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Question

My ex went back to his wife in Jan this year. Since then i have been with a few men and got on well but as soon as it starts to become serious, i push them away as i still really really love my ex Please dont think i am some silly girl i am a grown woman, but i just cant help thinking about my ex.

I know i will never get back with him as i couldnt do that to myself and to much has happened but when will these feelings leave me, i dont want to keep thinking about him 24/7!!!!

Answer 1

Lets just say you never MOVE ON, it doesn't work that way. You can LET GO, thou. Thats about the extent of it, but your caught in a catch-22. You'll never beable to let go, until you've found someone who can give you something to hold on to that is equal or better to what he could of. The only problem to that is you'll have to see how your the one who controls the love. Loving someone isn't what they give you, its what you give yourself. Your most likly beating yourself up over this ex guy becaue your still in love with the way you made yourself feel with him. Until you let go of that, well welcome to hell on earth, unrecepicated love..... its not silly, its natural, its the state of the mind. Your only smooth exit from a relationship happens when you can actually see that you were better then them, for the us. For the two of you, and they failed. But if you feel your to blame, well its always going to be hard to forgive yourself, we don't do well with that. But forgiving others, were good at most of the time.... and makes it easier for us to let go... so maybe its time to realize that you've loved less then you deserved and guys what? WERE THE ONLY ONE THAT PICKS UP THAT TAB! Its you baby girl, let go.....