God! I'm fat! Help!?

Question

I NEED to lose weight before school starts! Majorly badly. My mom says that I'm very fat, and she refused to take me shopping. I'm so depressed. I'm 5 feet and 5 inches. I weight 133 pounds. My BMI is 22.1. I guess my mom dosen't see it, but I'm very active! You know swimming for four hours at the pool, riding my bike six miles. Am I really THAT fat? I know I SHOULD lose some weight. My mom says she wont take me shopping until I go from a size 5/7 to a size zero.

I'm 15. In case you needed to know.

Answer 1

shut up! Your mom sucks. my BMI is 39. Eat some chocolate!

Answer 2

You are not fat! Maybe a little bigger than the other girls, but no biggie. I think that yoou should work you tail off on money making jobs around the nieghborhood. This way you are getting a work out and you are making money so that you and your friends can go shopping. head to the mall.

If you have a bigger booty,hips, and thighs, than go to Limited Too. They have a lot of things in half sizes so that they are more comfortable. Grab some friends, and have a shoppping spree. Ask them wich tops flatter you body shape , whichever it may be, and just have fun.


It is okay to be a little self concious otherwise you might off as arrogant, but don't let your fear of rejection control your life. If you see a pretty shirt, and you love it, try it on. if it doesn't fit, think of it like this. That shirt was a mere dot in the huge novel of your life. Two years form then you aren't going to remember the shirts that didn't fit, but the ones that you rocked, and looked great in.


If you want to lose weight though, search for some online diet plans, and weight groups that you can join. If you have some bigger than average friends , you can start your skinny group where you pledge to get skinny and not cheat on that diet. You can monitor each others actions, calorie intake, and weight loss. Ask your mom to make healthier meals. If you are only a little hungry, then put that snack back in the cupboard. Find out when you eat most, why you eat most, get out and stay active ( I know you have kudos to you ! Keep it up girl) and play games with your firends.

Losing weight with yolur friends around is much easier. Take it from a survivor. ou can have fun playing volleyball, and doing team sports with your firends, and your having fun so you don't notice that you tired as much. if your mother can't accept you as you are, that's her problem.


If you going to lose ANY weight, don't do it for her . Don't do it for the cute guy next door. Do it for YOU. Lose the first five pounds is the most wonderful fealing in the world. Good Luck, and if the going gets tough, turn to those you trust.

Answer 3

You're mom sounds like a *****.

At that height and weight, you're fine.

Don't go by the BMI you read online, the only way you'll actually know is to have a doctor do the tests for you....Muscle density weighs a lot more than fat does so someone who's 5'5 and 133 might actually be bigger than someone who's 5'5 and 150 if the person who's 150 has a lot of muscle mass. If you're wearing a size 5/7 pants, you're fine.

Don't you see how active you are????? And come on, a size Zero? Are you kidding me? That's not healthy for your height.

Answer 4

That is ridiculous that your Mom is talking to you like that. That is the kind of stuff that makes kids turn in to anorexics and bulemics. Size 5/7 is not a big size at all. I also looked up on a weight chart on this site and it says the normal weight for your height 5' 5" is 112 to 150. You can look at the chart at this site here. http://www.nal.usda.gov/fnic/dga/dga95/weighcht.gif. So it looks to me like you are not overweight at all, but right perfect in the middle. If you do decide to lose a few pounds, make sure that you do a safe program like weight watchers and make sure that you do not lose too much weight as that is unsafe. It is easy and has flexibility as well. But seriously, I do not think that you need to lose any weight at all. Hope all goes well for you and sorry about your Mom treating you that way. That is so wrong how she is treating you and I agree with what a previous poster said, that is mental abuse how she is treating you. First of all, she should not talk down to you like that and make you feel bad. And even if you were overweight, she should never refuse to buy you school clothes because of it. That is ridiculous. She is your mother and it is her job to take care of you, no matter what you weigh. It sounds like she is very controlling and is trying to make you do what she wants, which is wrong. It sounds like you are very healthy, the right weight, and exercise quite a bit. She should be proud that you are in such good health. I am so sorry for how she is treating you and I wish you all the best and hope all works out for you.

Answer 5

Sounds like your mom is being really mean. A size zero is waaay too skinny - like dangerous skinny. A 5/7 is not fat at all! I think you know that. And you can't go from a 5/7 to a zero in one summer. That would be extremely dangerous for your health.

If you are unhappy with the way you look, I'd go on a HEALTHY balanced diet. DON'T DON'T DON'T starve yourself under any circumstances, or take diet pills.

Varying your exercise routine (mixing cardio & weight training and working all your muscles) is the best way to lose weight. It sounds like you are active, so it shouldn't be hard for you to vary your exercise routine. You can easily look up some exercise routines online.

But I don't know, sweetie. The most important thing is that you are happy with yourself. Your mother is being ridiculous. I don't know how old you are, but maybe you can get a part time job and pay for your own clothes if she won't take you shopping. And tell your mother that you are not fat and that she should accept you for who you are.

Answer 6

Your mom is being ridiculous (no offense). Sounds like you are very healthy. Not everyone on this planet is made to be a size zero, and thin does not always equal healthy. I'm really sorry your mom says those things to you...is there any way you can talk to her? Tell her she is hurting your feelings? I don't really know what advice to give, but I can say with certainty that you are not fat.

If you want to tone up a bit, try incorporating a strength training routine a few times a week.

Answer 7

From what you've described, you don't seem to be "fat"... Your BMI is only slightly above average for a woman. I think your mother needs to stop taking unnecessary shots at your self esteem, and might seriously consider some psycho therapy... Do you know how VERY FEW women are healthy, and wear a size zero? Her "conditions" for taking you shopping are absolutely absurd.. If you are being honest with yourself, you seem perfectly healthy, and should just keep doing what you're doing. You're exercising and eating right, that's really all you can do. Save up your own money, and do your own clothes shopping on your own. Most importantly, F*** what your goofy a** mom says.

Answer 8

You mom needs a reality check! Society has a problem with models giving bad signals, but having your mom calling you fat is almost considered emotional abuse. Mom! Shame on you! You have a daughter that is active and healthy and you should be happy. Now a days, people think that being thin is all you need but curvy and having a little extra means you are in great shape. You don't have to lose weight. If you are healthy, no health issues and happy, then stay where you are. No need to go on a flash diet because that my dear, is unhealthy. You are perfect just the way you are!!!!

Answer 9

Call the authorities on your mother, she is mentally abusing you, you need to get away from her. She needs to be locked away from all human beings. I'm not joking, no mother should ever treat their child the way she is treating you. I have an over weight child. It is very difficult to talk to her about her weight. I have to be very careful. As for you, you are not fat. Go to school in the worst clothing you have, and when you get sent to the office, tell the principal or who ever that your mother refuses to buy you clothes because she said you are too fat. You will see how quickly your mother is wrong. I think I would rather be in a foster home than with a mother who was so abusive, she is one step away from physically abusing you. She has problems and she is taking them out on you. Please get some help before she does something really bad that may cause your death. You are too important for her to treat you this way. You probably are prettier than her and she is jealous, Some mothers are weird. If you were my kid I would love you the way you are. You are special the way you are, don't let your mother depress you anymore, she has the problem, not you.

Answer 10

Sweetie, listen to me. I'm 16, 5'3 and around you're weight (my weight tends to vary).
A year or so ago I was 115 or less and very confident. Then, lots of things happened in my life, including the death of my grandpa who I was very close to, that added stress and pain in my life. I ended up gaining around 15-20 pounds.
I'm also a dancer looking into a career on the stage, for me, the weight gain was devastating, I couldn't look in the mirror without being disgusted with myself. I was in a horrible, horrible place in my mind and I became bulimic.
My bulimia went on for several months until I told a friend who told my dance teacher who told my mom and so on. Since then, I have gotten lots of help both mentally and physically including how to get thin the healthy way.
The way you're mom is treating you is not right. Girls your and my age are supposed to be a size 4 or 5 or 6. I could have literally no fat on my hips and not be a size 0.
The important thing for you to remember is to be happy with who you are. Look in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful. It is important to be healthy, and if you truly want to lose weight, you can do so by exercising more and eating less. But please, please don't go overboard. Don't do anything drastic or irrational in order to lose weight. If you do exercise and eat better, then your body will lose the weight it wants to lose, and that's all you can hope for.
If you ever want support feel free to email me. It's horrible to have bad influences (like your mother is being) in your life.

Peace.

Answer 11

wow...your mom is a bad mother, i cant believe she calls you fat, slap ur mom then start goin to the gym. last year when i was 14 (now 16) i weighed 312 and im 6"6 but i went down to 280 in a month and a half. i had a personal trainer, just do 1 hour of cardio every day, i mean EVERYDAY, and work on different sections of ur body once or twice a week, you'll start losing 10 pnds a week like me in no time...oh and change ur diet, and dont eat a big meal after working out cause it reverses everything u did that day.