My girlfriends dad is to over-protective, HELP!!!?

Question

ok, well we have been going out for about 5 months now, we are both still in high school, and the relationship between the 2 of us has been magical, I have never been this happy before in my life, we are perfect for each other. However our relationship is hard at the same time because of her dad, who does not even trust us to be alone together, so no going out alone, and on top of that if I want to see her it can only be once a week, this makes things almost impossible for us, he has called me a ******* prick before, and also has a proablem with the fact that I am not jewish, I have tried just about everything to gain his trust, but its not working and it is making things really hard on me and my girlfriend, and has been almost tearing up our lives, I know that it has been a mayjor part of my life, effecting me a lot ever since it started, HELP please, this girl means everything to me, and I cant let it not work out because of her father, but its driving us crazy...... I cant take it.

it would be next to impossible to sneek arround him....

and he is the type that if I stood up to him would just walk away and I would never see her again.....

AND THAT CANNOT HAPPEN.....

and how can I do stuff with him, he is never arround anyway, I may only get a few hours a week with her, but I still actually think that that is more than he spends with her, and its just impossible..... HELP

Miked, I;m assumeing your name is mike. You happen to share a name with the guy in question here, interesting... and for the record, I DO pay taxes, dont be nieave so much to think as just because I;m young I dont have experence. I guess I;m just one of theoes people who wanted to be well off so they got an idea and ran with it, and an not making sugnificantly more than their parents, for the record, I could support a modest life style for the both of us, but I'm kinda looking for us both to finish school, thanks!!!

for the record, we a not going to do anything that he would even dissaprove of in his right mind, we are both goal oriented people who have no desire to mess up our lives with a child....

also the advise of take it, I will, I am, its worth it to us, but I would much rather not, but if it comes to that I will...

and May, thank you for assuming that I have no idea what meaning everything is, question, do you, can anybody, its not experence, its emotion, sorry I found it

thank you george for saying that my reffering to my relationship as magical as gay......

I;m sorry that you have never fallen in love, here is my hope that you will one day

additionally, who said that you know what is on my mind, how narrow minded of you......

sounds like this is more your mind set, is this what you were like. did you only have one thing on your mind, and believe that falling in love was gay, if I was you then her dad would have reason to not be ok with me

Answer 1

Well if you actually aren't going to do anything that her parents wont approve of then have a chat with her father and you know tell him that you promise you wont do anything with her that they wont approve of and that you wouldn't do anything to jeopardize your relationship with her so maybe he will understand and finally let you guys have some alone time but keep things clean so they will gain your trust very easily and then in the future you will be able to do as you want with her without worries of her parents. :D

Answer 2

Well, first off you can take it, if you want to be with her. Second, show an interest in the family as a whole, not just the girl. Bring a present for the family to share with them A couple of Pizza's or icecream or something. Talk with the Dad if he will talk with you about something that he is interested in, or that you both like, Cars? sports? Must be something. Be respectful and show you are trustworthy and perhaps he will let up on the pressure. You have to go slow and the more you push the hotter it will get, back off a little. Silky

Answer 3

Whoa...this is one Romeo and Juliet situation...anyways, sorry about my barb. Continuing on... try to understand your girlfriend's dad? I'm sure you're a really great guy but from the description of the dad, he really has something against people who are non-Jewish, maybe caused by the histories of Anti-Semitism so don't take his abuse too seriously. I know that you're having problems with communicating with the father but keep trying and talk to the dad more often, tell him how you truly feel about your girlfriend.

Meanwhile, also talk to your girlfriend and assure her gently that you're doing all you can to save the relationship. She must be freaked out that her father dislikes you...so, stay strong, okay? Stay strong for the sake of the relationship, stay strong for your girlfriend. If you both truly believe that you're both meant to be, try to keep talking to the dad.

Take care alright? Hope all works out and good luck

Answer 4

There is not much you can do. He is her father. Religion in some families, means plenty. Many Jewish people feel that their children should marry within their faith.

It will be a rough road for you if you continue to date her. He will use his leverage as her father to discourage the continutation of this relationship. If you wait it out, and have the determination to make it work, it can. the problem is that it will take both of you to do this.

Answer 5

until your GF can financially take care of herself she is his responsibility not yours so he has every right to be protective he does not know you from any other worthless little over active teenager out there and he has more to do then play some little kiddie game. I know you think its a big deal because you have nothing else to worry about in life you are not paying rent or taxes or any other adult responsible things. You had better just take your time and follow his rules and respect that or move on to some other girl.

Answer 6

i know EXACTLY how that is. my x bf parents were like that it was horrible. I would try and gain ther respect show them that ur a good guy. Invite them to do stuff with u guys. and then if that doesnt work... sneak out haha or move on so u can have a life. I know its hard but when me n him broke up i felt so free and found a guy that could do more things and stuff. Its hard to keep a good balanced relashhionship with a girl who has parents like that!!

Answer 7

Look him straight in the eye when you get the chance & just be respectful of the boundries he set for the 2 of you, after all we're talking about Daddies little here. No parent wants to see their child growing up, its that sense of mortality thing you know getting older.

Answer 8

Dude, you sound like the typical highschool kid in his first relationship. His dad shouldnt trust you and neither would I. We both know whats on your mind. And by the way, refering to your relationship as "magical" could be the gayest thing I've ever heard, it shows how young and immature you are

Answer 9

are you able to truly blame him . Boyfriend +female pal +the two in a room at the same time = toddler. rather of extraordinary out in her room how approximately extraordinary out interior the front room or any risk-free places the place dad won't act like a drill sergeant approximately. additionally appears like her dad does no longer believe u along with his daughter basically attempt to decrease than stand his facet of view.

Answer 10

well you are still in high school. you can't never know / get the meaning of "this girl means everything to me"
if her fa that trouble, and you still can stand, it is all because of love; if you find one day you begin to feel so tired, then consider to end this relationship. or just to be Friend not gf anymore. ;)
you still young and you have your time.