Is my boyfriend still involved with this chick he slept with when we were broken up?

Question

About 5 months ago I broke up with my boyfriend and two weeks later he told me he slept with a co-worker. He plays softball and she is on his team. He does not want me to go to his games because he says thats his only time away from me. I think its because he doesn't want me to see this girl, but i'm not sure. Is it because she is pretty, because why would he care if I saw this girl? He said I can meet anyone at his work but her. He did admit he has lunch with her sometimes too. I'm moving in with him in about a month in the same city she lives in. I'm with him all the time, but when he is at work and at his games. If he is so over this girl and doesn't care about her why is he so against me meeting her? And why would he tell me he slept with her? Sometimes i'm not sure if he lied about the whole thing. I'm so confused.

Answer 1

Interesting deduction ms. waltson, really brilliant. Now unless I know him well I couldn't tell you weather he lied or not. But lets reason thru this shall we. Lets face this overwelming problem with the whole thing frist, namly him hiding her from you. Now your smart that was a great way to see it, that maybe you'd ruin his ego fix, because he lied about it. But wouldn't it get him some great brownie points to tell you sorry I lied because I was so hurt over losing you? Now ether he isn't very smart (your the better half;) and he doesn't see that as a possiablility so he feels that in the end all you'll see is the stupid lie, but even then he could cover it up by not telling you were he mets up with her, get? He could of pushed the whole thing under the table and you wouldn't even know who it was. Him telling you this much information about it tells me he is telling the truth. Usually when we lie we go all out. So chances are darn good, he did it, or else why make it harder to lie to you by telling you a way that would allow you to caught him lieing. Besides who covers up not cheating? Really? Thats a sad, sad boy there if he did and you should not have anything to do with him anyways. Now lets say he told the truth, now for him to keep her away from you, run a team with her, go to lunch with her, I would be thinking he has a back up plan hunnie, really. Lets just say for the sake of the relationship he has ever reason to introduce you two, but for the sake of another relationship he has no reason for you to met her, understand? It isn't that she'll mess you guys up, no, she did her damage, its that you'll mess her and him up. Scared yet? Also the whole act of sleeping with a co-worker two weeks after a "big break-up" tells me alot about this guys charater. For one he doesn't understand the importance of dividing professional lives, from personal lives which means he doesn't emphsise well enough with other to see how its so important not to screw them or himself over in the arena of livly-hood. Second that he says he needs time away from you....... can you say jerk? I mean really? I've been in love many of times and quite frankly there was plenty of good reasons I couldn't see her as much as I want'd I didn't have to make up new ones..... Also just to anser the main question, you need to understand relationships, THEY DON'T END!!! They just don't words don't end relationships, memory loss is about the only way I believe next to having a nervous breck-down but even then once we gain back our memories all relationships continue. Its just our actions make it seem different then the reality that goes on in our own minds. But being the lame, immature person he has shown himself to be in just the few words you've typed, I say let go of him...... at the very most he isn't in it this time, counting corners on you hunnie and the reasons can only be one thing, your a crutch.