My husband to be is getting deployed to Iraq for the second time in Aug. for 15mths . How do I deal with that ? Whe nhe got deployed the 1st time we weren't together , we were friends at the time but I never really dealt with it then , but now that we're getting married at the end of the month how do I go about deployments ?
2007-07-08 18:47:30 · 8 answers · asked by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Whats the best way to deal with it ? I am scared !! Iraq isn't a nice place
2007-07-08 18:47:55 · update #1
Sugar , you and my fiance were over at the same time , this is his 2nd deployment. I am trying to be strong because I know that one of us has to be and I know its not going to be him since he has to be in war. Thank you all for your kind words , I really appreciate it !
2007-07-08 19:52:08 · update #2
He needs you to be strong for him! I was over there and it's hard especially if he doesn't get the support he needs! It's hard worrying about home when you are out risking your life. As long as you hold things down at home and give him nothing to worry about he'll be fine! Pray and may God be with you!
2007-07-08 19:27:40 · answer #1 · answered by sugahsweetened 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I've dealt with two Iraq deployments and although they are not pleasant, they are tolerable. As you've already figured out, YOU HAVE TO BE STRONG. Of course you will miss him, but you can't let him in on the fact that you are going to be a mess as soon as he leaves. He does not need the stress of worrying about you in addition to doing his already stressful job over there. There are support groups you can go to that are full of women in similar situations. When you're on your own at home, the best thing to do is fill your time with productive activities, it'll make the deployment go by faster. For example, do things around the house, take up a new hobby, go out with the women you meet in the support groups (but always behave of course) and make him care packages with things that are personal from you and not just generic things he could receive in a random care package. Your support, faithfulness and encouragement will always be the best gift you can give him though so never forget to tell him how much he means to you and how proud you are of him.
2007-07-08 20:19:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey...I can totally relate, my guy is over in Iraq as we speak. The best thing you can do is support him, let him know that you love him. Don't do anything you know he'll get jealous about. Because he may get jealous easliy being so far away. Don't glue yourself to CNN and yahoo news that will just tear you apart. I've been through two deployments with mine, its very hard, and it doesn't get easier. Think about him often, the good things, things that will make you laugh. Because the happier you are the less stress will be put on your relationship. If you start cracking because you miss him, try and hold yourself together for him. 'Cause when hes that far away trying to pick up the pieces of his wife can get in the way of his safety. He needs to be able to think clearly. I really hope it all goes well...if you need someone to talk to, I'm all ears, cause we're in the same boat.
2007-07-08 19:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by Green Eyed Lady 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No, Baby Girl, Iraq is not a nice place. But chances are, overwhelming that he'll come back in one piece.
Support him. Make sure he knows of your gratitude, fidelity, trust and love. Be positive, particularly when you talk to him. Send him goodies. Be patient with him when he asks questions you don't think he should.
Thank you for supporting our soldier.
D*** FoxHound, don't know if I should thank you or not. Stick around and read some answers. If you've been there, you'll come to a different conclusion.
2007-07-08 18:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by John T 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
JohnT is looking like a poser from his profile but his opinion is sound. Relax, enjoy the time that you have with him before he goes and know that odds are he will come home. Do think though sending letters instead of email and calling. A letter can be put into a pack and be looked at over and over.
2007-07-08 19:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by jackson 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just don't worry. Support your future husband. Write to him often. It is something you have to keep up a positive attitude about. You don't have to enjoy it, just accept it and get on with life. The time will pass, and then he'll come home to you.
You can write him and ask him if there is anything he wants, like cookies, candy, nuts and anything else he likes. Make sure you send enough for him to share with his buddies over there.
Sorry he has to go, but you do what you have to do.
God bless America Good luck.
2007-07-08 18:55:23 · answer #6 · answered by Fordman 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Pray. Hang out with friends and family. Send care packages, not just to him but others also. Get involved with the family readiness program on base and hang out with the "good" military wives. Don't go out and party it up. Email him, send pictures. Video tapes of just recordings of you talking to him or music
2007-07-08 19:00:46 · answer #7 · answered by jslewis81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont watch the news.
be happy when he calls or emails.
dont spend all your time at home worrying.
send care packages.
write letters
make sure you have good friends that will support you.
be proud of him he is serving our country for our freedom.
if you dont have one, get a job it helps pass the time.
my hubby is in the navy and when he leaves,these are the things i do. dont freak out, he will come home safe.
2007-07-08 21:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by nightbutterfly69 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋