there's this girl i love with all my heart and i finally got the balls to ask her out and for about a half an hour it seemed like i won her heart and i was the happiest i've been in so long then she said something about how she didn't wanna ruin our friendship and that killed me. then like 4 days later she went out with this other guy who was her friend also. it just shattered my all ready broken heart into dust and it's werid i often turn my my radio up so loud that no one can hear me crying i get so mad i just feel so alone and hopeless like theres no reason to go on i feel so back stabbed.
i'm so pathetic she's the only thing i want and i feel like without her i just disappear.
2007-07-08 17:38:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
(the funny thing is she's not even that hot i just feel like we had a connection)
my life is such a nightmare
and it's just not fair
it feels like nobody cares cuz i'm alone in the world
what the hell is wrong with me i'm such a loser
why the hell do things like this always happen to me
why can't i get over her
2007-07-08 17:38:51 · update #1
i wanna get over her but i can't seem to put her in the past
2007-07-08 17:45:12 · update #2
Hey....be careful. Listen, the old "ruining the friendship" thing is just an excuse. When I liked my guy friend and friends asked my why we weren't together, I claimed that I "didn't want to ruin our friendship" when it was really because I didn't think he liked me.
If you guys truly had a connection, then she will come to her sense and kick herself for not taking her chance. You're not pathetic at all, when the aforementioned guy friend rejected me, I just sat there, clutching my cellphone (he did it over texting), reading the message again and again before turning my radio up and throwing my phone at the wall and crying.
I promise it will get better, you sound like a sweet guy and I'm sure you'll find a girl who appreciates that about you, just give yourself time...hang in there, meanwhile.
2007-07-08 17:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by cambrexia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are just a kid, then stop worrying about stuff way too much. This is one girl, this isn't your whole life. Your whole life isn't a nightmare. You obviously are blessed enough to live in a home that has internet connection (something 1/5th of this country still doesn't have if you wanted to know). You have a computer that works well enough to get on here. You have a radio, which is a luxury if you really want to think about it. You also have a room you can go to. There are some kids that go to bed tonight sharing a room with parents, cousins, or a brother or sister because the house is just too small. Be thankful for what you have and focus on those things. Do not dwell on what you DO NOT have because you end up being negative and that is no way to live a life. Life is precious. Focus on the things that are precious -- good weather, a child's laugh, a beautiful flower, music, living in a country that allows you to have education, good food. Your life is FAR from a nightmare. I did ministry in the inner city. I promise you, if your worst thing is that a girl dumped you, you do not know the meaning of nightmare.
2007-07-08 19:57:53 · answer #2 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry. it hurts a lot when someone you love doesnt reciprocate. I am going through a similar situation. It hurts even more because now it feels as though it is something about you thats wrong. But it isnt you.You are a great guy. You seem sensitive and romanti and passionate and those are great qualities to have. Believe me. you arent pathetic, you are heart broken. These things happen all the time, but unfortunately that doesnt mean it will hurt any less. Im only in high school so I dont have too much experience in love but my feelings have been there and it hurts every time. Im Sorry.
2007-07-08 17:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you could not have loved her. You had a crush on her. It is very normal to get your heart broken many times in your teenage years. This helps you to learn what love truly is.
She actually did you a favor by telling you the truth. She could have just used you until someone else came along. That would have hurt a lot worse. At least you know that she respected you enough to be honest with you.
Other girls will come along in the next few years. One of them will be right for you. Just be patient. I know that your pride is hurting now, but you will be better off in the long run.
Quit looking for love right now. You have to much left to accomplish before you will be able to settle down. You need to work on how you will provide for the special woman that will one day be your partner in life. If you do not have a good education, you will not be able to win her love when she comes along. Good women like men that plan for the future. Put all of that effort you are spending on feeling sorry for yourself into working on a good future. The guys with the good futures get the prettiest, smartest, and most fascinating women to love them. If you remember that, you will have a successful life!!
2007-07-08 17:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your hormones, baby. You are not alone or helpless. You have to take control of your life and go after what you want. So she doesn't see you as more then a friend, its not the end of the world. Ask out other girls until you find someone else you have a connection with. I know life seems hard right now, but believe me it only gets worse as you get older.
SO ENJOY THIS TIME IN YOUR LIFE!!!!!
2007-07-08 17:46:25 · answer #5 · answered by Spirited Virgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, welcome to the real world. Nothing is wrong with you, you aren't a loser either. I know it really hurts and it sucks to be heartbroken but trust me, everyone has been there and you'll get over it. Just gotta tough it out. and also, you dont' even know if she doesnt' like you. Just cuz she went out with another friend doesn't mean she doesnt' like you. So just keep talking to her and show her what a great guy you are and she'll prolly come around. And even if she doesn't then it's not the end of the world, even though you might not think so, you'll find plenty of other girls. Just be assertive and you'll have no problem with them. hope that helps.....
2007-07-08 17:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by xeroshogun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably can't get over it because you really had a crush on her. Your situation is kinda like the episode of South Park (watching comedy central right now) where Stan and Wendy break up. Stan is upset until he finds out that Wendy broke up with him to be with Token.
The best thing you can do is just move on.
2007-07-08 17:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by edd11111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright buddy, here's the thing, you're a guy, you should act tough and be strong. Beside your just only a kid, life goes on and of course, you'll meet new people and probably will have girlfriend who's way more better than the girl you described. So my advice is that you should move on and enjoy your life right now. =)
2007-07-08 17:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by Mr Quite OK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude thats really depressing . but I think if there was a connection she wouldnt have backstabbed u like that. u just have to move along. things will get better eventually. ive had similar experiance. I was goin out with a girl I loved with all my heart but she moved without even telling me . I was as sad as he** but I tried to move along and things eventually got better hope this helps
2007-07-08 17:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by kecleon008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure dude but if you don't change this around it sound like your on your way to being an alcoholic
the deal is you want her chasing you
sometimes being friends is good (just remember it not forever) and also she can introduce you to her other gf
2007-07-08 17:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋