Me and my boyfriend has a good, strong relationship but sometimes we get to the point when we think about the future when we will have children we do not know what religion we can have for our children, someday. My family and his our sometimes even quarrelling in this situation., of course, we have different kinds of ceremonies but we have both desame faith in God. I sometimes would even frawn in dissapointment on why certain religions would come up with in this world, like what ive asked before[why couldn't the world have only one religion?], . i would cry to God.. I love him so much but RELIGIONS, RELIGIONS, RELIGIONS. of course, we cant force people to believe in this and that, but it really is very unpleasant to think of my situation. we love each other so much and one very big problem is heading our path and maybe brake us apart or, being optimistic, we would have prosperity in life, if possible... HELP PLEASE I need advices regarding my situation, i dnt really know what to do.='(
2007-07-09 02:13:23 · 18 answers · asked by Gretta Vela 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
They are NOT different religions ,They are different in the way you practice them .They both represent CHRISTIANITY.
You wonder why Atheists think this is all so ridiculous?
Your "LOVE" for each other should be #1
2007-07-09 02:19:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
well your faith is always one of the most important things you have, your faith and spirituality. If you and your boyfriend really believe you will get married one day then don't force each other to convert, if either of you do you will still have the difference in beliefs but only a new title to call yourself, the problem if it is one still remains. If you have kids with someone of another faith and your worried about which religion to bring them into, let the child decide when they are old enough, the best way probably to make them informed enough to make the decision is to take them to a Unitarian Universalist Sunday School, there the child will be taught a relatively unbiased view of religion, and every religion available will be taught to the child so it may grow up and choose which it wants to be a part of. At least then you can fully know that your child is happy and has a faith it can believe in, instead of blindly following the one you try to make it follow.
2007-07-09 05:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by Benotafraid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what I've experienced and seen in my life, different religions can work IF neither one is very religious... like, you can say you're a Christian or a Jew, but not practice it or attend services. If both people are very involved with the belief system of their respective religion and attend services at their respective places of worship, it may become a big issue- especially after the children start coming and get to an age where you want them to start learning about religion and G-d. You may think this isn't a reason to break-up, but I assure you that it very well could lead to huge problems down the road and it will be much more difficult to break-up at that point. If your religious believes are that important to you, I would suggest not dating anyone outside your religion, so you don't have this particular problem to deal with. I know, I would never date outside my religion, nor would my children or grandchildren for just these reasons. Good Luck to you!
2016-05-17 16:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by lorie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a practicing Catholic, you are also "born again". Evangelicals do not have an exclusive on this.
I'd advise that you and your boyfriend both start attending RCIA classes so he can see exactly what the Church teaches, and why (and you'll probably learn more about your faith, as well). It's not just for converts. You'll be much better able to come to an understanding about what role religion will play in your future, including any children, when you have the facts.
Your families need to stay out of this. It's a matter between the two of you.
2007-07-09 02:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by Clare † 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Inter-faith relationships and marriages can work - but they require far more effort on the part of the spouses than, say, a married couple sharing a common religion/denomination.
Be thankful that you and yours have the foresight to see apparent complications before you are married. Altogether too many inter-faith married couples don't even consider the possibilities until after they're married.
Personally, I am not fond of inter-faith marriages. I've got nothing against the idea of Catholics marrying non-Catholics. It's just that life in general throws enough curve balls as you. You get even more thrown at you when you're married. In inter-faith marrige, especially one that is showing friction the way your's does, that's like going up to bat, facing all the curve balls, when you're already down by two strikes.
In order for it to work, you and your spouse MUST learn the Christian concept of BIG-TIME self-sacrifice, because that's what it is going to take to make your marriage work.
Find a way to pray together, because the family that prays together stays together.
2007-07-10 04:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by Daver 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have Faith and Trust in God, let him lead your heart and not others, Pray to God and study the word, Jesus isn't a religion but he is a Relationship. Others may tell you that its ok for a Catholic and Christian to be together but it will cause much conflict and debate. Their is only One Truth, is it the Catholic way or the other way? Don't go by your belief but go by what Gods word says. The Roman Catholic Church does follow the traditions of man and not the bible.
2007-07-09 02:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
I kind of know where you are going through. My husband was a catholic and I a Protestant (we're living in The Netherlands). We posponed our wedding because of all the differentes. Eventually the answer for us was, to find a church where we're both happy/in our place. To us God is more important than anything (even our relationship). Off course we have different opinions about religion, but the most important thing is, that you can agree on this: God is my Father. His Son, Jesus, died in order to rescue us. If you believe in Him you are saved and He will live in you through the Holy Spirit.
Pray together with your boyfriend. It's the most powerfull tool you have!
God bless you
Love, Marcia
2007-07-09 03:05:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the moment you are both in a religious wilderness. As a Catholic, you come from a tradition of 'smells & bells', and have been asked to put your trust in popes and cardinals rather than in God. Likewise, your boyfriend is a heretic, who probably speaks in tongues and expects to be raptured and things. He will, however, probably have a copy of the King James bible, and the pair of you will both be able to use it if you recant and join the Episcopalian church. Which is not perfect, but would probably be better for you both. Also it would be something you could do together, so would be fun and soul redeeming at the same time.
2007-07-09 02:42:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is your Catholic faith important to you? Is it important enough to you to want to raise your children in the faith?
If it is, then how does your boyfriend feel about your children being baptized as infants and being taught that the bread and wine become the Body and Blood of Christ at Mass, that they need to confess their sins to a priest for forgiveness, that there is value and merit in asking the saints in Heaven for their prayers? These are some of the BIG differences.
I guess it comes down to which is more important in your life, your Catholic faith or your boyfriend? Can you find another faith that means as much to you as the Catholic faith? can you find another boyfriend that means as much to you as your current boyfriend?
Wow, Jeanmarie, do you know how offensive you are?!?!?
2007-07-09 02:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by Sldgman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is serious, and should be resolved before you move on with your relationship. There is only one God. You are both serving the same God through different religious customs. Those customs were made by man. God is a rewarder of those who dilligently seek Him. You can do that through his belief system or yours. You are both Christians. Realize that, and find a way that you can come to agreement without compromising what you believe in. It CAN be done! Best wishes.
2007-07-09 02:21:19 · answer #10 · answered by Char 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if your boyfriend it really "born-again", then consider it a blessing that you have a serious relationship with him at all.
is he trying to convert you??
if he is not, then he is not serious about his salvation ... or yours.
(my husband was raised catholic & i was raised methodist. we hungered after God so hard, He removed us from those denominations & led us straight to an apostolic church. apostolic.... meaning we believe like the apostles ... we believe, teach, & receive all that they believed, taught & received from Jesus Christ.)
scripture has much to say about the catholic faith ... none of it good.
the only way to heaven to is become a born-again child of God ...... that is, obey the Gospel ...
- obey Jesus' death by repentance
- obey His burial by baptism in Jesus' Name (not the titles of Father, Son & Holy Ghost --- titles have no power to remit sin)
- obey His resurrection by the receiving of His Spirit w/ the evidence of speaking in other tongues as God's Spirit gives you the ability.)
why would anyone read the book of acts & call what the apostles believed, taught & did a cult???
if you call it a cult, it screams that you don't believe HOW Jesus said we must be born again (john 3).
it means that you don't care that He suffered death to create the Plan of Redemption for us all.
doing things the way Jesus taught the apostles is not a cult ...
it's what the apostles did & what the early church did.
do you think the apostles were part of a cult???
it is what they taught.... it is what they did.
read the history book of the church ... the book of acts.
it tells you HOW to be born again.
catholics & denominal churches have CHANGED everything.
that is not pleasing to Him.
the LORD loves you & wants you to be born again like scripture (the book of acts) says.
do you love God's ways more than the ways you've taught??
the LORD loves you & wants you to be born again like scripture (the book of acts) says.
the LORD is "not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance". (2 peter 3:9)
"many are called, few are chosen." (matt.22:14)
rev. 18:4 gives warning by saying, "... Come out of her, my people, that ye be not partakers of her sins, and that ye receive not of her plagues."
if you are interested in learning why rev. 18:4 would apply to you (being catholic)... email me.
your problem is greater than just that with your boyfriend.
i truly hope you find your way.
2007-07-09 05:12:04 · answer #11 · answered by t d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋