I have being seeing this person every morning while travelling to work; he is simple attention catching & I see woman lure over him. This morning I caught a mature woman look over at him *she smiled at me and said ONLY IF* and we both laughed…
But it made me jealous, the thing is I don’t even know anything about this individual but I sure know I love him. Seeing him every morning makes my life so easy and stress free. I look forward to seeing him every morning & hope to catch his eye *which never happens*
As a woman, I am too scared to make the move in case he thinks I am cheap and only after one thing but I don’t ever see him making a move. I have tried dressing nice, sitting next to him, wearing nice fragrances but no reaction…
Has this every happened to you? I am going mad, I can not get him off my head to ever do a minutes work, I LOVE HIM I LOVE HIM I LOVE HIM mMmMmMmm *CRIES AND SCREAMS*
2007-07-09 02:01:37 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are a nutjob!! I hope this clears up your problem chicks!! x x
2007-07-09 02:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by Dolly 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First question: Yes, it's called a crash. or to use a more grown up word "infatuation." #2 No, you are having a pretty standard reaction in this case. You say you are 'IN LOVE" with him, but yet have never spoken to him. What does this mean? What you are describing are the intense feelings you have when you see him. These are both emotional and physiological (eg bodily reactions triggered by his presence, sweaty palms heart racing etc.) It's just like the passionate feelings when you start out a new relationship. This might be weird coming from a guy, but I can relate on some level. I had a crush on an attractive girl in middle school who barely knew I existed. She ended up rejecting me when my best guy friend back then pressured me to ask her out (he liked her too) Anyway it hurt for a couple weeks, but I told myself that I didn't really know her anyway. It's interesting you said Only if...Only if what? My advice would be to ask him out if you're really as "mad" for him as you seem to indicate, but first causually talk with other girls who are your friends at work so you can get some sort of feel for him personality wise. If he's got more than looks in your book than try to open up to him as a friend at which point note his desirable qualities and then ask striaght out if he's seeing anyone currently if he says no then you're in the clear to ask as a friend, but state that you still want to be friends and are willing to "wait for him" if he turns you down. If yes then he can be your hunky friend at work, and the blow that comes from rejection won't be so severe for you because technically you didn't "ask straight up.' Go for it and good luck, secretly most men would love it if a woman made the move.
2007-07-09 09:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by john b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't love him. Yea, I'm going against everything you're saying but you can't be in love with someone you've never talked to! This is just infatuation! I felt the same things you've been feeling... I couldn't wait to see this guy every day and just knowing he was in the same building as me was comforting. I just thought I was in love with him because we'd had a few simple convos before and we'd sometimes smile at each other in the halls. My friends knew what was coming though, and they were right. Over the summer, when I couldn't see or talk to him, I started feeling like crushing on him wasn't important anymore. Andnow I don't like him (but I still think he's hott!) And why did that woman make you jealous? She's obviously not going out with him, or she wouldnt have said, "If only..." Believe me when I say this is just a crush. But it could be love! Dont be afraid to ask him out, the worst he can do is say no, and then say, "Well, at least we can be friends. Will you say hey to me in the morning if I say it first?" Or something like that, just remember to smile, be yourself, and be confident! Good luck!
2007-07-09 09:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he is really really committed to someone and that's why he doesn't pay attention to anyone else. or maybe he is gay(god forbid for you!!!) anyways even though i know it's really really hard, you either have to make yourself forget him and move on with your life or you have to put away the fear and approach him(he will either accept or not). but BE SURE that just sitting there thinking about him is wasting the time that you could put in for someone who would care for you as much as you care for him. do something(other than dressing nice), take action. forget or go forward. it's your choice.but remember that you actually love his looks and his body and his smell. you can't really love HIM since you don't know him and you've never talked to him. good luck...
2007-07-09 09:18:19 · answer #4 · answered by suzi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is me, the guy you see every morning while you travel to work. I am here to tell you that I love you too! I think about you all the time and I just wanted to let you know! xxx0x0x0x
2007-07-09 09:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sweeetboy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like an infatuated teenager not a mature woman.Find somewhere else to sit he's obviously not interested or he would have noticed you, he may be gay or most probably happily married.Look for a real person not a fantasy figure.
2007-07-09 09:35:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you infatuated with your image of him and what you believe him to be. It's not that uncommon. The biggest problems are if you managed to move forward then you may still believe your image rather than reality and to move from your wish state where he instigates things rather than the true situation. Try talking to him informally and find out if he is anything like your image.
2007-07-09 09:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by Pat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the exact same thing is happening to me but im 13 and the boy i like is in my class and actually notices me, but still i think i have a very little chance of anything happening. and how you think anything can happen if he still hasnt SEEN you is beyond me. you shoud just get on with your life and forget it. i know that you wil probably read this and think 'what does she know' and 'it is impossible to forget' because that is just what i would think but you must try unless you are willingly to go up to him and ask him out. dont waste your time on him.
p.s. it might just also be lust.
2007-07-09 09:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep this happened to me. I resolved this by just talkin to him and i gave him my number and now we talk every day! Yeah it seems crazy and embarassing at first but if you make a good impression it will definately b worth it! I no exactly how u feel lol. have you mayb thought that u don't love him, but mayb ur in lust with him????
Good luck :)
2007-07-09 09:13:01 · answer #9 · answered by bubble wrapping 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isn't love, it's infatuation.
Love is something that develops through actually knowing a person. You can't love somebody you haven't even exchanged two words with, you can just be infatuated with them.
2007-07-09 09:05:25 · answer #10 · answered by j3nny3lf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you need to get out more, there's nothing wrong with a bit of a crush on someone to brighten your day but getting quite so emotional over it is unhealthy!
2007-07-09 09:06:16 · answer #11 · answered by sunshine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋