Sometimes you like someone just as a friend and they want more. So you feel bad telling them, but you have to. So how to make it easier for them when you say no.
2007-07-08 18:03:20 · 18 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Definitely telling them is preferable to leading them down the path, which is what saying nothing, usually does - gives false hope and that's just plain wrong.
I'd say something like, 'I'm very flattered by your interest in me. I like you a lot and I think you're an awesome person, but I just don't have any romantic feelings towards you. I'd rather tell you this than in any way lead you to believe that there's something there that's not. I hope we can remain friends'
I just hope this isn't intended for me. :-D
2007-07-09 02:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by Charlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a real human being who cares for the others feelings, Silky. You are not only sensitive, kind and humanistic but also intelligent. That is why I take my time to answer your questions.
To come to your question, yes, it is hard to say no for a person whom you care as a friend. But, this is your life. You can't say yes for every person not to hurt their feelings. Unfortunately, some people have hard time to accept no. They take it as a rejection and want to stop the whole friendship after you told them no.
To be honest, it is better if you buy him a car or a house or any other affordable gift for that good friend rather than to say yes when you want to say no. A friend is different from other intimate relationship. One can be good as a friend but not good as a ....? Any way don't ever try to ruin your life thinking you will hurt some one by saying no. Again, this is your life, your future and your every thing. Once you made a mistake you may be sorry for the rest of your life..
2007-07-09 01:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by LMiserab 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anything less than straight and direct and you may leave the guy with a mixed message
especially if you are hot ( guys believe what they want to believe when the girl is fine!) Are you fine? anway I digress
we have fantastic imaginations
ie. if the girl in the McDonald's drive through just smiles at me as a courtesy ....( as she is paid to do so!) I am still convinced she is way into me - yes, Slikky , we guys are that delusional. call it ego or whatever - we believe what we want to believe and as a hottieIT IS your duty to interrupt that belief hysteria WITH A LITTLE RUTHLESS HONESTY
soooo.... if you reeeeeally DON'T want to lead this person on.... you need to tell them that you "will never ever be with them in that way even if they were the last person on earth... "
that is unless you secretly enjoy having him ( and many others) on a thread (as most girls do) ........hense holding their attention, and keeping a large stable of possible candidates in the wings at all times!!
AND if you are worried about maintaining YOUR self-image see "LMiserab" discrition of you .... as a so called "nice person" - WELL I WOULD JUST GIVE THAT ONE UP GIRL! it is 100% inauthentic and is useless as a tit on a bull!
not hurting others feelings as an excuse for not being truthful is the biggest racket out there.
so? whatcha gonna do girl?
2007-07-09 08:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by duck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Situations like this are best dealt with head on, just tell them straight up.
You'll hurt some feelings but at least its better then beating around the bush and giving false hope.
2007-07-09 01:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by Chris H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as a guy, being rejected it's not that bad, as long as you tell the truth, no beating around the bush, you have to tell straight on, and if you feel bad, maybe it's because he's really a friend and you care about him, and if this is true then he will not take it that bad, and if it's a random guy and you still feel the same, then you re one in a million, because not all girls feel this way, hope that helps
2007-07-09 12:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by doc cool!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be like you are an awesome friend and right now i have to many problems and right now i think i cant go out with no one I'm very sorry to tell you this but we can still keep it cool .
2007-07-09 01:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, thats unfair. Looking at your picture, you should expect people to approach you. If you're not interested in these guys, and don't want to hurt their feelings, try not to flaunt everything you have so much...
2007-07-09 01:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by cambrexia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
continue to act totally non-interested.....they should get the picture....if not, wait until they bring it up and NEVER AT ANY POINT make them think your want any part of that....dont call them just to talk....dont lead them on. and if it comes down to it, tell them "hey, i like you a lot as a friend, but nothing more'
2007-07-09 01:07:00 · answer #8 · answered by Healthy Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no answer to this question. Rejection hurts, no matter how much you sugar coat it. Just make it a clean break..
2007-07-09 01:10:57 · answer #9 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find "let's drop out of contact with one another for awhile," to be quite effective. If they press, refine it to "drop out of contact for a LONG while." No confusion there...
2007-07-09 01:32:34 · answer #10 · answered by Marc M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋