What's the deal with this new trend? I confess I really don't get it at all. The reception is the hard part to plan, so why elope and still have the reception. The reception is the part that causes all the problems - who sits where, how much to spend, what food to serve, etc. So tell me why did you elope and then plan a reception anyway?
2007-07-08 17:45:52 · 13 answers · asked by maigen_obx 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm not being clear here. I'm married, for almost 14 years now. I've planned 3 weddings, mine, my brother's, and my cousin's. The reception is much harder to plan than the ceremony. I don't actually care that people are going with this trend, I just don't get why. The only people who gave a real answer are the lady with fiance who's scared of crowds and the lady with the family problems.
2007-07-08 18:11:47 · update #1
I think it's selfish.
Weddings are for family and friends to celebrate the new marriage. The same people are invited to BOTH the ceremony and reception. Family and friends are invited to the ceremony to witness the vows the couple takes, and to support them in their new life as a married couple. Then, these same family members and friends are hosted by the couple to celebrate at the reception!
If a couple choses to elope, fine, but then that IS their wedding. They shouldn't expect to have an extra reception 'anyway' when they get home, with people who did not attend the ceremony. When you make choices, you accept the consequences...
2007-07-09 02:00:00 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
We chose to go this route because of a family situation. It was actually getting to be more stressful to plan the ceremony because of some issues. (My fiance has an anxiety disorder and couldn't stand the pressure of being a focal point/reciting vows in front of a group.) It was also more of our personal style. We are both very private people. I want to have a reception for friends/family when we get back so they don't feel totally left out and get a chance to celebrate as well. We are having a simple reception, nothing huge-casual, no seating plans, food served will be in a theme linked to our elopement destination.
2007-07-08 17:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by Kim 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have no clue why its like that either. My guess would be that planning a wedding AND a reception is very hard work. I know because I was a bride myself. So to cut out the hardest part of all which is planning the ceremony itself, the couple decides to elope. Then they come back and have a reception which is equally hard to plan but a heck of a lot easier since they cut the ceremony part out. From the ones I have been to its been from big shin digs to your basic back yard BBQ. So I guess they mostly do it so they can save money. You pay more money for the ceremony then you do for the reception. Hope this helps! :)
2007-07-08 17:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by kelly_belly_21 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Some people feel that if they have a formal ceremony they have to have a big lavish wedding. If they elope then they can throw a small informal party which would be much cheaper. Then you don't have to worry about who sits where!
2007-07-09 05:23:33 · answer #4 · answered by JM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AMEN!!
I am so with you on this one. I simply don't get it.
The reception is also the most expensive part of the whole wedding. The whole point of eloping is to escape the hassle and expense of a wedding, but then you have the whole party part.
Personally, I think it's rude. IMO, it's a slap in the face to your guests. It's basically saying that you think they're important enough to come to a reception and buy you a gift, but they don't rate high enough to warrant being able to see your wedding ceremony.
2007-07-09 02:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by sylvia 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
But you get all the gifts at the reception. Also the reception is the part where the families and friends meet, and it is just a big congradulations to the couple.
2007-07-08 17:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by somebody 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
we are doing this because we don't believe in any religion and Chinese tradition focus more on the food and celebration, none of our friends and family think the ceremony is a must for the wedding. Of course we are going to light the union candle and do the cross toasting, but that is it. The rest is just food, drinks and entertainment.
2007-07-09 05:26:49 · answer #7 · answered by Renee L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would rather have a private ceremony. Marriage is between only two people, so it seems fitting that the wedding ceremony itself is between only those two people. However, there's nothing wrong with throwing a party to celebrate your marriage. Just like you wouldn't want your entire family and all of your friends present at the birth of your child, but you'd have no problem throwing a baby shower or a christening party that included all of those people.
2007-07-08 17:59:25 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie73 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I don't get it either! Unless there is religious reasons, why can't I be there. I personally would like an explanation of why I can't be there for the ceremony.
2007-07-08 18:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it should really just be a party. just some tables for people to sit down and a buffet table of food. keep it simple if you are going to elope. :) no flowers or tule or dj people. just really simple, like a BBQ. that is just my opinion though.
2007-07-08 17:51:45 · answer #10 · answered by Christina V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋