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I am 25 years old and my bf and i have been together for 4 years. he is dependent on his family as they have a business and he works with his parents. our parents are from differet background. both had agreed for our sakes but things tured sour on the way. his parents feel my parenst dont respect them and my parents feel that his parents have an attitude about the money. my bf sides his parents and feels they are right. I am torn between the two. I told my bf that i am ready to leave my parents for him and never speak 2 them if he stands by me. but he says what gurantee that in the future that they will come after me and try to patch up. i have tried to reassure him that i will not. but he is concerned abt the future and his parents. he says that if he marries me his parents will throw him out of the house. my parents say that if u decide to be with him it is your life. why doesnt he trust me ?? does he really love me ??

Answer 1

Blood is thicker than water...DO NOT give up on your parents for a guy..wrong thing to do, and a huge mistake..respect them and listen to what advice they give you!..and if he loved you that much..he would have told you the same thing!..if you want to be with this guy so badly..let him earn your parents respect and visa versa..just hang in there..it will turn out okay :)

Answer 2

Woah! You told him that you would cut all ties to your parents if he stood by you through it??? For someone who is 25 and an adult, you sound like a child.

First off, NO MAN is EVER worth losing your family. From what you say, your parents aren't abusive or demeaning...they just don't get along together. Is it really worth losing them for this man? Would he do the same if the roles were reversed?

Secondly, a marriage is not about tearing two families apart...it's about bringing them together....fusing them. Sit down with him and discuss how you both can change the views of your parents towards each other. Open up a discussion with the families on both sides to see where the problems really lie. If you and he are truly serious about being together, than it is worth the effort to help build a civil relationship between the parents

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Im so sorry that both your parents are being like this. Actually you are 2 grown adults and should be sticking by each other. Your parents shouldnt have a say in anything you do.. An opinion is one thing, but to rule your lives is not right. And im sorry but you shouldnt have to decide that you should give up your family at all. You may need them sometime in your life. No one is worth giving up your family for and your b/f should not expect this in anyway. Both your parents are very overpowering and you should be sticking together and deciding your future and life on your own with or without parents consents. Its hard as he works with his parents.. But to be honest.. they are the ones at fault here not you 2. Please get a grip and tell your parents except who you love and show some respect for you 2. They should lump it or like it.. end of! Good luck to you both.

Answer 5

First off, i think family is very important and you should never turn your back on them or alienate them. And any bf worth being with would not ask you too, or even allow you too. Your family is what made you who you are, for them to criticize them is in a sense a attack on you as well.

Personally, i would tell them, they are my family and part of a package deal. if you don't want them around, you don't want me around.

I know this is not the answer you want to hear and your best answer will likely be someone saying exactly what you already have decided, and want to hear. but i urge you to read what the majority says and really think about any decisions you make. the repercussions may last a lifetime.

Answer 6

Blood is thicker than water. Why would you leave your family for a boyfriend? His parents sound like arrogant snobs. Your parents raised you, and gave life to you. You're boyfriend sticking around is NOT a guarantee. When it's over, you'll have no one, because you ostracized your family,and your precious boyfriend left you. He needs to grow up. If he truly loves you, he wouldn't make you choose between your parents and him/his family. A real man wouldn't do that. He sounds controlling. You're probably better off without HIM.

Answer 7

I suggest, if you both want this "relationship" to work, that you see a marriage counselor. The issues are too complex for easy answers and easy solutions. With that being said, the fact that his parent's "won't let him marry you" and that he accepts that is not a good sign. The fact that you have offered to abandon your family indicates you truly love him, but do not do that. If he truly loved you, he would not allow that. He could love you, but it doesn't look like he is ready to forsake everything for you which would indicate the highest level of love. Get the counseling. This is too complex.

Answer 8

oh girl, look i am 31 and i chose my bf now (my husband) over my family cause they did not think that he was good enough for me and i told them that they where wrong and that they would regret the decision that they have made not to talk to me till i left him.. now it has be 13 years and my family loves him just as much as me. you can not let your parnets choose for you. his parnets as well.... get on your own and let the parnets work there feelings on there own. i hope this help.. it will all work out .. just remember do not say anything that might hurt you later

Answer 9

Well, I think you know he loves you (you've been together 3 years, so I would HOPE)...but it sounds like he is actually fearful of your commitment to him. Regardless, he should not make you choose between him and your own parents. Talk it out.

Answer 10

well i know this is kind of harsh thing to say but i really dont think he trully loves u becz if he did he would hav been there with u supporting u not leaving u alone on ur own i thoght in love one could do anything to get her or his lover but here the case looks different do u really thinks he is the mr.right for u?????????