this is killing me........please help out?

Question

hey guys~

me and my girlfriend has been going out for almost a month now, i really love her alot, sometimes i always i love you in person, in txt and on msn! but for her, she hardly say it, i feel so insecure bout rather she really love me or not, i really cares bout her, in fact, i want to have a long term relationship with her, should i be worried?, im too scare to lose her, i cant see myself meeting another girl that is as speical as her, should i be expecting more from her or is that normal? and should i ease down on saying i love you? because im scare that the meaning will fade away, and how can u tell if she really really loves you??

thanks

by the way, we gave each other our first kiss

Answer 1

You're on the right track but don't try to push it and start getting all paranoid. Just let things develop and in time you will know for sure that her love is real (and also yours too!). For now, it sounds like you're not very confident in the relationship, which means you need to take more time to get to know her.

Answer 2

I know you find her amazing* , you love her and love being with her, talking with her, listening to her laugh, seeing her smile,..sounds like you have never felt this way about anyone before and feel you can never feel this way about anyone else as no one compares to her...she is everything you've ever wanted and more~....Keep in mind...you've been together for almost a month now..to say I Love You quite often is enough to scare anyone away. I'm not sure how old you both are...but with her not replying back all the time on msn, or txt or in person that she Loves You Too*..tells me you need to simmer down on that. You're right,..it does lose its' meaning if heard over and over again. You have to get over the fear of Losing her because if you don't ...you will end up losing her.
In the long run, she may end up not being the person for you..or you may not be the person for her....but you'll Always cherish her in your heart for the time you are spending together now. So make the most of it...but try not to say You Love Her several times a day...GoodLuck*

Answer 3

A month is a pretty short time to decide that you want a long term relationship. It might be that your exuberance in telling her so often that you love her is a bit overwhelming and she is not so sure about the future of the relationship as you are. But communication is a wonderful thing in relationships. You should talk to her about your concern. Ask her if it bothers her that you tell her you love her so often. Ask her how she feels about you. And ask her if she thinks a long term relationship seems like a possibility to her. You don't mention how old you are, but in any case, if this relationship turns out not to be a lasting one, you can find another girl who will be special to you. It's more important to find someone who loves you too than to find one who seems wonderful but does not love you. Everyone you ever love will have wonderful and special qualities, and they will all be different.

Answer 4

Some girls just don't say that (I can think of 5 or 6 that I talked to just today) Its not to say that they don't love you, they just don't say it. Most girls I know that are like that, you can tell what they mean by facial expression, body language etc... just pay attention. Another really easy way to find out is to just walk up and ask her if she loves you. As long as she isn't insecure, and you don't make yourself look insecure, you should get an honest answer.
(Advice of a sixteen year old male, most likely not an expert on females, but, I hope this helps)

*Edit* don't listen to anyone who says you can't fall in love in a month, as a survivor of foster care, I've learned that a complete stranger can turn into family in about 4 days.

Answer 5

DUDE...... you are scaring her away. You need to chill out! And back off. Let her come to you. First of all, you don't "love" her after only one month. You are in "awe" of her. You can't love her until you actually know each other. People always rush into things way too quickly. She is probably feeling overwhelmed. NO GIRLS like a guy with a tail. You need to let her chase you a little bit, you are making it way too easy for her to walk all over you. Don't be obsessive over her or she will run for her life. I WOULD!! and I have before, if a guy is way too much, then I end up ending it.

Answer 6

Aye. You are young, you aren't in love.. you just really LIKE each other. I'm not an old geezer who doesn't know what I'm talking about, you just don't really know what is going on so this exhilerating feeling seems like 'love' because movies brainwash people into thinking everything is love when many times it's just like or infatuation. You can't really love someone unless you've been with them for at least 6 months.

And not that there is anything wrong with like or infatuation, it's just as fun. Being young, you don't want the added burden of love. Enjoy what you have.

Oh, and don't oversaturate it. One of the easiest ways for a gir lto get scared of a guy is when he keeps saying 'I love you". Take it easy.

Answer 7

Love is also in actions - so watch what she does for you. I think these days 'I love you' has been 'cheapened' because people use it to get themselves out of trouble, or to get there own way etc. I would say she doesn't want to just say it because you have, she wants to say it when she really means it - it doesn't mean she doesn't love you in the meantime, just that she would rather use it as it should be. Keep doing what you are doing, because obviously this is how you express your feelings and that's not wrong. You are doing the right thing.

Answer 8

sounds like you are going way too fast for her and being rather 'needy'. if you spent every day with her that would be 30 times seeing her and i doubt u have been together that much to really know how you both feel. you have to learn the difference between how your hormones make you feel and what true love is, that takes time and really getting to know someone, the good and the bad. just be yourself and slow down a bit. she may feel overwhelmed by your speedy declaration of love. if your constantly chasing her, she has no time to chase you.

Answer 9

hi,
for starters you have only been going out for a month, if your sure you love her that's fine but personally I couldnt tell someone I love them just after a month cause you havent seen all of them yet.

I think you should back off a little bit and not expect her to tell you I'm sure that she will when she's ready + dont push the point by continually telling her you may be making her feel uncomfortable and pressured.

If she really loves you than, you will be fine but if she doesnt beleive me you will find someone i know its hard to think beyond the present but when its true love it sticks

good luck

Answer 10

just relax. She may or may not love you back. She probably isn't sure yet. You should be a little more reserved like her, or you could get hurt. I was like you, although I never said I love you...I was about to the day she broke up with me. Have a serious talk with her.