breaking up..its not going to work. Sorry..find somone else that makes you happier and laugh all the time, not just wehn you get baack together.
2007-07-09 11:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by HeyMs.DJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that maybe you guys are just young. you sound like me and my high school sweetheart. i don't think anything is wrong with you, it's just what some young people do. game playing sort of thing. relationships get a little better when you're older
2007-07-09 11:07:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not normal to break up every 10 minutes....maybe you need some time apart. you are possibly need to come out of your comfort zone and meet new people and go out. good luck
2007-07-09 11:07:16 · answer #10 · answered by $martA$$.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋