Help will i ever get better!!!!!?

Question

I got divorced about three months ago, and I have been slipping in and out of depression, it seems like I am living one day at a time day by day, I did love her with all my heart and she turned out to be psychotic and really hurt me, is things EVER going to get any better sometimes I just cant see life going on I don’t know what’s wrong with me I am soooooo sad I know I don’t want her back because she was so mean but I cant really see myself with no one else either, and i also turned my life over to god and i have been praying to make me whole again. Sometimes i feel peace and other times i just want to die

Answer 1

You haven't said much about yourself.
Get spiritual counselling (if you are spiritual)
Get psychiatric help if you are not.
Ultimately, only the true God can heal a broken heart.

Answer 2

I too loved my husband sooooooo much! I soon found out he did not love me the same. I have cerebral palsy, and although I am very independent, and I was that way before he married me, he said he was tired of being married to a handicapped Christian.

10 years and two children later, I found myself a single parent. I was devastated and I felt like my life was over. So, I know how you feel.

However, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You just keep praying and keep believing.

Today, I have a handicapped accessible house built by our community Habitat for humanity. My children are both accelerated students in school, happy and healthy. I went back to school at 39 and got a college education.

After subbing for the local school district and freelance writing in the evenings to help pay the bills, I now have one job writing for an Internet marketer. I work at home, have enough to pay my bills, do not have to fight icy roads this winter, and can work from home to be there for my kids.

God has blessed me beyond my imagination, and I have found that life is much better for the three of us than if my ex hadn't asked for a divorce.

At the time, I thought life was over. Today, God has showed me that when one door closes, he will open another if we will just trust him.

You will be okay.

Tina
www.TheInternetBusinessSchool.com

Answer 3

A couple of things you need to get straight in your mind.
1. You are a whole and valuable person on your own. You don't "need" anyone to make you whole. God made you in His image.......He made you whole!
2. You don't slip in and out of depression. You can be in a clinically depressed state and momentarily not feel sad or hopeless. You need to see a reputable physician and be evaluated for depression.
3. You know what is wrong with you. You are very sad because of break-up.
4. Things are better right now! You are not with a person anymore that is going to hurt you.
5. You should seek out activities and people that keep you busy and productive.
6. We all live one day at a time. You will make plans for the future as time goes by- but live in the moment and enjoy it. You are free from a person that hurt you- I consider that a "God thing".

Answer 4

SOME TIME THINGS DONT LOOK GOOD AT FIRST BECAUSE OF THE PAIN BUT PLEASE KEEP PRAYING AND PSALMS 55: 22 DO READ JEHOVAH WANTS US ALL TO DO THIS BUT ALSO MARRIAGE IS SACRED TO GOD.Marriage Under Attack

The attacks on marriage are not new; they go back to the beginning of human history. Qualities and attitudes that developed in our first human parents have led to the marriage crisis we experience today. Adam and Eve sinned when they gave in to selfish cravings, and thus “sin entered into the world.” (Romans 5:12) The historical record of the Bible states that soon after this, “every inclination of the thoughts of [man’s] heart was only bad all the time.”—Genesis 6:5.

Not much has changed since then. Among the corrosive inclinations that plague marriage is the uninhibited pursuit of selfish gratification. Marriage itself might seem an outdated institution, no longer viable in a modern world under the spell of a new morality. And the relaxing of laws that regulate the breakup of a marriage has removed most of the stigma once attached to divorce.

Impatient individuals, who seek quick results and instant gratification, give little or no thought to the consequences of divorce. Lured by seductive promises of freedom and independence, they believe that divorce will lead to happiness.

Others when faced with thornlike problems in their relationship turn to therapists and marriage counselors or to books written by such authorities. Sadly, some modern marriage “experts” have proved more adept at promoting divorce than at defending marriage. “For perhaps the first time in human history,” states the book The Case for Marriage, “marriage as an ideal is under a sustained and surprisingly successful attack. Sometimes the attack is direct and ideological, made by ‘experts’ who believe a lifelong vow of fidelity is unrealistic or oppressive.”

Answer 5

yes, please see a therapist who can prescribe you a medication to help even out the moods as depression of this nature is too hard to deal with by yourself. It is of a chemical nature by now because your body has been robbing from Peter to pay Paul in the Serotonin department and you can't make it up without help. A poster was right. This is a grieving process just as if the person has passed. (the person that you fell in love with is definitely not there anymore ) Keep up the prayer life and try to join in with a group at your church or somewhere too. It will help.

Answer 6

Been there, it will pass. Feels like someone ripped your heart right out of your chest and left a big achy hole there, right? I leaned on close friends a lot for a couple of months.

My wife suggests doing volunteer work to get your mind off of your pain and help others. She found many ideas in the community section of the Sunday paper.

Hang in there.

Answer 7

You need to reach down, grab your boot heels and pull yourself up out of the worry, guilt and whatever else you are letting pull you down.

Yes, things will get better, but don't expect a miracle lightning bolt to come down and solve all you woes.

Start looking ahead at what you want to do and begin to work for it. Living in the past, which is history, is one of the worst things you can do. Yesterday is GONE, today is a gift and you are NOT promised tomorrow. Use the lessons you learned in history as points to help you, NOT pull you down.

You may enjoy grieving and being down right now, but it will eventually put you in the same place as she is.

Get UP, get BUSY, make a LIFE for yourself. Get GOING!!! Pops

Answer 8

" I waited patiently for the Lord; and He inclined unto me, and heard my cry. He brought me up out of an horrible pit, out of the miry clay, and set my feet upon a rock, and established my goings. And He hath put a new song in my mouth, even praise unto our God: many shall see it, and fear, and shall trust in the Lord ( Psalm 40:1-3). John S, God alone can bring you out of this pit you are in and He will turn your mourning into gladness and your depression will have no choice but to flee because God will put a new song in your heart that will never lose its tune if you remain faithful to Him. I believe that you are going to be just fine and overcome.

Answer 9

If this has been going on for three months, it's been given enough time to settle out on its own. Go to your doctor and ask them to refer you to a decent counsellor/therapist, and possibly to prescribe some short-term medication to help stabilize your mood swings. Depression can get a lot worse if left untreated.

I wish you the best of luck.

EDITED TO ADD: The end of a relationship, especially a bad one, can lead to a grieving process similar to that after a death. I highly recommend the book "Life After Loss"; it will help you make sense of the emotions you're going through and will also help you process them so that you can recover. It is available through Amazon.com:

http://www.amazon.com/Life-After-Loss-Personal-Relocation/dp/1555611893

Answer 10

No offense. But even Xians may agree. Wanting someone else to do this for you is your first mistake.

As an atheist (and in the exact same position) I went to therapy (weekly) to deal with it. My Christian wife committed adultery. (Go figure, not a shot at anyone, but ironic nonetheless.)

You need to figure things out, especially if you have kids. If not, don't feel the need to take anyone else with you if you choose to go the other route.

Answer 11

You will get better! You are doing the right things ... now be patient with yourself, keep working on yourself. The positives grow over time and the negatives shrink. (Been there, done that, got great female friends, and am quite happy day-to-day.)