If you get an invitation to a bridal shower, does this mean you are invited to the wedding?
2007-07-09 01:23:33 · 21 answers · asked by Mom of 2 great boys 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is a co-worker that I have known for about 5yrs. We do not spend anytime outside of work.
We have a lot in common, but that is basically it. Another co-worker was invited to the shower, and the wedding. She also does not spend any time with her outside of work.
It doesn't bother me either way, just curious.
I was brought up, if you were invited to the shower, you were invited to the wedding. Nowadays, who knows how things work, lol
2007-07-09 01:43:45 · update #1
No. Common courtesy says that you should only invite people to the shower who are invited to the wedding. However, not everyone follows that rule. If you don't get an invite to the actual wedding, you aren't invited.
2007-07-09 01:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It depends on "who" is throwing the shower! If it's co-workers than they invite co-workers and they don't know who all is actually being invited to the wedding as they don't usually have access to the wedding list! If it's the family than usually it comes later with a wedding invitation! Now a days with expenses being so high. Sometimes showers are for all and weddings are for a small selection of guests. Either way don't get offended! Enjoy the shower invite and wish them well!
2007-07-12 13:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you would/should be invited to the wedding (sorry) - I'm having a bachelorette/hens night with my friends and mates from work - I'm not inviting all of them to the wedding. I'm not to sure how to explain what i want to say but here goes - my main point is in the end: It's just that a wedding is a special day to celebrate a union of two people and should be shared with people close to the couple and is (in a decent relationship - not a self minded bride relationship) the guest list is decided by both partners. This is why we have hen nights/bridal showers. It is so the people that the bride is close to or has a fairly good relationship to can help celebrate the brides union/wedding day etc without feeling left out of the whole wedding. Vice Versa with the blokes - but they only get a bucks night. In the olden days, then yes you should've been invited to the wedding BUT we now live in a world were we have one to four very good friends and heaps of people we know. Which brings me back to my last point - in the end you are helping to create happy memories for the bride and creating some for yourself if you know what's good for you. BESIDES if she doesn't invite you to the wedding, then offer her the same hospitality.
2016-05-17 15:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you receive a wedding invitation, don't assume you are invited to the wedding.
Sometimes (and this is very true with co-workers), someone will throw a bridal shower and not know (or ask!) who is on the guestlist for the wedding. If the shower is at work, I would definitely not make any assumptions.
2007-07-09 02:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is only polite to have invited people to the shower who have already been invited to the wedding. Normally, one would have gotten a wedding invitation before one is invited to the shower - but sometimes I guess timing can be different.
2007-07-09 04:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on who is throwing the shower, it sounds like this is her "official shower" thrown by her bridesmaids/family or whomever. In that case, etiquette states that if you are invited to the shower you should be invited to the wedding. If this is a shower just for friends or thrown by some at your work, it is not necessarily an indicator of if you are invited to the wedding or not.
2007-07-09 03:40:05 · answer #6 · answered by tnk3181979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes, if you are invited to the shower, you are invited to the wedding. I think that it is rude if you aren't invited to the wedding, but asked to give a gift at the shower.
2007-07-12 03:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by drruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, if you are invited to a shower you will be invited to the wedding, but you will receive a seperate invitation to the wedding. If she has already gotten an invitation to the wedding and you didn't, that probably means you aren't invited to the wedding.
2007-07-09 08:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by LoveWithNoBoundaries 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're invited to the shower, you better be invited to the wedding (unless we're talking about a work-shower thrown at work). But unfortuately, not all couples are aware of this stipulation, so you might not be invited to the wedding. Its unfortunate that they're being so rude; basically, they want your gift at the shower but don't want to pay the money for an extra plate at the wedding itself.
2007-07-09 03:51:06 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are invited to the shower, then you should be invited to the wedding. According to proper etiquette it is rude to invite someone to the shower and not the wedding.
2007-07-09 02:16:35 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋