I was asked to be a bridesmaid in a friend's wedding and agreed. The dresses that the bride chose cost $160. I was told to order my dress by a certain date, which I did-put down the deposit for it ($80 + taxes) and now the wedding is canceled. The bride and groom made a mutual decision to split up and didn't tell anyone about it until after she moved her stuff out a week later. Now all of the bridesmaids are stuck with paying for our dresses. The bride and groom have not expressed any remorse for our financial loss or anything else! We all understand it was a hard decision to make, and want to be supportive but we are all broke college students who are stuck with a new bill now! The bride is not stuck with paying for a dress because she was wearing her mother's wedding dress. Should we ask for help paying for these dresses we will never wear? The bridal shop refuses any refund or even store credit and when the dresses arrive we are lliable for the other half. PLEASE HELP!!!
2007-07-09 02:15:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
the only thing i can think of is when you get the dress.
sell it on ebay and hope you get all your money back?
2007-07-09 02:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one.... I would think the bride and groom could at least help you guys pay for some of it. But if they wont for some reason, I would suggest trying to sell them all together on ebay or see if there is a consignment shop in you town. Maybe there is another wedding that has similar size girls... make sure you let them know that all the dresses are from the same dye lot and u might be able to recover most of your money.
If nothing else, plan a night out on the town and all go out in your dresses, at least u will get to wear them and you will probably get some free drinks when people ask why u are all dressed alike. lol :)
2007-07-09 05:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by legends_chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girl I work with was sort of in the same situation, she was in a wedding and the bridesmaid dresses were 250 each and absolutely horrid, after the wedding they all had them dry cleaned and then sold them on EBay as a set of 5 and split the cost and they each gained close to 150 each for the dresses, so I would ask the bride to help pay some of it and then turn around and sell them as a set on EBay and see if you can get some of the money back on them.
2016-05-17 16:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by lorie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does suck. Your story sounds exactly like mine to a T! Where is this wedding you were supposed to be in? The cost of the dress and the story about the bride and groom splitting and her moving her stuff out & everything sounds just like my friends.
I have this darn dress that I don't want or need and can't do anything about it. I paid for the whole thing already.
It sucks! Sorry girl. Maybe the brides in our case will pay us back for the dresses.
2007-07-09 10:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride needs to pay for these dresses. It doesn't matter if the decision to split was mutual or a hard decision to make. There are consequences to calling off a wedding, and to planning a wedding before you're 100% POSITIVE that it's the right thing to do. Paying for the dresses is one of those consequences.
Talk to her directly and say that she needs to be responsible for the cost of the dresses. Say that it is unfair of her to expect you to pay for a dress that you'll never wear when she is the one who told you to order it and the one who is no longer getting married. If she won't bend, call her mom.
2007-07-09 03:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Did all of you go in at the same time, or dwindle in separately? Try going all in at once to get a refund or store credit and tell them that you want the order canceled. If they refuse, tell them that you refuse to pay for the rest and that you are trying to go about it professionally. Because, you are not liable for something that you do not have in your possession and for something you tried to cancel. If you have to, mail out certified letters to the bridal shop so that you will have a paper trial of trying to cancel the transaction. You might lose your deposit, but you won't be stuck with a dress.
2007-07-09 02:22:05 · answer #6 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are probably going through enough turmoil right now...not that i side with them. Depending on how many of you there are maybe you could ask for help, but your best bet is to hang on to them and hope then she gets married again she'll use the same dresses (and the same girls). Otherwsie sell it on ebay.
It's a sad but this kind of thing does happen....it puts everyone out a lot of money. I think bridal shops should be a bit more considerate in situations like this.
.... (let me guess was it David's Bridal?? LOL I dont trust them but went there anyway...we cash and carried EVERYTHING.)
2007-07-09 03:14:46 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would expect the bride to pay for the unused dresses. That goes with the territory of cancelling the wedding - along with returning gifts etc.
Hopefully you have contacted the shoppe and explained the situation - and perhaps the dresses can be returned - that may cost you the deposit - which, for a poor student is considerable as it is.
If she doesn't volunteer, all of you, together, en masse, should ask her to pay for the dresses.
It's really hard to be supportive when you're getting soaked financially.
2007-07-09 03:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Just don't pay for the other half of the dress and tell the store that you don't want it. They will harass you but they will give up, keep your deposit and put it on the sales rack to make up the other 1/2. Don't feel bad, the store will make up it's lost. But your out the money so don't bother paying the other half of the dress.
2007-07-09 02:31:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
you could make an awesome 4some at the next b&s / d&d ball!
but seriously, that ebay option sounds good. You could even try to sell all the dresses together - that is of course if they match. Some bride to be may be looking for exactly the same colour scheme for her wedding!!
2007-07-09 02:29:19 · answer #10 · answered by deepazure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately the only way to get your money back is for the bride to reimburse you or to sell it on ebay or craigslist. I think craigslist is your best bet. I still have a dress in the back of my closet from the same situation. The bride never even offered to pay us back, much less apologize for it in the first place.
2007-07-09 02:23:37 · answer #11 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋