First of all I have to say that Ive done some research lately to see what women really want cause ive had it up to hear with what women say they want and what they really want. They say they want a guy who challenges them makes them laugh, has confidence and has self control. I think that it is understandable. My question is i have been waiting for a girl that I can honestly say that I love before i have sex truthfully i am. My question is i am 20 and the girls I date i know by the way i act i can attract them but whenever the sexual talks come into play i tense up and show no confidence because i really dont have much experience. My question for the ladies is how do i go about maintaing all the things a girl would want even when i have no experience sexually. How can I win there heart if they almost have to show me the ropes sort of speak and they dont want a guy that they have to do this for. So how does a labelled nice guy by many women get out of a jam like this.
2007-07-08 18:02:19 · 8 answers · asked by canuck131986 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wish i could help you with this...I know that my husband had only been with one female before me and he said that it just came naturally.
But what the hell is that supposed to mean? I mean I may have been married 2 times before him, but the bastards that I was with was only interested in anal sex...I really did not know what a real sexual relationship was supposed to be like.
So, even though Rabbit Man/ my hubby only had a little experience...He was the one to teach me the right way to have sex.
I do so wish I could help you, the only thing I can say is to remain calm and go gentle and let her know that hey I have little experience.
It certainly cannot hurt, and it may make your time together more enjoyable...because you can discover each others bodies and learn something new!
Blessings and luck
2007-07-08 18:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're waiting to be in love before having sex (which I think is admirable) then it won't matter how you are in bed. If she loves you she won't mind showing you what to do, And, since so many women are different, most women have to show their partners what they like anyway regardless of how many other women he has slept with. You seem like a genuinely nice guy, good luck, and don't worry so much. When you find the right girl, you'll be amazed how well you know what you're doing.
2007-07-09 01:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by Mikey's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, I get the whole waiting for true love thing but here is what my mom told me starting from when I was 10:
"Have sex before you get married or into a serious relationship. Trust me on this, so many people wait and then mistake lust for love. Thats part of the high divorce rate, so do yourself a favor, have sex with some nice guy and then get married afterwards if you still love them"
2007-07-09 01:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by cambrexia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go with the flow and be yourself. i am in my late twenties and have had a lot of experience and i still get nervous esp. with someone new and that i like. trust me girls are just as nervous as you are sometimes they just dont show it. just take things slow and when you are ready you will know it. but if you try to rush into things you are just going to get even more nervous and wont be able to perform. also if the girl likes you she wont have a problem with you not having that much experience. some girls find it as being a turn on.
2007-07-09 01:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep on being nice and find an equally nice girl to date. When the time is right, it's ok to 'fumble' and learn together. You don't need to have sex with her to win a girl's heart.
2007-07-09 01:06:38 · answer #5 · answered by treebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mate , mate , mate ... you got it all wrong ... they have no idea at all as to what they want in a man ...none !, they just love to make our lives a misery while they are trying to find out !! as far as the sex thing goes ..it will only get worse and worse untill you start to use that "thang" and stop training to be a door mat ,instead its time to start to grow up from the boy you are now and be a man....be your self ! not something someone else want's you to be
2007-07-09 01:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww you're sweet...listen...if you're going for girls that want something different than you...that's a problem...i think youu are going for the wrong girls and you are looking for something different....so i think you should think about what kinda person youu are really attracted to
2007-07-09 01:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
id like a guy like u
2007-07-09 01:06:19 · answer #8 · answered by ☼baileyy☼ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋