I am a RN and work in a hospital OR with a pompous, arrogant, superficial doctor who continually talks about himself, his toys and his beauty queen wife. I could throw up. How do I reply next time to his bragging? Serious answers only please. I've had it with this pretentious jerk.
2007-07-08 14:04:16 · 6 answers · asked by me 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I've worked with pretentious, pompous docs too. Your best bet is to ignore him. Let him talk. Make sure you aren't stuck in the same OR too often; tell your supervisor you think everyone should have to rotate through his room because he's such a pain to work with. At least he's not throwing instruments at you or swearing at you.
Don't lower yourself; don't jeopardize your job. In reality he isn't doing anything wrong, and his service is probably seen as more valuable than yours when it comes to bringing money into the hospital. Sorry but that's the reality of life. Be glad your life is so good that you don't have to continously look for validation. I would never, ever give him the satisfaction of knowing that I'm listening to him. ;)
2007-07-08 14:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously got a problem. The best way I have found to deal with people like that is to ignore them. Don't get smart with him or call him names around other people, you don't know who is on his side. Just do your job, although it may be hard. I had a boss just like that. He worked the same job in a lumber yard for 26 years. He chewed skoal and spit all over the place. We had a water cooler that he used to take the top off and dip his dirty cup into. He had the shingles once, and when he came back to work he had open sores that bled all over his body. Then he would hand you paperwork with blood on it. The only thing that made it worse was he had two brothers working there as well. They were just as bad. He would give his brother all of the easy work, and anyone on his bad side would get the majority of work. They were from Michigan, and they loved the Michigan Wolverines football team. These guys never spent a second in college. But me, personally, I never took any grief from any of them, I would have stuffed them in a garbage can. But at the same time, I was the best at what I did, and was allowed to get away with certain things.
Don't get involved with that guy unless you have to work with him. Don't let feelings get involved with your work. Go to work with a level head, there are always people out there that are like that guy. If you get really sick of it, look for a new job. There are a million jobs out here for RN's, or anything in health care. Maybe you can transfer to another dept. Whatever you do, don't get in a shouting match with him or say anything to anybody about him. You just can't trust anyone nowadays. The people you think are on your side, usually aren't. His wife is only with him for the money.
2007-07-09 07:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by Stew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that when he talks of these things, they are often a sign of what is important to him.... material things, which perhaps, is all he has. Notice he doesn't speak about friendships, helping others, what he's doing for his mom, etc. All he has is superficial and materialistic. Don't be angry, be sad for him.
2007-07-08 21:41:49 · answer #3 · answered by Dulos 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When your boss goes on a brag fest ask him "What would you like me to say in response to your statements?"
Or you could tell him that "I'm really sorry that you have low self esteem and need validation from me. Here's the number of a good therapist who might be able to help you."
2007-07-08 21:09:43 · answer #4 · answered by csucdartgirl 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
ignore him.
that is the best way
yes, wow.
amazing.
I cannot believe that
lip service this jerk to death and he will stop.
2007-07-08 21:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by Michael M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be glad he's not throwing his beeper at you.
2007-07-08 21:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋