You just found out that she/he has many bank debts on his account, she/he never tells you before and she doesn't want you to know because she/he doesn't want you to get involved with the matters.
2007-07-08 17:57:01 · 10 answers · asked by Sparkling pearl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would get with someone else.
2007-07-08 17:59:17 · answer #1 · answered by so Fresh 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, if he/she has bank debts and he/she doesn't tell his bf/gf, then it's none of his/her problem. The bf/gf needs to deal with his/her problem. Seriously, if your boyfriend has debts, you should just let it be. There is no need for you to get involved. If you do, there could be trouble. There is probably a reason that he is not telling you. For example, he may become dependent on you to bail him out all the time or if you help him out, he may feel bad about himself. If he decides to tell you, the only thing you can do is give him advice and that's about it. Keep your money in your pocket/bank account. Oh and another thing, do not get a joint account AT ALL. Good luck.
2007-07-08 18:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by zumi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me I did the guy thing, at the time I had resources enough & paid off the highest interest debt first. The othe option is to contact one of those debt consolidation groups, they Really can help, but its a pain they will get into your bussiness because its what they do.
2007-07-08 18:02:07 · answer #3 · answered by Donald S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's none of your business. The only time it becomes your business if you plan on getting married. Your b/f or g/f credit history and debts have absolutely nothing to do with you, and it does not affect you life in any way until, like I said, you plan on getting married because once that happens your b/f, g/f debt becomes your debt.
2007-07-08 18:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by ohmygosh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are married, or planning to get married, it is none of the partners business. I would suggest that this person start trying to take care of their debt, one bill at a time in preparation for the day when it will matter.
2007-07-08 18:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might just be a very unbalanced person in life. If he is having trouble with bank debts and doesn't want you to know, what else is he hiding.
2007-07-08 18:01:58 · answer #6 · answered by SHOESAREME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thanks God he/she just your gf/bf not your life partner. You can find out what is the purpose of the debts, it will tell many stories.
2007-07-08 18:05:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them what they intend to do about themand how they expect the relationship to survive their soution.
2007-07-08 18:02:35 · answer #8 · answered by Happy Camper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless they're asking u to pay, you don't really have to do anything. you could help them out if they are desperate. but tell them to be careful and if they do it again, it's over.
2007-07-08 18:00:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
help them figure out a budget, but NEVER give them money...whatever you do.
and do not get upset.
2007-07-08 17:59:44 · answer #10 · answered by Healthy Guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋