My bridesmaid just broke-up with her boyfriend of 3 years. She told me that she will have another date to bring to the wedding. Should I discourage her from doing this? There will be pictures of them for sure and it might be odd for us. I know wedding etique is that unless they have been together for more than six months you don't have to invite the other party. Or should I just let it go. She is my best friend after all and I feel really bad for her.
2007-07-08 14:12:41 · 23 answers · asked by Peanut 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The wedding is August 11th. She sounded pretty set about bringing someone. It would most certainly be a rebound guy.
2007-07-08 14:19:15 · update #1
If she's your best friend I'd let it go. There are tons of weddings with random dates that are never to be seen again. Or she might not bring anyone.
2007-07-08 14:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Let her bring him. He may be just a rebound guy or he may turn out to be a keeper. You never know. But your friend would have a worse time at your wedding dealing with her newly single status alone than if she brought a date. If you truly feel bad for her, you'll let her new date take the place of her ex-boyfriend and in that way, help her to move on.
2007-07-08 16:09:20 · answer #2 · answered by emmajane06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He isn't going to be in any of the formal pictures that you are taking, so why do you care? Think about how lonely she is feeling right now. She just broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years and her best friend is getting married. Let her bring whoever she wants to the wedding...it isn't going to affect you at all!
2007-07-12 02:52:09 · answer #3 · answered by drruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let her bring someone. I would be afraid that if she was there alone she may be depressed. She was in a long relationship and the wedding may be hard for her, especially if they considered getting married. Even if he is a rebound, he will be someone for her to pair up with, when everyone else does (dances, etc) and if he is a rebound then it probably won't matter to him if there are pics of her and her ex there. You may warn her about that, though, so she isn't caught off guard. Best wishes!
2007-07-09 09:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by LoveWithNoBoundaries 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your hesitation on this, but I think you may need to let her decide on who to bring, if anyone. Maybe she feels the need for a date simply as a supportive figure in light of the break up. In other words, she had planned on her now ex to accompany her, but at this point she feels like she's standing on one leg. Who knows? Regardless, you should support her as her friend. If I were you, however, I would not encourage that this guy be in any wedding party photos. Maybe have someone take some digitals of your friend and her date together, but that's it.
2007-07-08 14:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by Opal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want, let her bring him, but make sure he isn't in any of the formal pictures of the wedding party and their dates.
He's a new, and most likely a rebound, boyfriend. Let her have a pic or two with just her and him. That way if he isn't just a rebound, at least she will have one or two pictures with him beside her.
2007-07-08 14:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let her bring a guest if she wants. However, try to be a good friend to her now, take her out, talk about stuff, you know the drill. You might want to discourage her from bringing a date since he will pretty much be a stranger to everyone at that point. Also, he'll be bored out of his mind, since she won't have time to spend with him due to her duties in the wedding and he won't know anyone else.
2007-07-08 15:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The point of photos is to record the day as it happened, not everyone's love-lives. I went to two weddings right after I got out of a three year relationship and it was all I could do to control my emotions. Since I went alone, I ended up leaving early because it was difficult to pretend to smile for someone else when I was there alone. Let her bring him, get a couple of pictures with just her (since he'll probably be just a rebound) and enjoy your day.
2007-07-08 15:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Let it go fro now. It's your wedding. She may be your best friend, but you have bigger details to tend to. Be her friend and support her in her decision. You don't have to include the new boyfriend in the bridal party pictures so it really shouldn't matter too. much. Again, it's your wedding, your choice. Congrats. and good luck.
2007-07-12 04:32:16 · answer #9 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing you invited her and a guest. You should not tell her who the guest should be. That is very bridezilla behavior. Let her bring someone who she will feel comfortable with. I think it will help people from asking about her ex. Plus she is your friend, Why make her feel bad about coming to your wedding. She might have had dreams and fantasies about marrying her ex and it will be a little hard to watch you fulfill you wedding day when her have died.
2007-07-08 15:18:55 · answer #10 · answered by jewelsthomas 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋