Hi,
My sisters would like to have a bridal shower for me (I know in some areas/ social circles, it is considered inappropriate for relatives to handle a bridal shower, but this is the norm where I live) before my fiance and I leave to get married in Hawaii. I know that usually only guests attending the wedding are invited to the shower, but that would be impossible in this situation since we are eloping. We are having a reception for family and friends after we return. I don't want to offend anyone, so what are your thoughts on being invited to such a shower, assuming you will be invited to the reception here.
Thanks!!!
2007-07-08 17:29:05 · 8 answers · asked by Kim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It isn't a secret that we are getting married and our families support our decision. All guests would know that they were invited to the reception.
2007-07-08 17:37:35 · update #1
I see nothing wrong with your sisters having a bridal shower for you, or inviting guests to the shower that will also be invited to the reception. Technically, you're not eloping, since eloping means secretly running away to get married, but you are simply choosing to have a private wedding ceremony. Despite the private ceremony, you are still choosing to celebrate your marriage with a wedding reception. As long as your shower guests are also invited to your reception, I would think it would be appropriate. I'd come if you invited me, and I would not be offended that I wasn't invited to your private wedding ceremony.
2007-07-08 17:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie73 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think it's fine, especially since you are hosting a reception after. Your choice to marry in private is not an insult to your shower/reception guests. It would be insulting to invite someone to the shower and not to the reception.
As for your sister throwing you shower, I completely agree that it's OK. Where I'm from it the norm too. My friend recently had her bridal shower. Her mother and future mother in law hosted. It actually make more sense for a family member to take on a financial burden of hosting people for the shower. I'd feel awkward if a friend spent $500-$1000 for my shower. If family does it, it's understandable. That's what family does, not friends.
2007-07-08 17:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I going to be honest here; I don't get why people elope and then have a reception when they get home. The reception is the hard part to plan. I'm not criticizing you, I just don't get it. Normally I would say that your plan is tacky but since your actually having a reception I guess it's ok. I just don't know, like I said I don't get this new trend at all.
2007-07-08 17:43:21 · answer #3 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Then you are really just having a destination wedding and not inviting anyone...its not really eloping if everyone knows about it.
I think it would be fine to invite close friends and family though.
2007-07-08 18:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
With you eloping, only those who are attending the wedding SHOULD be invited to the shower. If it's only the two of you eloping, you don't get to have a shower. -- too bad, you made your choice, you have to deal with the consequences....
2007-07-09 02:01:42 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
ummm
invite people who wont tell + me!!!
ps
why do u have 2 elope...cant u just get married???
good luck!!!
2007-07-08 17:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
If everyone knows and is OK with it, then why are you eloping? I find this whole thing to weird - sorry!
2007-07-08 18:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Sure, let them! :)
2007-07-09 03:44:37 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋