Found some very graphic pictures in my boyfriends phone what should I do? Should I ask him about it?

Question

I haven't seen my boyfriend in a while we had a little setback a few months ago. And the other night I went to go spend the night w/ him and I went downstairs to get a drink his phone rung and it was about 2a.m. I left the phone alone but the person was calling and calling for about an hour straight. I went back downstairs because at this point he was sleep. I looked through his phone and I saw pictures of women privates, one bending over (no underwear), 2 were getting shot in the face(if you know what I mean) and last but not least he had this picture in his phone with his foot actually in the girls a**. that one made me throw up. My boyfriend and I do some kinky s*** but damn. Nothing like the one picture. I shouldn't have went through the phone but if someone is calling his phone 2a.m. If it was important they would have called the house. I'm just really pissed about it. Should I say something or should I hint around it.............we've been 2gether for 6yrs now. I need help.

Answer 1

Normally, I would say you shouldn't have been snooping in the first place if you didn't want to be offended. But nude photos are a little extreme. The photos you describe sound a little too private and scandalous for your boyfriend to be storing them on his phone. If it was porn, who cares...but the fact that these are pictures taken from HIS phone tells you he's been doing some shady sh it behind your back. I would confront him...and dump him. But that's just me.

Answer 2

Okay, so you had an issue a few months ago, after being together for 2 years? And he immediately hooked up with all these women? And took pictures of it too. I'm sorry, but it doesn't sound like he was too worried about getting back together with you. And judging from the pictures you describe, he found some down right skanky women to replace you. Is this the kind of guy you wanted? Do you want to participate in these kinds of activities? If not, do you think he'll accept that? Or will he just find someone else on the side for his little kinky fantasies? If you're going to talk to him about it, start by asking who was so calling so much at 2AM. If he explains it to your satisfaction, it's up to you if you want to go further. If he gets all defensive about that fairly innocent question, then you know he's hiding something.

Answer 3

My sister who is married had this problem, although the photos were not as bad as you described.

What she did was took the photos and taped them to the windows outside her house. That sure got his attention. Whether this worked or not, I don't know.

If this is a one time thing, it may not really be a problem, but you have to confront him. Don't scream or yell at him because he'll probably shut down.

If this a long ongoing thing, you still should confront him. If he says yes that this has been going on for a long time, can you put up with it? If not, break up, and pursue another lover
who feels the same as you about this event. And who has like-minded values.

Answer 4

if you are here then you are bothered by this. If you are bothered then bottling it up will only hurt. Sure he can scream about privacy and trust. But if you are looking for a future, you should know him as well as possible. One thing to remember, his looking at porn does not mean he is unsatisfied with you so dont take it that way. If he is the one who took the pics, then you might have to say goodbye. You didn't say what you are hoping for the future of this relationship. Many guys have porn to interest their friends and be cool. Like I said, if its just a little porn, don't worry about it, but if him looking at porn is something you cant handle (we are all different) then you should act. Good luck with all.

Answer 5

You got your hands on some freaky stuff! First of all, you need to find out if he took those pics. You could ask if he has any female friends that like to take nude pics. If he says "yes" then you've got a good start on getting some answers. If he says "no" you could ask if he collects nude pics, then tell him what you saw on his phone. There's no way around it, you've gotta confront him.

There is one possible solution-that he put pics of the two of you on his phone instead. If he wants to keep the pics he's got, then your guy definitely has some fantasies of other women on his mind.

Answer 6

are these pictures that he has taken? if so then you should really flip out if they are pictures that has has downloaded then there isn't anything to really worry about. all guys like porn it's natural. just talk to him and let him know that it bothers you when he looks at pron all the time and bothers you even more that he takes it with him everywhere he goes. if he throws up the fact that you went through his phone tell him that you couldn't stand the ringing anymore and started to wonder who it was. if you hint around it and he finds out that you were trying to lie to him it will only make another argument and make you distrustful. good luck

Answer 7

IDo you know for ure it was him in the oicture? My boyfriend and his friends send eachother random sex pictures (who knows where they get them). I checked his phone one day and a friend had sent him a picture of some nude girl he just had sex with, I never told him I looked at his phone, I don't want him to stop leaving it around. i will continue to check it out to see if HE is doing anything wrong.
I guess if you weren't together at the time then you can't be too mad. If this was a women calling at 2am and you are together I would be a bit upset at that though.
Damn that pic is gross!

Answer 8

Well the guy likes some really sick sh*t, that is true.
But to say something about it, yes. Confront him about it and see if that is the stuff he likes. Most guys like myself may have a hottie in a bikini, but to go to that extent seems a bit weird. Not only that, since he has a girl (you) why would he have other girls on his phone? On my phone I had a pic of my girl but not anything nasty.

Answer 9

Oh, honey---that does not sound good. Confront him right away. To be perfectly honest with you, if I found those pictures on my husband's phone, there would be no denying that he was sleeping with someone else, and I wouldn't need any more proof.

Answer 10

You have to confront him otherwise it will just eat at you forever. Of course he will be mad and ask why you were snooping. If you want to stay with him, honesty is an important component in a lasting relationship.