what changes a person?

Question

can depression and goin through alot of bad things change u mentally i been goin through it and i feel i'm a different person i wanna b my normal self i wanna b happy again i'm not happy i dont care sometimes confidence is low worry too much and wen i think something i believe it i'm not the person i use to b and i kno it aint jus growin up i just wanna b the way i was happy i have a job i see a counsleor and about to go to school how long will this take to take affect and make me better

Answer 1

you are still very young so you will be changing your character, moods,emotions,vieuws etc. all time...dont worry about it.Happiness is seen and felt in moments...so try to do happy things,read happy books and talk to happy people,its very contageous you know.No use looking back ,the BEST of is yet to come

Answer 2

You're right. If you let this go on, it will change your personality, your mind, your confidence, everything.

Honey, if you're just seeing a counselor, it isn't going to get better. The counselor doesn't have what you need--medication. You need to see a psychiatrist--a specialist who prescribes meds for depression. Some meds are fast, and some take up to 6 weeks to become fully effective.

My message is: get help. You need your feet under you so you can finish school, keep up with the job, be happy again. You need and deserve to be happy. Get help. If you don't have a psychiatrist already, ask your counselor to recommend someone. Depression is a very treatable disorder. A lot of people feel a lot better very soon. That could be you.

Debbie

Answer 3

Yes sadly yes when you experience certain things it forever changes you and you will never be back to who you were that doesn't mean you can't be better in a way. I was this nice happy girl but when I was 15 my brother died and I lost it I became someone new I hated the world I was cold and mean it was so different I was suicidal a cutter it was bad I went from a girl who was so naive thought the world was amazing to a girl who just saw hatred and betrayal. It was hard for me to let go of that felling. And I'm almost 25 and I know I'll never be that naive girl doesn't mean I can't be a woman with hope I don't see the world as hate anymore but I'm aware that's it's there. I tried to turn my negative experience and try to find a meaning for it and it's shaped me into a strong independent woman who people can count on and even a loving mother. And it feels good so maybe don't focus on being who you were but being the best that you can be. ^_^ DJ

Answer 4

Experiences that we have in life contribute to who we are for better and for worse. It's up to us to take the good from life's experiences and not allow the about to embark on some major life changes could be scary, but it is also a new beginning that you should look forward to. Just as the experiences in your past have helped to mold you, allow the future to be a positive aspect of change for the person that you are and are becoming. A positive frame of mind goes a long way. It helps if you see it that way. Gradually as you immerse yourself in what lies ahead you will begin to feel better. It's inevitable. Keep your thoughts positive and believe in yourself. Everything will work out for the best, but you must believe in that. You will be happy again, you deserve it. I wish you all the luck in the world in your future endeavors.

Answer 5

At first the changes seem bad but you will begin to learn through these ups and downs that are life, that everyone is constantly changing.I cant believe how different i am from when i was 13 , I'm 26 now and I'm actually glad i went through alot of rough spots.It helps me appreciate those moments when things are good,things that i worked to make better through "changing".Even good things will change you.Get into your school work and embrace the changes.Everything in this world is constantly changing...its natural.

Answer 6

Are you on medication? What are you depressed about? If you are on medication, you will feel weird during the introduction to your body, but once the chemicals have reached the appropriate level, you should start to feel better. I suffer from low confidence, but then feel better when I realize that just about everyone does (some hide it with a big ego, but sit home with private thoughts of inadequacy). Concentrate on school, continue to see your counselor and you will work your way out of this funk....be patient and remember that life has more ups than downs....but you have to notice them.

Answer 7

You are still you, its hard when you lose confidence the world can be really scary, especially when so much in your life is changing such as starting school.
Mentally things that we go through in life do change us and make us straonger. You're perception of life at the moment sounds like it is different to you're perception of life in the past this would definately impact on your behaviour and the way you feel about yourself. It is important to keep seeing your counsellor, hopefuly when you are settled in at school things will start to seem more promising for you.

Answer 8

Happiness comes from within....There are medications for depression..I take an anti depression pill every day...but I realized that worry does not solve a problem...You have to let go of things you have no control over...Think of all the good things in your life and I bet they will out number the bad.smile ! know you are a good person!!!!! You need a close friend with WIDE sholders and big ears.....Get it off your chest.Write down how you feel then go backafew days later and read it.. then tear it up.........Think happy thoughts.

Answer 9

you are still depressed, so the emotions will still be there. once you are over depression, you may not be the same person. you change as a person when things like that happen to you. it changes the way you think and see the world. you will still be you, but you may be a little different. you can still be happy and live life just like everyone else. try not to worry about it. i hope your depression ends soon. it really isn't nice to go through. good luck. hang in there.

Answer 10

Depending on your life events and the amount of pain and suffering that has occurred will determine how long it will take to feel better. Everyone is different, but if you start doing things that make you happier and you enjoy or feel accomplishment with then you will start to feel better and better. Like me you will probably still have your down times because I don't think it ever truely goes away but we can all try are best.

Answer 11

My therapist suggested that I read "The Art of Happiness" by the Dalai Lama. I did and it really changed the way I thought about the entire concept of happiness for the better. It's one of those books where you can go an reread chapters again and again when you need the inspiration. You can get it at most book stores, Amazon.com etc. Good luck!