Incase you didn't read my previous thread, to put a long story short, my first boyfriend ever of 8 months who I fell so in love with has been cheating me since the first day with his ex, while the both of us were clueless. We both found out the truth a few days ago, when she showed up at his house the same day I happened to be there. She literally went insane on him, but he looked right into my eyes said; "I love you so much and i'd never lie to you, we're getting married remember?" I believed him like the idiot I am. But yesterday I got together with her, i've both seen and heard all the proof I needed. Whenever I caught him in a lie in the months we've been together, he'd remind me of one of his ex's (who killed herself) and would use it as a method for me to stay with him by guilt trips. These past days, I also found out he made up that ex for his personal advantage. He's disgusting. He has private pictures of both me and the girl I got together with (whom he cheated with and on)
2007-07-09 03:23:27 · 23 answers · asked by princess3arabi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
on his laptop, and we know he'll use them against us once I confront him. So her plan is that I take him out somewhere to confront him, while she sneaks in his house to grab his laptop, then after she's gonna send two guys after him to beat him up bad. I don't know if I can go along with that, even though I know he deserves so much worst. My boyfriend's a thug himself, so I know he can fend for himself, but still. I still care about him, my love was real, even though his was untrue. I never want anything to do with him no more, but I don't want to have anything to do with him getting beat up either. Should I just go along with the plan? And if I don't, she's gonna carry on with it anyway with the help of her cousins.. so should I warn him? I don't know what to do PLEASE help i'm so torn up please
2007-07-09 03:23:34 · update #1
If you have access to the laptop get rid of the pictures,then kick his cheating butt to the curb...
2007-07-09 03:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you were being true and honest and he did in fact lie straight to your face. I know I am not the type of person to resort to direct violence but if it's going to happen reguardless just let it. Warning him would just feed into the hold he thought he had over you. He was playing you from the start and he depends on using you for whatever suits him.
Maybe after a session of hostile negotiations will he realize what it feels like to get betrayed. Let him get a smack down. He has to learn one way or another that the game he plays on innocent women reflects upon the rest of the male gender.
The more he plays the more every real honest guy in this world has to work to prove that they aren't a lying, cheating punk. And as for the guilt trips in which he used...he deserves a but whoopin'. The devil himself doesn't do guild so what makes him better?
Sorry the truth hurts like hell.
2007-07-09 03:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by AJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've gotten mixed up in something that has no good way out. If you go along with the plan your looking at jail time. His ex will roll over on you and tell that you were a part of it. She won't go down alone on this one because even though she is playing like you are cool, she doesn't like you because you were messing with her man. If you tell her you don't want any part of it then she might get mad and put 2 girls on you to give you a smackdown. Then you have the jerk to deal with...if you tell him, he's going to come up with his own plan which will include violence I'm sure. I think you should tell the girl you don't want involved and your walking away because he's not worth getting thrown in the slammer. Then just walk away. Leave them all behind....including the pics. I mean lets face it, you kind of deserve that one yourself for being so dumb to pose for such pics in the first place. Next time you "fall in love" don't play ameture porn star!
2007-07-17 00:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by Cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your in over your head here. Having him beat up could lead to someone getting seriously hurt or worse yet, dead. You need to tell his ex that he is not worth that effort and its best if you ask to use his laptop then delete the pictures yourself. (if he wont leave you alone with it, tell him with a sweet smile you have a chocolate or ice cream craving) I hate to say this but theres still a chance he has them stored somewhere online too. You are right to not want to go through with her plan. If she says shes doing it anyway, tell her your going to call the police or just find out when and where and call the cops without her knowing. Violence is not the answer and is way too risky. I wish you the best of luck with this.
2007-07-09 03:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by Tasim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
warn him sweetheart. He might be a jerk, he might deserve a good thumping. But you said cousinS, plural. That's not fair. He could get seriously injure/killed. Don't go along with it. That stuff tends to get out of hand. And you could wind yourself up in jail because you were the one who was involved with it! It would be stupid to do this. Let him know, on the phone, oh, and tell him i think he's a jerk too okay? haha. Your better than that, you don't need someone like him. Hope this helps, Goodluck. Oh, and if he does use those pictures to get back at y ou, call the cops. They'll fix that quick.
2007-07-09 03:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what u should be concerned of is how to get those pictures deleted from his laptop fast. as for him being a good guy, it's obvious he's playing on your emotions. he'll only make u little even in your own eyes. don't get involved in any gang beating. you might pay dearly for it if things go bad. tell him of d plan if d other girl still insists on carrying on with it & let her know u'll tell. stay away from thugs they only bring trouble.
2007-07-17 01:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by nkemnonchalant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing you can do to hurt him, is leave him looking like the better person..He'll wonder later on in life what he lost but it will be too late. I wouldn't have anything to do with the beating and don't get dragged into it!
2007-07-09 03:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by Honey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should not get involved in any of these things. Don't agree to her plan but don't stop her either. Stop all contacts with ppl like this.. This could ruin your life, you could end up being locked up in jail a long time...
Seriously, just move on with your life and find someone better.
2007-07-09 03:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by deadbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let this girl take care of him.And no you shouldn't let him know what's happening because he didn't care to let you know the truth.He was doing his ex behind your back and was disrespecting you and lying to you so basically he's a bastard and he will deserve whatever he gets besides you said he's a thug so he'll be alright.
2007-07-09 03:37:00 · answer #9 · answered by Alina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he deserves to be punished for acting like a dirty dog that he is...I am kind of going throught the same problem with this guy and his ex but I think they are dating...Well you don't necessarily have to go along with the plan just find your own way of confronting him and have fun while doing it.
2007-07-09 03:30:04 · answer #10 · answered by Hotmom1216 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋