i just found out last night my girlfriend slept with her manager at work...i dont know when, i dunno if it was while we were together or before...and i really love her so i want to find it in my heart to forgive her...but how?
and please dont say things like "leave her, dont forgive her" cause i want to forgive her...but how? advice please?
2007-07-08 23:49:47 · 9 answers · asked by RL54 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You really cannot look to us for the how. You say you love her and you aren't going to leave her, well what she did is not a very easy thing to forgive. Yous have to start over and work on earning trust again. Just make sure you believe she won't do it again or you will find yourself tossing it back in her face and that is not healthy for the relationship, good luck!
2007-07-08 23:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by pearl_of_your_ocean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just confront her. You don't know if it was while you were together or had broken up.. you don't even know if this is true.
Here-say goes around alot.. people talk, and rumors spread and sometimes rumors come from unreliable sources.
Just ask her that you "heard"...
if you love her, and she sounces sincere in her appology, then in due time, you will be able to forgive her. Sometimes people make mistakes, it could have been out of anger that she did it..
asking her is the only way of finding out the truth.. if she says yes she did, but she's sorry she did it.. it will take time to forgive her in your heart, but at least you know.
If she says that she didn't, just let her know thats what you heard, and you wanted to ask her to make sure. Then you shouldnt have anything to worry about.
Trust is the main issue in a relationship.. hopefully she tells you the truth.
2007-07-09 06:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by Mami 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First find out the truth and tell her that you know. The truth of the matter is nobody can tell you how to forgive her you have to find that for yourself. Obviously you love her. Just make sure that love is mutual, you do not want to get hurt in the long run. Remember also once you have forgiven her you might tend to be a bit possessive, tell her that before it causes another potential argument.
2007-07-09 07:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, if she wants to set things right she should find a new job. Can't imagine her coming in late from work.
You can forgive, but it may be hard to forget and trust again. It's up to her to earn your trust again. Think it over and tell her what you need from her to trust her again. It may be a one time failing, or she may be unable to be faithful- only time will tell. I think you are a smart person to look for the strength to forgive.
If she is worth your love, she will be in your relationship 110% and will bend over backwards to show you she is trustworthy.
2007-07-09 06:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by Laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was me i couldnt 4give, u'll constantly think about it and ur relationship will never be the same, i know thats probly not what u want to hear, but really that should not of happened, where were u when this was going on, she obviously wasnt thinking about you,
if yous weren't 2getha at the time, well there shouldnt be a problem at all, but if yous were yeah
once a cheater always capable of doing it again i say.
good luck anyway, i know about this from a past experience.
2007-07-09 07:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by otiscosy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was before you were together, it is none of your business. Her life prior to you is her past and should stay there. If it was while you were together, then you will need to do some serious talking and she needs to make some serious promises, if you really want to forgive her. Don't let it happen twice.
2007-07-09 06:55:05 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find out if she slept with her manager before u all got togather first? then ask why? then u all may want to consider some kind of counseling to talk oor 2 get your alls feelings out in the open
2007-07-09 06:54:10 · answer #7 · answered by claysaramommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am curious how did you find out it could be hearsay........
The only way to get around it as it is not the end of the world is to confront her try to ask her ,what made you sleep with this guy ? and ,why you couldnt tell me,? i am not angry, i love you but i need to know what let you to it and will it happen again is there something you are not happy with etc be understanding and listen to her dont blame her . You love her but does she love you ?
2007-07-09 06:59:58 · answer #8 · answered by ajal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry mate aint got any advice on that then
2007-07-09 06:53:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋