I am off to college in a month, and I met the man who I know will be my husband. I have thought over this, prayed over our relationship and I know in my heart and mind that we will. We've been through so much and I know matter what I will end up with him, but I just know that there will be temptations out there. How do I remain faithful and patient for my lover? How can we learn to trust each other more? I need very helpful and beneficial advice, thanks!
2007-07-08 19:22:23 · 7 answers · asked by Myanna513 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
whether you are together or apart there will always be temptations and opportunities to cheat but you both need to look at the bigger picture and decide is an affair that may seem to mean something at the time actually worth losing each other over. if your love and committment is strong then no matter the temptations who will learn to control and eventually ignore them because you know that what you have with this man is much more than temporary. my husband and i have been married almost 25 yrs but neither of us have ever cheated even in our hearts thats not to say tempting thoughts don't sometimes come to mind, we are human of course but there is a difference in them popping into your head and actually entertaining them and enjoying or holding on to them. if you both feel that you are destined to be together but it has to be you both feel that committment and not just one person. there are much more important things in life than the temporal things and trust, committment and living up to your vow of faithfulness will not only make your relationship, marriage better it will make you a better person and one that can be proud.
2007-07-08 19:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by ?! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the military and have had to spend a lot of time away from my significant other. The key to a successful long-distance relationship is open communication and trust. Try not to let a day go by where you don't at least text and say hello. Call or chat as often as possible and talk about any and everything. There will be temptations out there, but if you love him and it is meant to be, none of that will matter. I wish you the best of luck and try to remain positive.
2007-07-08 19:58:30 · answer #2 · answered by bob h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people are together they share the experiences of life together. Ups, downs, changes--there is nothing that is not shared because it is all understood. When you go off to college you will have experiences that he will not understand because he is not there. It could be a club you join, a football game you go to, a religious experience--you can describe these things but he cannot feel the experience because he was not there. When he stays, unless he is a monk, he will also have experiences that you may not comprehend because you are not there.
It is inevitable that other men will want to date you. That is natural. It is not fair to wear a sign warning men to stay away. If you turned down men for reason that have nothing to do with them, it becomes deceptive and unfair.
When I was faced with this a long time ago, I decided to uproot myself and move to the city where my future wife was going to school. It was not easy for the first year having no money and having to look for work--but it all worked out and I married her after she got her degree 4 years later.
2007-07-08 19:56:06 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you're going to be in for a rather rude awakening soon. You almost always drift apart when one goes to college. Goodluck with that.
2007-07-08 19:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now...I feel what you feel...because for a few days I'm leaving to move to another place...You just have to trust him at ask for an assurance that your the only one in his life...or give him a freedom to do what he want.. just give him a limitation...
2007-07-08 19:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by Ma. Cherubim T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't gie in to temptation. if you know in your heart that he's the one, then why even waste time worrying about others.
2007-07-08 19:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by apple513 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
self-control. You two are not animals, if you care enough control yourselves like mature adults.
2007-07-08 19:25:47 · answer #7 · answered by thenuge426 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋