my future mother in law is having a big problem because I dont want children at my wedding ceremony, I offered to have a wedding 'sitter' in a room of the church...but she didnt really go for that either. To make things worse...I think she and my fiance's sister really dont like me because I am not catholic. My fiance is very supportive and tells me not to let them bother me because he doesnt like catholicism either...should I just tell them that its the 'sitter' way or the highway about our wedding?
2007-07-08 19:20:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It sounds like you have tried to make an exception and if they aren't willing to bend that talk to your husband about it. I would let them know that you will not have children at the ceremony and that they will have to use the church sitting room and that is all there is to it. It is your day. You should enjoy it! Good luck
2007-07-08 22:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by Krystal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello!
I understand your plight, but also thiers. Weddings are a very special day between two people, whether they want a privete ceromony or to share it with all family and friends.
How about this: Have the little ones at the wedding, it would please so many people, BUT have a friend or relitive willing and very ready to take over and "escort" one or both to another area if they start being disruptive. That might be a neutral way to handle this situation. What ever it is, don't let anything this small disrupt your day. Is It really worth the fight? There might be a good chance that the baby would sleep through it anyway! When You think about all the preperations and money and time compared to the actual ceromony time, you won't be at the alter for very long. Chances are you both will be so in love with each other at that moment, you wouldn't notice an earthquake if it happened. If you did, you would just laugh about it later anyway!
Please have my best wishes to you both.
2007-07-08 19:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a mom of three and that i firmly have faith a "no infants" rule shouldn't contain babies, for some motives: (a million) you do no longer could desire to furnish them a meal, (2) they do no longer run around, (3) they are able to't be babysat. while you're breastfeeding and can't use a breast pump (that's difficulty-unfastened) getting a babysitter is impossible, on account which you are able to desire to be there to feed the child. whether you are able to pump milk, a three month previous infant could be truly particular and could be very difficult to babysit. babies do no longer randomly cry. a sturdy mom would be attentive to whilst the child is getting unsettled, and could convenience her or take her out the lower back. I took my 3 month previous to my sister's wedding ceremony and there have been no issues. on the worst, her mom could desire to sit down down and watch from a room on the lower back. in case you exclude the child, there's a sturdy possibility your sister in regulation will have not any selection yet to say no the invitation. p.s. in case you enable a flower woman then this is now no longer a new child unfastened wedding ceremony. youngsters do no longer exchange into greater powerful behaved whilst they have a flower woman gown on. Now a 2 year previous at a marriage and reception - this is a miles better subject. She won't do what she's asked in the time of the ceremony (2 is purely too youthful) and he or she will pick to run around on the reception. She could desire to be babysat. EDIT: And what is going to her mothers and dads think of in the event that they actually circulate to all of the attempt of pumping milk and searching a sitter who can manage their 3 month previous, and then come and spot your 2 year previous niece working around?
2016-10-01 04:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it really matter if a 2yr old and a newborn is at your wedding? I understand you want the day to be perfect without interruptions. But I think Its a lil extreme to exclude them from your ceremony. If you think they will be a problem I would compromise and let them be there but ask that they sit closest to the nearest exit In case they get loud or the baby starts crying. I had several children at my wedding and there were no problems (If the 2yr old is hyper then maybe they can give her a small quiet toy to hold and play with during the ceremony. And as far as religious beliefs I think it should be up to the individual what religion they choose to believe and one should not force their religion on someone else. GOOD LUCK
2007-07-08 19:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by chelly 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
children, especially young 2 year olds, can really ruin a wedding ceremony. I have been at a wedding with a 2 year old and all they did was scream, I think a sitter is a wonderful idea. Explain to your mother in law your feelings
2007-07-08 19:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you and your fiance have both decided not to have children at your wedding, your mother-in-law should respect that. It is good that you offered to provide a sitter, most people don't do that.
As for your MIL and SIL not liking you because of your religion - that is just ignorant on their part.
2007-07-09 03:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit down with your future mother in-law and your husband to be and let her know that you would both prefer to have a sitter at the church.
You should come across to her as a united front, that way she can't blame you and say that it was you who did not want the kids at the ceremony.
If that is your decision, she will just have to accept it, as you are doing what you feel is right for you.
Good Luck with it!
2007-07-08 19:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by princess_bride72 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't matter whether it is right or wrong to have children at the wedding. The point is that you originally said this is what you want, and if you change your mind now it will seem as if the MOG is getting her way. I know this sounds childish, but I have recently experienced this. If you give in on this one thing, you will be expected to give in on everything for the rest of your life. Trust me... you don't want to be your in-laws doormat.
2007-07-09 03:54:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would consider what your FIANCE wants much more than what his mother or sister want. It's HIS wedding too so he should have a say especially considering it's his family. I think it's a bit rude and tacky personally to exclude people in his immediate family no matter what their age. I understand you're worried about them disrupting things but most parents would take their child out if they started getting fussy. I'm sure your future sister-in-law wouldn't want to disturb the ceremony. And even if that happened, would that be the most horrible thing in the world? To have a baby fussing? They ARE going to be YOUR neice and nephew too. You need to start treating them like family. Embracing your fiance's family will only make him love you more and it's something you should WANT to do for him if you truly love him.
2007-07-08 19:29:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
It is important for all family members to be present at a wedding, even the kids. It seems like they may create havoc, but they will not. Its very pretty to see happy little dressed up kids running around at a wedding. Don't be the Bridezilla. Welcome all your in-laws, or it will become a sore issue for the rest of your lives. Someday U will have your own kids or be pregnant and wont like getting left out. Be Nice.
2007-07-08 19:59:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋