My parents are mad at me cause I'm an agnostic - What should I do?

Question

They're really mad, and deceived.
They think I'm being tempted by the devil and keep citing verses in my presence. I feel really bad. I feel like an intruder in the family. What should I do?

Answer 1

Tell them that agnosticism doesn't mean you don't believe in God.

It means that you are open minded to the idea of a God but you are not sure.

Answer 2

First ask yourself these question. Why do you consider yourself agnostic? What happened to make you feel that God may not exist? Do you like being agnostic? If you don't like being agnostic, ask your parents to find someone outside of the family that may help you understand God's existence better. Let them know that you are sorry for disappointing them, but this is how you feel and explain why. When you find someone that will try to help you understand God's existence, make sure you are open minded with a good attitude toward the person. If you are still not convinced, at least you can let your parents know that you made a good solid effort and that you will keep looking in hopes of finding God. However, for now, you are simply not convinced one way or the other. If being agnostic tickles your fancy, then tell your parents that you are simply not convinced at this point and you will work out the details in due time. Until then, they need to give you some space. Don't be rude or hateful, just matter-of-factly.I hope this helps.
This is my way of answering.

Answer 3

If your parents feel that they have the right to control what you believe in then they are the ones with the problem and should feel bad, not you. Be proud of yourself for charting your own course and not following the crowd.
Have you spoken to them about how what they say to you makes you feel? If not then start there and ask for a little respect. If you've tried talking with them and nothing has changed then you need to take more drastic steps to convince them that this isn't just some phase you are going through but your life course. If you are over 18 and living on your own then the next time they start their bible thumping just tell them that you don't appreciate it and that you will not see them again until they learn to accept that your beliefs are just that, your beliefs and that they can pray on their own time. If you are under 18 and still living at home then just quietly endure it until you are of age and have more control of your time and money.
Just remember that your parents love you more than you will ever understand and they just want you to be happy and safe. If you keep that at the forefront of your mind then it may be easier to look past their prejudices.
Good luck!

Answer 4

Live and let live. Being agnostic means "not knowing" You don't believe but you don't know either. Right?
Let them get it out of their systems. And don't bring it up just to start a conversation either or you WILL have an argument on your hands. Be agnostic. But keep an open mind. You COULD be wrong. But maybe not.
Also Ask them, Nicely, to pleas respect your beliefs or lack thereof. And return the favor.
My mom is agnostic I am Christian my step dad is an atheist. Boy is that an interesting conversation huh?

Answer 5

I am assuming you are young. At this time in your life, you are trying to find out who you are. If this means being agnostic, your parents need to respect your decision. We all go through stages of finding ourselves. Some find religion and some stray away from it. This is the time where every move we make determines our future. I honestly think if you sat down and spoke to your parents (like adults) and tell them they need to respect your decision and that hounding you like a child does not make the decision any easier. If you approach this subject like an adult, your parents might ease up on you. Remember, your right to choose is something you are born with.

Answer 6

That must be a tough situation for everyone. They may come to accept the fact that you are agnostic, but they may not. When someone truly believes in something, it is sad for them to see someone go on the "wrong" path, at least what they believe to be the wrong path. Just try to be easy going about it. Explain how you feel and don't be angry about it. Really if they want to show you God's love they would just be a good example and try not to shove it down your throat. I hope it all works out for you.

Answer 7

Well first of all as an agnostic (with a tendency not to beat around the bush) I would first suggest you get used to it.
People including friends and family are not going to understand your position or even respect it.
Get used to saying "thank you I respect your beliefs please respect mine"
Choose your own path as someone already mentioned. But choose what feels right to you, not someone else.
As an agnostic be open minded. If they want to spew scripture in your face, listen respectfully but continue on your own path for knowledge.

Answer 8

I'll bet they're not as mad as they are worried. They want very much for you to share their faith; and they worry that, if you don't have it, you'll have trouble avoiding the temptations you're bound to face.

Try not to make this a battle of wills. It's too important an issue to turn into a battlefield between you and your parents. Just remember that they do have your best interest at heart.

Answer 9

I felt your pain friend. i was in the exact same situation when i was younger.
to be honest you just have to balance which you value more, your sense of personal truth or putting the conflict to bed.

if you want my advice, id say just bs your parents a little bit.
religious people are silly and will get all bent out of shape when you try to throw reason at them.
id say just avoid the topic or just lie and tell them they are right and let that be the end of it. its either that or live with the conflict, and that will eat away at you like acid.

trust me, they arent gonna change their minds, so you can either be in a state of disagreement and anger, or you can be practical and let them have your way.

keep the philosophical discussions to your close friends and people who have a like mind as you. i never talk about the subject with my parents cuz i know it will just be like pissing in a beehive.

good luck friend, i hope things settle down for you.

"i am the wisest man alive, for i know only one thing; that i know nothing" ~ Socrates

Answer 10

Pray with them, go to church or where ever your religions worshiping place.
read novels, study hard and get good grades. be nice to every one.do not get angry. simply be cool.
if they think you are agnostic, well take it as a complement. as it is very rare. be proud of your self. as no one else have that power. (just kidding.) those who believe in myths, do not know the real world. they just hang on to anything that anybody else says. forgive them, they will understand you when you grow up and become a good citizen. and they become mature.