What do you think? What's wrong with this guy?

Question

So the guy I was dating... said he would call me back in 10 minutes --- that was last Tuesday --- and he never did. Then Saturday I get a text saying "Hey what's up - I just tried to call you..." and I didn't reply ( I had no missed calls) and then I get a MySpace message from him yesterday... I still haven't replied. What's wrong with this guy?

I refuse to play these games. It was rude of him not to call back. He knew we had plans that night and I am better than that. Now I feel like he's trying to worm his way back in...

uhhh -this was not the first time he pulled this -- I was cool about it when he did it before... I have let him slide a lot... he knows better.

Answer 1

Go with your gut. If you feel like he's lying this early in the game (and trust me, to him it's a game) then it'll only get worse if things develop between you.

On the other hand . . .

There is a female I like a lot but I don't want to have a relationship with her because she's 4 hours away. Sometimes I feel like talking to her, but I know our conversations are usually long and involved . . . so I will not call her if I know I don't have time for one of our usual conversations.

Also, my friends sometimes call me and I don't have a missed call message on my phone. (I have no reason to disbelieve my friends male and female) Soemtimes it's just a jacked-up situation with your carrier.

But unless you really like him, what's the point? If your alarrms went off, trust them. There is a chance that all he said really happened the way he said it did. But if you feel it didn't then I'd go with your original feelings. You just have to decide for yourself wheter he's worth another shot, or if he's just going to be annoying with the games.

Answer 2

First, he may be playing games but the nut of it is that you want to be a higher priority in his life and I think that's what you should tell him. Not responding to his messages is just as much gamesmanship, in my humble opinion, as what he's doing. You have a decision to make: is this guy worth you investing time and energy to improve the relationship or do you just want to pull the plug. If the latter, send him a message telling him so. Tell him your decision is final and that you will not be communicating with him again. Also make sure he knows that any communication from him will be most unwelcome and grounds for a harassment charge with the police.

If, on the other hand, you want to try to make it work, you need to make him invest in the relationship by making you a higher priority and honoring his commitments. In either case you need to be very clear about your expectations. If he's that into you, he'll shape up and if not, cut your losses.

Answer 3

Why don't you just address this, and tell him you that you thought it was rude and inconsiderate of him to not call considering you had plans. I mean if this is a taste of what you're going to be getting, I say cut your losses now. But you feel it's worth salvaging, then I'd stall him out and have plans, be busy, unavailable. . I mean the worst thing you can do with guys is be too available and too needy - even if you don't have a life, act like you do. . make him wonder what you're up to! Like you said, you're better than that - one monkey don't stop the show!

Answer 4

You're the one not replying. Just text him, if you think he's messing you about again, then just leave it. He might not have phoned when he said (maybe the phoneline was broken?) but he did text you and sent a message on myspace, he is kinda trying a bit. The worst thing you can do, is play silly childish games back.

Answer 5

You know what's goin' on. There's only something wrong with him if you find this to be a problem. Some women like this because we tend to, like men, chase or want something that we can have at the time. He should had apologized to you on MySpace about it. He was hoping that you'd forget about it, too. He's done having his fun with his plans and he's thinking that you're gonna be there now. I wouldn't give him my time of day.

Answer 6

It seems pretty obvious that he is not as into you as you would like. For a relationship to work, both parties have to be on the same page and looking for the same thing out of the relationship of its gonna end badly for the one who wants more. You are better off not worrying about him and tyring to find someone else to occupy your time with. He sounds like he is not capable of rising up to your level anyway. There are millions of good guys out there... don't waste your precious time one of the not so good ones. You are indeed better then that... better then him.

Dan

Answer 7

Love is not a game, and you are not a pawn to be played with. Be blunt with him, if you can get a hold of him. Guys typically avoid when they are losing interest. Be careful, hope for the best - but prepare for the worst.

Remember, you deserve to be treated like the princess that you are. If this guy isn't treating you like that, then you owe it to yourself to end it and move on.

Answer 8

Well you not replying back is a good payback. I hate people that say they'll call back and they don't, it's just plain rude. Now that he has done what he has, you need to stay patient and let him burn a little then eventually message/call him back.

Answer 9

DUMP HIM.Life is to short to play games.There will be time for games when you git married.LOL Look you can't run every time you git mad or you will never be with any one fo long.If you like him just hound him about it.If not then move on.

Answer 10

yea, you know what...he soudns like a jerk to me. If he was truly interested in you, he WOULD have called back in ten minutes. Don't let him play you. Hope this helps, Goodluck :)