i live with the person still . i cant move out because i dont have a job or a place to stay . its crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
2007-07-08 14:43:56 · 15 answers · asked by candi b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find him someone else, or find yourself someone else.
2007-07-08 14:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by grandizer1980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy answer. You have feelings for them, but they don't have the same feelings for you, and you see them all the time. What you need to do, if you can, is to understand that "love", real "love", is a sharing of emotion, not a fixation or single sided desire (that's called obsession and lust). Imagine what it would feel like if someone "loved" you and you didn't feel the same way about them. If they kept hanging around you, looking at you with those puppydog eyes...well, it would start to creep you out after awhile, wouldn't it? You'd realize that they hurt because you didn't love them, but you'd also wish they'd just go away. Once you understand that, you need to just let go and move on. Any other action on your part will only make it more difficult to get along with them while they're still in the same house/apartment. If it helps, imagine that you found out they were your brother/sister...you'd still care about them, but you wouldn't feel the same way about them anymore...that's what you need to do now. You'll find it easier than you think if you keep that image in your mind. Hope this helps.
2007-07-08 21:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh boy. You gotta move out. First thing - you NEED a job. For financial reasons, obviously, but also to find something to do with yourself so you don't concentrate on the failed relationship. Get a job, then work on moving out. I don't know why you're not working, but you really need to do that first thing. Go out tomorrow and work on finding a job.
2007-07-08 21:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl W 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GET A JOB. MOVE OUT. After that, go to work, save some money, decorate your new place, have friends over, get on with your life.
2007-07-08 21:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry to say but the very first step to getting over someone would be to stay away from them, so you still living together isn't gonna help much.
get a job and a place to stay, to get the process started!
good luck
2007-07-08 21:47:17 · answer #5 · answered by Z 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time will heal all wounds. As for living with him see if you can make arrangements to stay with a friend or family member till you can find a job. Best of Luck
2007-07-08 21:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the first step will be to move out and the you'll be able to move on. if you don't have a job find one, there's always something you can do. It's hard to start again but it's worth it.
Good luck!! be strong!
2007-07-08 21:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by Carolitaz 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you have to get a job (to make money and keep busy) and you NEED to move out, living with your ex won't help you get over him.. especially if he starts bringing girls over to spend the night to make you mad.
2007-07-08 21:47:27 · answer #8 · answered by Blythe 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Best thing to do first is to get a job so you can feel more confidant, for yourself. Then when your ready to move on than you just go for it:) good luck
2007-07-08 22:09:16 · answer #9 · answered by chula 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you really loved them, you never do get over them. I truly loved this one girl, but it never would work out for us. Even though I have a greater love for my girlfriend, I still can't just "hate" the girl that I loved... because I love people with all of my heart. I just realized it wasn't meant to be and carried on.
2007-07-08 21:47:23 · answer #10 · answered by Matt B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its not easy to get over someone you love but with time it will get easier you will move on soon enough. go out with your friends and meet new people.
2007-07-08 21:49:28 · answer #11 · answered by h_stargal 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋