OK, so I wanted to get some feedback about this one. When you take a first date out to dinner, how do you handle the check. If you split the bill, you will come off as cheap, yet if you pick up the whole amount she may feel that you are trying to buy more than dinner, and get her to feel she owes you something. What do you think?
Guys: Any tactful ideas?
Ladies: What would you find most impressive?
2007-07-08 12:54:09 · 25 answers · asked by PrinceWilliam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A gentleman never lets a lady pay, and she never "owes" you anything. Gentlemen are gentle men, not johns.
2007-07-08 12:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 9⤊ 1⤋
First date, the guy should pay. It's just a simple matter of chivalry. Even if she offers to pay (Which she will - That's the second test of how cheap you are. If you give in, you are cheap), gently insist upon paying. Inform her that as a gentleman, you would prefer picking up the tab for the first date.
As for me, after the first date, whoever comes up with the plans/makes the date is the one who pays. If I ask him out for a second date, I pay. If he beats me to the punch, he pays. This doesn't work for some people. I know some couples who rotate. I pay this date, you pay next date, then we go dutch. No matter what you decide for the subsequent dates, you MUST pay first.
2007-07-08 13:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by jkelmagic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hie William. Well during on my first date the girl who asked me out for dinner we were having a lot of fun together after the dinner, when the bill comes we had a small quarrel of paying it like i pay no i pay and at last we came to a solution that we both share and pay the bill instead of we fighting like a small kids and so on, so from that day whatever we buy we will share and pay for everything. Try this and hope it might help you........................
ALL THE BEST..........................
2007-07-08 13:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would split the bill with the guy. However, you need to know about the personality of the girl to make that judgement. If you asked her out, then you should probably pay for the date.
2007-07-08 12:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Prince William...
I don't know what I would find most impressive: I don't mind paying for my own dinner when I go out on a date, because I feel like although it IS a nice gesture, I don't think a guy should pay for my dinner unless I'm his wife...(that's just me)...I don't like for someone to feel obligated to do something I can do myself, that's all!
The only thing about that is, my friend, (who happens to be a guy), told me that might make a guy feel like I don't like them or they don't have enough money.....he said it's just something that guys are supposed to do.....?
I guess it's just one of those things....depends on the person....
2007-07-08 13:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jesus is Real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys pay. It's called courtship and nobody owes anyone anything. If a guy expect me to split the bill on the first date, game over.
2007-07-08 12:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you asked her out, you pay the entire bill. i don't really think most girls would think you were trying to buy more than dinner. it's just tradition....but!! if she asked you out, she should pay the bill...it's only tradition because back in the day women didn't work, so they couldn't pay, that's why men paid all the time...and of course times have changed and women have their own money now. Hope this helps.
2007-07-08 12:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by oysterchowder2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely for me this is a organic element if a woman asks a guy to pay for the flaws that she offered on a date. If my lady buddy asked me to then i does not hesitate. Love is an ocean of emotion, and this is surrounded with expenses. fairly right here interior the Philippines, the guy continuously will pay for the fees, truly on a date.
2016-10-01 04:12:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have asked her out and chosen the place and sort of taken the lead with everything then you should take the bill, but if she offers to pay half, you can accept and it will feel fair to her.
It's nice to offer to cover it, but you should never insist if she wants to pay her own way, because then she will think you're trying to be the boss or whatever.
2007-07-08 12:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by Karla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls like it when you BE YOURSELF!!!! If you are trying to act like you r a rich guy and ur not, then the girl will not want a second date. dont split the bill, just pay for the whole thing and then take her out for dessert.
***TIPS*** DONT EVER TALK ABOUT MARRIAGE ON THE FIRST DATE!
2007-07-08 12:58:28 · answer #10 · answered by cece 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well personally...
um...I wouldn't really care...
If the bill is really expensive...which I HIGHLY doubt it will be...since it's the first date...i wouldn't think...he wants more than dinner...
I would think whoa he didn't even make a sound about it...that was sweet.
My suggestion is that when the bill comes::
EITHER___
1) Don't show it to her...as in...don't go balistic if it is a highly priced meal...
2) If she wants to look at the bill...it means she most likely wants to help pay...
BECAUSE believe it or not...the girls feel just as weird when the bill comes as you do...wondering if they should help pay or not...
Do what comes naturally and don't make a big scene...
2007-07-08 13:02:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋